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Can someone be more receptive to pain if they are ill?

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y2nnmk

Ill as in mentally or physically?

Should I jerk about my crush

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I say no because I don't want to feel like I'm disrespecting them

You do you bro.

Only if you won’t feel bad about it because it can ruin your view of them

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Why not? Jerking it is good.

Where do you like to masturbate in public? #LosAngeles

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Do it in traffic on the 10. That’s what I do when I drive.

A lot of states have these particular type of establishments but I've found the called different things in different regions. Two examples are adult arcade, and adult bookstore. Basically this is a sex shop with a viewing room, it's usually a lot of gay men doing whatever they like. I found out unexpectedly what the adult arcade was, went it for drinks and games. Found neither lol

Skip this step and just go straight to jail 💀

How so?? DM if you don't feel comfortable sharing on the comments

What’s a fetish you have that you think people would find more weird than usual?

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Ballbusting

I love hearing people eat, especially chicken, but going to town. Eating the cartilage and all. I have no fucking idea why but hearing people eat like asmr mukbangs always get me Maybe my brain confuses asmr head tingles for hornyness

A jewellery/wristwatch fetish. if she wears a big metal or gold wristwatch and maybe some rings, necklace, (hoop)earrings im on 120%

Stockings, I love when women wear stockings.

I'm into some WEIRD shit and I totally accept that at this point in my life. I cant help what i'm into and if someone can't accept it, thats not my issue. I'm into humiliation/degredation, giving girls enemas, having them wear diapers and sometimes use them (this in no way involves kids which is what trips a lot of people up, it is two consentual adults roleplaying in a way), sticking bananas up their ass, I mean the list goes on. I think it has a lot to do with my fascination for asshole/anal, and I really do sometimes wish I wasn't into the things that I am. It could DEFINITELY be worse. I'm not into kids, fucking dead bodies, vomit/blood, etc. Sometimes we cannot control our urges, and to repress them would be not living your life to the fullest, unless you can somehow turn it off and be content with not doing those things. Ive found partners that were willing to try almost anything after boundries were set and we loved eachother enough. Whatever it is youre into, theres likely someone else also into it. If you ever want to reach out for any more in depth advise or anything, hit me up.

Why do toxic relationships produce the best sex ?

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xxmvg0

It's akin to “Love bombing”, 2 people with equally opposite issues and disorders find each other....when those opposites come together it sets off a passionate explosion releasing all of the toxic mass via sex. The explosion eventually turns into an implosion of equal destruction.

they don't. having the best and the most passionate -and kinky- sex of my life -consistently- in the healthiest safest relationship i've ever been in so far. surely some of my previous relationships that were toxic has a lot of chemistry and good sex but good sex can't even begin to compete with tremendous sex -which requires feeling safe enough to be fully open and vulnerable about your pleasures-, and we also had almost instant attraction/chemistry with my current partner so it's not just something found in toxic relationships.

I’m guessing it’s because the sexual chemistry is the reason you’re still in the relationship in the first place. Unless you mean the sex was ok and then got amazing once the toxicity came out lol. Then I guess it’s the thrill and taboo.

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For the women in here, why does my wife lie about her partner count?

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No idea, but bump as its interesting story

Probably the wrong sub for decent responses here

I would assume it’s because she’s insecure about her hoe phase, and probably thinks you’re going to get mad about it. I don’t know I’m just some random guy online, but the only reason I could see anyone lying about it is because they’re not comfortable with their past, or they’re hiding something that they don’t want you to know about.

There’s a TikTok going around about this very thing! Check it out.

Right, so my wife did the same, and so did I. Shame and regret. We are going back 11 years here. To cut directly to the details, we split for about 4 weeks, at the 3 week mark one of my friends slept with her, I knew second hand, asked him, and he apologised, said he thought we were over, so on…. Anyway, I was pretty hurt, I did want her back, went out drinking and hooked up that very night. I felt pretty shit, really wanted my wife back (well, girlfriend at that stage), and a week later we were. Skip 8 years later we were going through all our partners, I skipped 1, and I knew she also skipped one. I pushed the very event and she admitted in tears about it. I said I always knew and admitted mine. 6 months later out of nowhere she was crying and told me she lied and told me about one more guy. She was so ashamed, she had stopped talking to one of her best friends seemingly out of nowhere when we were dating, and basically she broke off that friendship to hide what she did from me. She put massive effort for years into hiding it, avoiding certain places, the lot. It was shame and regret, she said she loved me, and never understood why she did these things, and she has hated herself for it.

is it wrong to feel unsatisfied with a partner who isnt kinky?

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You guys should do the test online where you go through a list of kinks and choose options such as “never” “open to try” “want to try” etc, then compare answers!:) from there you will know what to try etc

I'm having a similar problem with my wife. I feel like I'm much more adventurous than her. And it makes me feel like I'm forcing her for my own satisfaction. You are not alone.

it's not wrong, it's just a conflict that you two need to decide to be solvable, and then figure out as a team how to solve it if you think it is. feeling anything isn't subject to being right or wrong, it's just a genuine response to how things are versus how you expected/wanted/wished/hoped them to be. as for her becoming less enthusiastic, yes it might be due to not getting her needs met or not being able to communicate what her needs even are if she believes that you already don't like those things, or won't be willing to meet her in the middle. or she might be saying yes to things that she doesn't really wanna do because she wants to avoid conflict but then ends up cultivating resentment. tough situation but kinky or not kinky, the only way to resolve this situation -or even see if it's resolvable- is to be able to have an honest, open conversation about wants and needs and compatibility. and (enthusiastic) consent. she needs to not only understand but also feel that she doesn't need to/have to say yes to stuff she doesn't really care about -it doesn't have to come to that she hates to do those things- (same goes for you ofc). and maybe you two can make a YES! - maybe - NO list in terms of kinks and sexual acts. there are plenty of online worksheets but you can also just grab pen and paper and write stuff down to see what you might have in common interest (even if to varying degrees) and what are hard limits, as well as what are absolute needs. also, have you considered practicing non-monogamy -maybe not even for sex if not all your kinky play is sex-adjacent, but just for certain kinks that you don't share?

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Sounds like your guys wants aren’t aligning. Pitty sex sucks for sure

Where do couples find other secure relationships to indulge in fantasies?

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Following

https://fetlife.com is a good place to start…pretty much anything and everything you can think of has a “tribe” there!

What kind of fantasies? Are y’all trying to open your marriage to a different lifestyle? If so, there are swinger websites to join. Some have membership fees and some don’t. Again, I’m not sure if that’s what you meant but they post about clubs, events and other things relating to the swinger community and lifestyle. You would be surprised how huge the lifestyle is and how many clubs/resorts there are.

Who is your celebrity crush?

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Lindsey Stirling

Natalie Portman, Anne Hathaway.

Haliee Steinfeld

Hilary duff, Anna Kendrick, Kelsey ballerini, as mentioned above Lindsey Stirling is a great choice!! Lzzy hale, Taylor Momsen, Diamante, oh god so many and even not in a celeb way but plenty of insta influencer models to make you drool

What is this kink exactly

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x9lp17

She wants to have a battle with you, get armor and swords and defeat her. But you should just ask her

Maybe a dominant/ submissive thing and maybe some impact play if I was to guess Edit- ask her to do a BDSM test that might help

Hi, person who likes to be physically overpowered (consensually, ofc!) here. I do think it is a variant of CNC (perhaps a consensual-dubcon?), in the way that you have to discuss it beforehand and you can’t just spring it onto someone because that’s a crime. For me part of it definitely comes from my former trauma (attempted rape), but other components come from my enjoyment of other stuff: power play, power exchange, restraints, et cetera. If you want to impress her, you have to learn what “defeat” means to her. To me, I’m personally interpreting it as “overpowered.” You could ask to hold one or both of her wrists down, or ask to corner her before doing anything. But her interpretation may be completely different from mine and she might hate those ideas. Though at the same time… if she can’t verbalize what she wants she’s probably not ready to engage in it imo. I wouldn’t personally be able to trust that she can safeword out if she feels actually threatened.

"if you know you know" is a red flag that she's not ready to play with this kink. Communication is vital for any kind of power play (any sex at all, really, but especially when these kinds of kinks are involved). You simply cannot request that someone read your mind, as hot as that might be. It's not safe.

Ok so I’m a bratty sub and I get this. Does she like to tease you? Push your buttons, cause “problems” on purpose. It could just be she wants to be “tamed” (she won’t even become tame, but she likes the back and forth, the dynamic). Buuut usually bratty subs would us the term tame instead of defeat because a brat’s dom/domme is usually considered a “brat tamer.” The thing that came to mind more was “primal” … but I think you would know if she was a primal by now? A primal is someone who enjoys the idea of becoming animalistic, hunter versus hunted, with their partner. It can look any number of ways… but like… does she encourage you to literally chase her and try to get her? Does she want that to turn into sex? Is she into biting?

What acts or deeds appeal to submissive men

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For me (33m), im mostly attracted to older assertive women. Im switch in the bedroom but older women even when they tend to be submissive exude dominance in bed. My favorite are the women that use me for their pleasure, tell me what they want and when they are sated, turn their focus on pleasuring me in many various ways which ever way they see fit, until they are ready for another round. When a woman talks to/instructs me while in the act of..going down on her, or inside of her for example, is completely arousing for me.

Female here but My guy is pretty sub. He loves the usual stuff; holding his hands down while on top, being tied up. But also really like when I either give him instructions, almost like a JOI but for what he should be doing to me or instructions like-dont move your arms out from behind your back and if he does move, then when im semi forcefully putting them back. Maybe try playing around with the instructions idea. Add time limits too. Or just be totally in control by setting everything up from the scene to where your gonna do it and how you want him to dress, being tied up or not. All those are ways to be more incontrol that he likes. Oh also ice cubes with a blind fold on and he can't touch you while you surprise him with where you run the cube over. That one he liked alot. 😆

making me wear a chastity cage in women's underwear. maybe go for dinner with a friend while wearing it. come home and having to ruin it in the underwear after a few days without release and eat it up from the underwear. maybe have to slap my balls a few times... these are kind of standard but happy to get into more...

Touching all over, diminutive comments, condescension, removal of my clothing at any time, embarrassing petnames!, praise, spanking, bondage, cnc, free use, exhibitionism, outfit control, sph as long as it's sweet, "Where do you think you're going little boy?" "My friends and I are bored. Take your little cock out for us~" "You are never going to live this down, so try to enjoy it. Wiggle that ass for us!" "Stop crying, you'll ruin the pictures." "Be a good little cock. Turn around, pull them down, stick it out. Time to drain you little nutsack." Oh and sadism... Hope that helps :)

The realm of the unknown is always exciting. When you really don't know what's going to happen next. Even if its something you done before change the routine. Blindfolds, facing the wall, forced just to wait long periods while tied up or on the bench. However most of all I love to please. Nothing turns me on more than your excitement whatever you are doing. Moan, make noises, talk to me, let me know how much my submission turns you on. Give me orders make me obey, coach me when its difficult, praise me when I do well. Make your sub keep a journal that they will allow you to read. Learn your sub get into their mind and take over.

To those of you who get upset when people decide that they don't want any kids, why?

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jw4uau

I want to know this too

Maybe it's because women who can't have children of their own think that women who can and just don't want children are wasting their eggs or whatever.

We need more children to abduct

I honestly don't have a problem with people who don't want kids. There's just some of those people who then judge others who want a lot of kids.

If you don't want kids you should not have kids.

Fingering to loosen up?

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r/sex is a better place for this kind of questions

Yes, after a certain amount of stimulation the internal anal sphincter (controlled sub-consciously but can be controlled with practice) will start to loosen up and allow passage. This might not happen on the first try. The initial penetration isnt the part thats going to hurt, its the brain telling the internal one to stay closed because you dont have to shit, and something still being forced through it. Start with a knuckle deep, going in and out, it will feel like you are taking/about to take a shit, so make sure to eat right and clean out before hand.

yes it will, also if you make her cum before it will make it even easier

A girl should have a orgasm or 2 first before doing anal. That will make things super easy for anal to happen then.

Yes fingering first to warm up is a good idea!

Is it normal that I find reading gets me off better than watching porn?

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I prefer erotica to any porn

Totally normal! I find porn poor these days, if I wanna find anything specific I only get amateur with no faces and no backstory; "Girl gets boinked by her neighbor" but there's just the intercourse. Screw that! I'll rather read a short story with a great backstory.

I don’t like porn and recently began writing erotica. It does a lot for me and the people who read it say they like it too

Mainstream porn is garbage, but there is still some good amateur content out there. Having said that, I have been reading a lot more erotica in the last few years. Sets my imagination on fire. So, if you're not normal, I guess I'm not either.

I (F21) can cum in my sleep whenever I have a dream that turns slightly sexual… do other women experience this too??

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Sounds suspect!

Yes! Bonus orgasms with no effort 💁‍♀️

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I have orgasmic dreams. I wake up to me Cumming. it's not happening quite often enough though.

I wish! I orgasm so easily in real life, I don’t get why it doesn’t translate to dreams!

Why is body shaming for a small penis so acceptable?

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If is helps, I hate penis shaming even when the person with the penis is a jerk. All body shaming is out of line. The way I look at it (but don’t usually say out loud, but am in this case because it’s part of the topic) is that the person insulting average or smaller penises is overcompensating because their genitals aren’t “tight” so they need something big for it to feel like it is. They tell on themselves, basically. “He has a small penis!” … are you sure about that? hmmm… edit: another weird thing that’s hypocritical, a few years ago playtex released a new slim fit tampon and a lot of us were excited to have a more comfortable tampon. But at the same time I saw a lot of angry tweets from some women complaining that these new tampons made them feel like their vagina size was being judged. It was weird as hell that they were so mad about it.

because if you complain about it, it is assumed you have a small penis.

Hmmm, most of the time I hear it used, it's not actually a reference to their penis. It's about the person's ego and how they use stuff or treat others to boost their own ego. If you're not a shitty person, I wouldn't take it personally. (i.e. if the shoe fits,...) We have a lot of sayings/euphemisms/whatever that aren't literal. There would be a difference if your girlfriend made a post calling you out about having a small penis. *That* would be body-shaming.

Its not acceptable, but its not going away anytime soon. I caught hell all through school, and even later in gyms. Even on swim team, Im nothing to look at in a Speedo. Joke is on them though. The first girl I woke up with was blown away! She learned the difference between Showers and Growers that morning.

As someone that is now experiencing penis srinking I'm totally overjoyed at my loss of inches and girth. I've never understood small penis shaming. I honestly admire a small penis compared to a average or large penis.

People with open relationships, how do you not get jealous of your partner messing with someone else?

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Great question! We don’t have an open relationship but I feel like what I’m about to explain qualifies as an answer to your question. I am 45M and she is 42F. We’ve both been married and divorced. We’ve both had plenty of partners in the past and we’ve been together for three years. I will give you the best example I can to answer your question. A few months into our relationship we realized that we had something very special. We both felt safe, secure, and confident speaking our minds and being honest. The idea of having a threesome with my partner and another man was not some thing that I ever found intriguing in the least. I never fantasized about it, nor did I find it sexy or hot. One day that all changed. We were having an open and honest conversation about sexual fantasies. She almost broke down crying (happy tears), because she told me this: “ for my entire adult life I’ve always had this fantasy of being pleased by two men just worshiping and adoring my body. If I would have mentioned this to my last boyfriend or my ex-husband they would have judged me, called me all kinds of names, made me feel guilty or that something was wrong with me. Just the fact that I can tell you this secret that I’ve held onto for so many years shows mean how safe and secure I feel with you and how much I trust you and love you.“ I had some questions lol. I wanted to understand it more. We talked about it a few different times. And I never made her feel uncomfortable or that there was anything wrong with having a fantasy… Because there is not! And then, A feeling came over me that I had never felt before. The idea of sharing my partner with another guy didn’t really affect me one way or another. Knowing that I have an opportunity to fulfill her lifelong fantasy that she never felt safe enough to share with anyone else suddenly became the most attractive, sexy, and intriguing idea I had ever considered! So I started researching. I had no experience in this so I treated it like I was an employer interviewing people lol. I must’ve spoke to 50 different guys…. Eventually I found someone I was comfortable with. He didn’t just say the right things, I believed he meant them. While there is always some selfish intent that goes along with the filling a fantasy (it’s something YOU want), this guy’s fantasy was to make a woman’s dreams and fantasies come true! So I met with him and he was cool and we got along. And then… It was time! You can talk about it all you want, but until you experience it you don’t know how you will react. I was worried that I might get jealous and ruin this moment that she had waited for her whole life. But she told me one thing before we went in to the hotel room. “There is nothing that would upset me more than to find out that you were uncomfortable and wanted to stop and didn’t because you thought it would upset me. To do that would mean that our relationship isn’t what we say it is. I am going to trust you and act in the moment and I expect you to let me know if everything is OK or not.” What happened next to something I will never forget. I’m not gonna get into all of the illicit details, but a few minutes in her eyes met mine. We were both way beyond “comfortable“ and “ok”. We were a team and we were having a blast together! I don’t know how else to put it other than, it wasn’t watching my partner have sex with another guy. It was my partner and I experiencing something adventurous and scary that we were only able to do because we were together as a team! We gave each other the strength to step out of our comfort zone and explore and try something new. It’s funny because whenever I bring that story up, she doesn’t remember the guys name or hardly anything about him lol. She just remembers how she was overcome with love for me and how impressed she was that I was able to put her desires above any insecurities I may have held onto for decades. Afterwards I asked her if she was ready to do it again sometime. She said maybe one day, but she was so in love with me in that moment that that wasn’t on her mind anymore. I can honestly say that that moment brought us even closer than we already were. It made us stronger together and I’m so happy I took a chance like that. At the end of the day, she’s not a possession of mine. She’s a human being and if some thing as trivial as having sex with somebody we’re never going to see you again is capable of tearing apart your relationship, how strong is your relationship really? And please don’t judge me for saying that. It’s just my feelings and I’m not saying that I am right and people who disagree with me are wrong. I can only speak for my experience and the effect it had on our relationship.

Sometimes you do get jealous. It is about managing those feelings and not letting them get in the way of the separate relationship you share with your partner. Clear communication and honesty is really important. It is helpful to be good with time management. It turns out people can love more than one person at the same time and it doesn't dimish the relationship you share with your partner. Some people have a lot of love to give. Others just find comfort in connection. Some are just super horny or extra kinky and have mismatched libidos. Finally, sex is just sex. It doesn't need to involve an intimate emotional connection and can still fulfill certain needs. Plus, it's super cool to open a relationship and be the one to get all the leftovers when they come home. 👍

I support my wife having FWB because of our age difference. It works great for us.

What do you younger girls like about older guys?

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The wisdom and confidence A lot of girls have anxiety and they prefer to have a leading hand guide them to a good time. Young guys don't typically have the social perception skills to do this gracefully Additionally, older guys (may be) financially and professionally successful, which is instant panty remover.

Older guys are the only ones who both buy me flowers and know how to properly treat me in bed so 🤷🏾‍♀️ Seriously though, I've always appreciated that greater life experience and maturity. While it is harder to find an older guy who isn't wrapped up in bitterness or outdated mentalities, the ones who've remained flexible throughout the years make wonderful partners both in and out of bed. They know how to make me feel special and respected. All the little things I do are appreciated. And sex is exciting and adventurous without even putting kink into the mix. It's the whole package.

Their maturity (usually), their dominance/presence, ability to speak about what they want, sexual experience/openness, they’re not afraid to be physical.

Sign me up for the older guys. Especially if they’re stable!

Older guys generally have a better grasp on life and are more stable

Anyone else sick of being addicted to porn?

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rds5m4

I ain't addicted to porn. I am addicted to Masturbation. Which has negative impact on my life. However masturbation is the only thing that makes me happy. So I love it.

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Started at 6? What kind of childhood did you have! I didn’t start watching porn until I was 11 or 12!

Check out r/nofap

What is a kink you want to try with your SO but you're too afraid to ask?

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Watching her get fucked by another man

I didn't know I'd be into it until he asked! And now, we are swingers!

Pee stuff

I’ve never really asked it but I would like to see my gf masturbate in the shower while I do to

The only reason I’m afraid to ask is it’s hard to find people who also like it haha :(

Is it socially acceptable to masterbate to all these NSFW posts?

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Absolutely

Idk but I’ve done it lol

People masturbate to far weirder shit than some n00ds r/rule34

It's only questionable if you're at work (questioning with a smile though) 😉

I thought that's why we all were here. For primo spank material

my mom is jealous of me?

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Sorry. It all sounds so uncomfortable for you. No advice here. Just take care of yourself.

Um I don’t think that’s normal physical activities of a daughter towards a father. Sounds like you have stepped into your moms shoes for intimacy for your dad. Honestly it’s hard sometimes to see things with your parents.. a normal lifestyle vs and if they never say anything. Did your dad get hard or squeamish when you sad on him like that.. Physical appearance change? Sounds like your mom has jealousy.. how is their relationship? A dead bedroom ?

I think it’s very odd and disturbing to be a grown woman or teen and sitting on your dad’s lap giving him face to face Koala hugs with your legs around him. I can’t even believe that’s real. If I saw my teenage daughter doing that with my husband, her father, I’d be incredibly disturbed and want a divorce. I can’t even begin to imagine getting in that position with my own father. You need to find some friends or a boyfriend and stop being dependent on your dad for affection and companionship. Im not trying to be harsh, but if this is real, which I kind of doubt, you need to know that’s not normal behavior.

Mom sounds like a pretty sad person tbh

I send nudes soft myself to strangers because I crave validation. Anyone else send constantly? Like why do we do this?

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Dm me if you want to talk.

Generally, women dont like getting pics of naked guys.

i feel that no funny dm if u wanna talk more

I like sending my sex tapes to strangers we could trade on kik

Hello stranger 😏🖤😈

Why do you want to live?

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Life is so incredibly useless and pointless, you can do with it what you want and I love that.

You good bro?

To outperform myself

Basically just achievement hunting.

Hoping to achieve something before I die! Artistically maybe!…..or just enjoy myself!

Women who go commando?

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Convenient

I fucking hate wearing underwear for many reasons.All underwear no matter what kind are pretty uncomfortable and I hate having panty lines show on things like yoga pants or booty shorts. I don’t like the way it looks and I hate the way it feels. Also, sometimes wearing underwear can make a lot of women produce unwanted odors and some materials are just not good for the health of your Yoni. The only time I enjoy wearing panties and find it worthwhile is for the purpose of having someone I’m into take them off! That does something for me. If not for that I probably wouldn’t even own a pair. Lol!

Ready and convenient

I love what this thread has evolved into.

In this heat, with a mid length skirt on, I go commando. It’s very freeing and cools me down.

Why are you horny right now?

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Cause that’s my secret Cap… I’m always horny

I just fapped in the work toilets

I'm always horny

Not had a fuck for nearly a year. So yeah, definitely horny

Just ate dinner, definitely not horny atm, fostering a food baby

Is it okay to ask for consent multiple times or is it too repetitive?

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Just phrase it differently when you repeat yourself. Boring: "Can I pull your hair?" "Can I pull your hair again?" "Is it still okay if I pull your hair?" Better (depending on the mood): "Are you okay with me pulling your hair?" "You liked it when I did that, didn't you? Want me to do it again? Beg." "Had enough yet?"

You should check in on your partner consistently and ask for consent any time you want to do something new (unless you guys know each other well enough where verbal consent isn't needed). Figure out a frequency that works well for you + your partner, even if that frequency just ends up being once before starting and nothing else.

Would break the mood for me

It is always a good idea to check in.

See I’ve been having sex with the same partner for like a few months now and we’ve gotten to a point where we can tell if the other is into it and we never really verbalize it

Women of Reddit, does sending nudes turn you on? Or is it purely to make your partner happy?

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Turns me on when he sends me a pic of his hard dick in return. Makes me feel special and hot.

I love sending nudes. Makes me feel sexy. Especially while my hubby is away, it makes the day have a slow, burning desire until the night time comes.

both I get turned on knowing he is seeing it thinking of having sex with me etc. I also really enjoy sending them regardless of my mood when I know he is having a rough day.

It turns me on and makes me feel sexier when he praises me. And the voice notes just act as a cherry on the cake.

I enjoy it. I like the challenge as well as the positive responses.

How do you dirty talk while sex with your partner?

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It varies based on the woman. Some women like to be praised (e.g “your pussy feels so good squeezing my cock”), some like to be degraded (e.g “take it like the little cock-hungry slut you are”) and some like a mixture (eg “you’re such a good little slut, taking my cock all the way like this)”. It’s fine asking beforehand which one she enjoys most, but I quite like to try them out and go off of her reactions

It can very from type in my case at least.

Penis shaming, partner shaming, cuck. Many forms

Having a partner say they masturbate to the thought of you/your pictures and vice versa is such a turn on

Do women actually enjoy giving blowjobs?

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Myself personally I love giving a blowjob. But if you’re gonna take 30-45 mins to cum, my mouth starts to hurt and I get impatient and hop on it 🤷🏽‍♀️ like you make your mouth into an O shape and hold it there for 30 mins and you tell me what you think? 😅🤣 That’s just me personally.

i really do, there's something to it, giving someone so much pleasure, and if they finish in my mouth it's a great bonus

I love it, but after 10 minutes I’m hopping on too 🤣

To each their own, I personally do but doesnt mean everyone does.

I really love giving blowjobs. It really helps me enjoy it since my partner and I share such a strong connection and are equally giving. Just centered on blowjobs, I specifically really like feeling his thighs tense up when he’s getting close and the hardness of his dick twitching in my mouth. I especially love after he cums, he just holds me against his chest and we just sit and exist with each other. It makes me feel so loved and appreciated!

Hubby and I want to do a threesome. Would be MMF or MFM. What are your tips and tricks for an enjoyable time?

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Vet the other person well. Me and my ex used to have them regularly with no problem, everyone was real mature and our relationship was thriving. Until the last girl kind of fell in love with him. Stalked him on instagram, blew up his DM, sent him love letters begging him to leave me. He noped his way out of that and showed me everything. So obviously we’re like okay, never again with this girl. Both blocked her on everything… then she faked a pregnancy. Blamed the hormones for her psychotic behavior and finessed the lie down to fake sonograms. She sent him this, he got up, put the phone on the bed, went in the bathroom and cried for an hour. She keeps this up for a few weeks, he wasn’t responding to her, she started blowing my phone up. Then finally her sister hits me up and tells me she’s lying and to ignore her till she tires herself out. Didn’t kill the relationship but temporally destroyed him. Never had a threesome again. 🤦🏼‍♀️ vetting isn’t only making sure there’s no stds, it’s hoping and praying they’re not fucking insane.

Set rules and boundaries. Have an honest discussion of what would make you feel comfortable (kissing, anal) whatever it is. The key is to both have set boundaries of what your expectations are. And communicate that with whoever is coming into the mix. That way you aren’t worrying about those things during the actual act and just enjoying. A good bull/unicorn will respect those boundaries. Also….watch for the warning signs of who you bring into the bedroom. Guys will say anything to get laid. Always remember that YOU as the couple hold the upper hand. They are there to please you.

Give it some good hard thought before you move forward. Set your ground rules WELL ahead of time. Make sure everyone understands that no means no. At any point in the game. A lot of the time there are jealousy issues that will come up, and it can ruin an otherwise good relationship. But if you can stick to good rules and everyone understands it, have fun! To answer your question, it is FFM for me - which is the worst kind of threesome, IMO!

I enjoyed being the third! Rules were clear, that I wear a condom at all times. We knew each other well, and did pretty much every conceivable combination possible. Would I do it again? Absofuckinloutely!

Be prepared to end the marriage.

Do you have sexual fantasies when you sleep, if so what are they?

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It mostly involves Jensen Ackles or Jared Padalecki!

I once had a wet dream about Naruto, I mean I wasn’t.. disappointed?

Yes.. making babysitter cum

Yes, of course. Don’t we all? The range of topics vary wildly, sometimes in the same dream.

Usually of cute co workers. I wake up dripping pre cum.

How to function in life when you have a high sex drive

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Masturbate

There are cheap VR headsets on Amazon. Maybe you can watch porn that way for a better experience, but it can get very addicting so be careful.

It’s definitely pretty hard as a dad who is on a once maybe twice a month cycle of intimacy with my wife. 🤷🏻‍♂️😑😩I honestly have developed less of an urge over the last 6 to 8 months and am on a once maybe twice a week release which is usually by myself. I started posting on Reddit on NFSW subs and have been enjoying the comments that I get and that does help the urge

Kill people. It helps.

Have you ever peed outside? Where is the weirdest place you’ve ever peed?

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I grew up in the woods, so I peed outside constantly. You don’t even have to aim… I spent a lot of time on boats, you pee off the side of them all the time. I went to college in a city, it’s gross, but you drunk pee outside there too. Probably my favorite place was peeing off a huge, famous bridge? I’m a bike commuter, it happens and you can be in places devoid of other quite easily. Depending on the hour and season, any of NYC east river bridges can work if you are desperate. Again, it’s gross and not cool… OP, how have you not peed outside, I find that fascinating!!

In a church yard at night.

When I was in my early twenties, me and about four other guys were bar-hopping in the city (NYC). We had a designated driver who didn't drink. At one point, we had him pull over so we could get out and pee. A few seconds later a cop car showed up and had their flashlights on us peeing against a building. After they saw what we were doing, they just drove off.

Weirdest place was on a couch in an abandoned apt building while the girlfriend at the time used my member like a joystick and pointed the stream every which way as it arched almost across the room. She did things like that often

I always pee outside. Sometimes when in the house I'll go outside and pee off of the deck. Or course I live in the country with no neighbors.

How did you know you were into your kink?

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Lots of hentai at a young age

I read de Sade ages ago. It felt weird, but not appalling. Then last year, I talked to a slave who told me about his M/s marriage. I was fascinated.

Porn. Having open discussions with others.

I am a bull for cuckolds and hotwives. I was in my freshman year of college, and I was at a party that a girl from class had invited me to. She introduced me to her bf, and commented on my height just as his gf kneeled to pickup a pong ball. I commented "yeah, it helps so girls don't have to kneel as much" and jokingly put my hand on the back of her head. She giggled, and he was very obviously not amused but didn't say anything. As she stood, she commented that my height was a big difference compared to her bf. I instantly got hard, but because of the truly defeated look on his face, not her.

I was browsing porn sites and got some odd recommendations, now I have a piss kink

For those who do, why do you like showering with your significant other?

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Feels intimate but not in a purely sexual way. It’s nice to care for them. (Also titties be fun to play with lol)

I love washing him and feeling him up but it's also nurturing and not just sex related. Taking care of him is my love language.

Tittles

It’s just fun. It’s intimate and sexy but in a really playful way. It’s also really hot to wash each other, although someone is always standing with the water blasting them in the face. It’s usually pretty clumsy and hilarious, not hot and steamy like they make it out to be in the movies. But it’s really fun!

It’s just a pleasant experience. We’re both cleaning off the day at the same time.

Does the size of a man's penis really matter?

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I'm for performance. ❤️Too big can hurt and someone with the perfect size for me with a 30sec performance is also not what i look for. 😅 I appreciate it more when the guy knows how to do proper foreplay and knows how to go down on me.

I, personally, have a tight vag. My fiancé has an average sized penis about 5-6inches. Every time we have sex, it rips my vag and it hurts for a couple days after. Which sucks, because I’d like to have sex with him more often but it hurt afterwards. Every vag is different and I am extremely pleased with my mans size. If it were up to me, it wouldn’t be as wide. But either way I think he has the most beautiful penis in the world. Any bigger and we would never have sex.

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Nah it's the Vagina Size/Tightness that seals the deal

Now for the prick who posted this poll. Aaron I hate you!

How can I stop the intrusive porn thoughts, this is causing me immense pain.

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Stop watching porn entirely. Find a consistent routine. You got this

Exercise helps for awhile. Need some kind of distraction to keep your mind busy.

Do mindfulness training, it really helps!

You have to quit cold turkey for a while, even not masturbate. Its gna be hard af lol but itll get better

Best friends?

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As long as you both are on the same page, go for it. Im guessing the “science” will take several sessions to sort out. There is a reason for the term FRIENDS with benefits. It will change your friendship, and hopefully for the better. Just beware, it can go sideways really fast, if both of you are not 100% in a clear agreement.

I’m married to my best friend so I say give it a shot

I've hooked up with my best friend and we're still mates 🥰

That barely ever works. He most likely will catch feelings for you, especially if you have sex regularly. That's literally how oxytocin works and what it's for. If him catching feelings and eventually wanting a relationship with you is a deal breaker, don't do it.

Do you both have a good record of being able to just hook up without catching feelings? If so go for it. But be prepared to reject or be rejected if one of you catch felines

how did your trauma influenced you?

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I'm scared of being close to women and touching them (without it being sexual)

I hate being touched. I don’t date blonde males with blue eyes. I hate facial hair. But I have learned to accept my husbands. Unfortunately for me, while I grew to enjoy sex. I hated foreplay. I allowed my self to basically be used. It took years for my now husband to work around most of that. I still hate certain foreplays but I’m learning to enjoy being just touched for anything. I finally had my first leg shaking orgasms at 29 years old. And now at 36 I’m finally exploring my sexuality.

Do you ask your partners before sending nudes?

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I don’t send them, I just show her on my phone.

At the beginning yes, now I'm comfortable he'd never refuse, I just give him a heads up/overtly flirty message just before it, so he knows not to open in public xD

Yes. If you aren't well-acquainted, always ask. If you are and have cleared it with your partner, then you *typically* won't have to ask

Nope

Yes. But we are so far along, I don't need to ask everytime

Fetishes?

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Ass

Only pertaining to woman I have an armpit fetish, shaved or hairy and i love a natural smell, the muskier the better

Face licking! It's a more obscure fetish, but really fun and sensual!

cum >~< something about it just makes me go crazy lol

Watersports

Massage Guns as vibrators?

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Those things would bruise the shit outta a person. A personal vibrator is completely different from a giant massage gun.

I’m sure most women have used them prior to owning a vibrator. That or anything that vibrates. Like a toothbrush even. Curiosity to try it out gets you there!

Directly on my pussy no as it's to rough. I will use the massagers hitting on my hand while I finger myself causing my fingers to vibrate etc.

The ones that you can adjust the intensity work well

I use my massage gum frequently. It feels great on high under the head of my cock. It vibrates really hard and once I reach orgasm it absolutely blows my mind.

why am I not…motivated?

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Try talking to some other gym people and build a relationship that promotes support in one another. Then you can both boast about gains

I MASTURBATE WHEN I WANT TO STUDY/WRITE EXAMS. Am I abnormal or something?

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Sounds normal to me. I'm 23M and just starting to write my PhD thesis. It happened to me while I was doing my degree... still happens when I do particularly boring PhD stuff like reading the literature. I think it's just a place the mind wonders to when you are bored, or stressed, or both.

I’m literally exactly the same way, there’s nothing abnormal about it. My mind just tends to wander off while I’m trying to study and I’m sure it’s similar for you

I used to masturbate before exams or big games back in school too. Always eased my mind and helped me focus on the task ahead.. If that's not normal then I guess I'm in the same boat as you.

No, i masturbated a ton whilst studying for exams during my degree. Seems to have worked since i am now doing a phd.

i feel like my body does the most to procrastinate. i swear im looking at my notes and then my hand is in my shorts. then you're like, "might as well finish" and get off real quick. its a vicious cycle but im sure its common.

How often do you watch porn?

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Not enough and to much.

I _want_ to watch it all day every day. But I actually watch it once every 3 or 4 months.

usually when im alone, but i only jerk off to it at night, mostly

Almost everyday...;P

I'm. Divorced single dad 38 and I watch it almost everyday. I have a very high libido and a huge cock that needs release often. It doesn't help that my kids 18 year old babysitter is hot and wears skimpy clothes. She gets me so worked up that I always end up watching porn when she vomes over to watch the kids. I will jerk off before I leave for work. I wstch babysitter creampie compilations and the thought that she is in the next room as I'm edging away makes me blast hard. I usually cum on a mirror and leave my door open when I leave. I know she's a snoop and I wonder how many times she gone into my room and seen a huge fresh load of cum all over the mirror amd floor? I wanna fuck her pussy so bad. I love porn and it's seriously the only thing that keeps me from propositioning her. I bet my cock would just melt in that sitter pussy.

Ever felt horny but didn't want to look at porn?

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All the time it’s boring now honestly

That’s why I try and talk to people on here.

Yes. Sometimes (maybe most of the time) it’s great just to feel the feeling of hornieness for a while without the quick satisfaction of intense visual stimulation. Plus a lot of the time the written word is better.

My girlfriend says it's recommended women don't use soap down there...so she doesn't....

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General Question

Excellent article which breaks down the vulva into its parts and explains vaginal vs vulvar care [here](https://www.menstrual-matters.com/washing/). NEVER wash the vagina. NEVER get soap near the opening the vagina. DO wash your vulva. DO wash your perineum and anus. What kind of soap is acceptable? A mild PH balanced soap free of perfumes, parabens and dyes. Like [this](https://images.heb.com/is/image/HEBGrocery/000993527), [this](https://images.heb.com/is/image/HEBGrocery/002821557?fit=constrain,1&wid=800&hei=800&fmt=jpg&qlt=85,0&resMode=sharp2&op_usm=1.75,0.3,2,0) or [this](https://pics.walgreens.com/prodimg/578493/450.jpg). If you’re on the go wipes like [these](https://pics.walgreens.com/prodimg/616387/450.jpg) can be used. Signs of an infection. A vagina that is suffering a PH imbalance due to a yeast infection will have a thick creamy, tangy, unpleasant taste and have a sickly sweet or sour smell due to the yeast. Kind of like fermentation or raw dough. A vagina that is suffering a PH imbalance due to a Bacterial Infection will taste unpleasant with a strong metallic/fishy, unpleasant odor. Both yeast and bacterial infections are normal and due only to an imbalance in the vaginal flora. Yeast needs to be treated with an anti fungal and the bacteria needs to be treated with an antibiotic. Though they’re not STI’s, sex should be avoided during these infections in order for them to clear up. In most cases that takes 7 days after beginning medication.

Trust me, you really wouldn’t wanna lick it if she WAS putting soap in there.

You do realize the vagina is an internal organ right? That’s like saying “you don’t wash your lungs? How can they be clean?”

Self cleaning and deodorizing. Nature's perfect design. May I have some more?

you don’t want soap down there. I used to wash w soap down there but you’re more prone to getting UTI’s/infections since it throws off ur body’s natural ph’s level. Idk if this is odd to mention but I’ve smelled & … tasted .. (I was curious) my own semen & It’s scentless & tasted relatively like nothing

Watching Porn With Wife

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11gnudm

Advice Needed

It sounds like you two are sexually incompatible. You shouldn’t be forcing yourself to do things sexually you’re not into and neither should she. This isn’t a “I’m forcing myself so why can’t she?” it’s, “Why is anyone forcing themselves at all?” More than anything, you’re lying to your spouse and harboring resentment. Continuing on in this fashion will only lead to the relationship becoming more toxic. You’re best investing in sessions with a [sex therapist](https://www.healthline.com/health/sex-therapy).

I don't want he to force herself that would make it a turn off. I will look into the therapy but honestly I think that shit is a hoax. I have had many many dealings with it and it has never worked out and often made things worse.

when a guy gives you his thumb to suck, how are you supposed to do it?

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How To?

Wife want other people watch us have sex. How do we do this as safe as possible?

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Kinks/Fetishes

Join a nearby sex club or hire a professional.

Is it normal to feel attracted to the opposite sex?

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General Question

im the EXACT same way

Being bisexual or bi-curious or anything related to being attracted to both sexes (seriously, there aren't and will never be enough words to describe every possible combination of the spectrum) does not mean you have to be romantically interested in them. I consider myself bisexual as the thought of male genitalia and body pleases me from time to time, but I wouldn't consider a relationship with a man. So in a way quite similar to your situation, but, probably quite different too since we are all unique and have our place on the spectrum of both genders and sexuality. Whatever you are, you are normal.

Ok. Your feelings are real. But the thoughts and reality of sex with your own gender aren’t real until you explore them. Best of luck

You can have a sexual attraction to women, but not have a romantic attraction to them. I do consider myself bi as I am attracted to some women sexually. I don’t have any interest in them on a romantic level. I’ve only had romantic relationships with men and men are definitely what I prefer. There are no rules when it comes to things like this. It’s different for everyone, and everyone finds a dynamic that works for them. It does take a little exploring to figure things out. 🖤

Well I’m gonna answer as a gay boi because it is a little similar to a friend of mine. (Really is a friend of mine type thing) so he was like you a lot. He liked the opposite sex so girls and would date them fuck them and anything else men and women like to do. But he began to get interested in men. Maybe say he realizes his interest in men is more accurate. Just as you have expressed an interesting in women. He said he doesn’t really wanna date a dude but he wanted to service one much like you want to do for some women. And he did and he liked it a lot. He is still bi and dates most women but he likes sucking dick and getting fucked. Here’s the thing. He has never dated or fallen in love with a man. You do t have to date or fall for a girl to eat her pussy. If you wanna eat pussy, smell pussy, or even finger pussy there are a lot of girl who would happily let you. Especially when boys like me exist that never gave any women any attention at all and gave myself up to cock. One less boy for women and one more lonely girl who needs her pussy ate but not a date. As for your age and current relationship… I would say be honest with your partner about your feelings and have a serious conversation about it it with him. He may be cool with it. You guys can even threesome. And you 19 still very young and you have much more to experience in the world. I can’t really talk since I’m the same age but we are just starting out. Feel free to Dm me with questions of you need more clarity

My pussy makes my partner uncomfortable

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Body/Physical

I’d say you get a new partner, what an incredibly offensive thing to say to you. No, you don’t need to change or want to change anything about your physical appearance for anyone. If a grown man is equating a 30 year old woman’s vagina to a child’s vagina this is a massive red flag.

That's creepy af why would he even be thinking that 🤮🤮😗

High Sex Drive

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General Question

Do y'all girls like getting shocked and getting your hair pulled? Be honest

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Kinks/Fetishes

Very honest answers, do y'all girls like getting the your hair pulled?

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Kinks/Fetishes

Need Advice On My Strong Sexual Desires

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Advice Needed

It’s normal, when I was younger I had this problem and thought that I was a sex addict but now that I’ve had sex I realized I wasn’t an addict and didn’t need a therapist I was just curious and excited about losing my virginity

You're normal. I'm in a similar boat to you and waiting for a person I trust to have my first time with. Nothing more just that. I'm 21 myself. I know exactly what you're thinking. Do you masturbate at all? Masturbation is quite healthy for you and a great was to relieve stress and sexual tension. I'd suggest you get some lube and start exploring yourself. Other than that you just seem to have a high sex drive, which is perfectly fine. Sex drive is not linked to whether or not you have had sex yet. Think about it, that wouldn't make sense and the human race would have died out millions of years ago. Do what you think is right for yourself. If you feel like waiting then do that. Personally I'd just want it to be with someone I trust and have a connection with. I'm not going to wait for true love to pop that bottle, still I don't want it to be just for the sake of having sex. I totally get you! Wishing you all the best.

This is just my perspective as a 38F. Everyone has different feelings when it comes to their first time. I was 15 and by all first time accounts, it was decently ideal. But honestly, at 38, I never think about it and it’s had no effect on my life really. In the long run at least. I’m not discarding the importance the first time is for a lot of people, but it’s just my opinion that it’s made to be a bigger deal than it is. The first time sucks. The first few times kinda suck. Not so much for guys maybe, but the awkwardness and anxiety is there nonetheless. I obviously can’t speak for men, but there is the factor of the “unknown” that can trigger obsessive thoughts. Not that it’s necessarily easier when you do have sex, but I do think the fact that you’ve never experienced it has an effect on your constant thoughts.

Litrotica is a fun way to spice things up!!

People put too much pressure on the relationship aspect of sex. It is an amazing bodily experience. Go out and fuck. Enjoy it while you can before you are tied down and only get one person.

I want to have sex, but I’m scared.

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Advice Needed

Having a sex drive is a good thing. Don't bury it :) **Pregnancies**: For you to get pregnant, sperm needs to enter your vagina, travel through the cervix into your uterus and meet an egg on its way down from your ovaries. For that to be possible sperm needs to get inside your vagina. Using a condom will be your first line of protection. Use it correctly and those are already 98% effective. More [here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom) and [here](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/male-condoms/). You said you're adding birth control. Depending on what kind (and if required, that you use it correctly) even if the condom fails, which it most likely won't, you will still have the BC. The combined pill for example if used correctly stops you from ovulating, which prevents an egg from dropping so you can't get pregnant (sperm has to fertilize an egg for a pregnancy to happen, [here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/pregnancy/pregnancy-month-by-month)'s how early pregnancy works.), thins the lining of the womb, so there is less chance of a fertilised egg implanting into the womb and being able to grow and also thickens the cirvical mucus to make it harder for sperm to enter the uterus. More [here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/birth-control-pill). It's more than [99% effective](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/combined-contraceptive-pill/) if used correctly. You're therefore double protected. Note, the mini pill will only prevent ovulation in about 50% of women. There are also different kinds of combined and mini pills. If you want to be even more sure you can pair your condoms with [spermicidal lube](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/spermicide/how-effective-spermicide) (just don't use oil based lube with latex condoms). Finally, your boyfriend can also pull out on top of those methods before ejaculation, further lowering the odds. It is not really necessary to do all these things, but if that is something that will calm you down, these are your options. If you do think you might have gotten pregnant, you can test yourself 3 weeks after the encounter for an accurate negative with any home pregnancy test. Since they all detect the same hormone released in extreme quantities when you're pregnant, hCG, they are all accurate. More [here](https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/trying-for-a-baby/doing-a-pregnancy-test/). **STDs/STIs**: Sexually transmitted diseases and infections can be prevented by using a condom. In general though, it's always good to test yourself (and he should to) after each new sexual partner, even if you were both virgins. Some STDs can also be transferred through oral Sex. You can use a [dental dam](https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/Dental-dam-use.html) for vaginal oral or use a condom for penile oral if you're worried, while you can cut open a condom in a pinch, dental dams are way larger and therefore protect more effectively. Since I believe you are worried, the best thing you can do is go have the both of you tested. If you come back negative, you're good to go (always use a condom for anal sex though as it's [more prone to transmitting STDs](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/does-anal-sex-have-any-health-risks/)). [More info on STDs and STIs](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sexually-transmitted-diseases-stds/symptoms-causes/syc-20351240). **What to expect on your first time**: [Here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/virginity/what-happens-first-time-you-have-sex) is a nice summary for what both of you can expect your first time. Get comfortable, use lube and have fun. But most importantly. If any of you feel any sort of pressure, you both have the right to stop the encounter at any point. It will be awkward, you'll get better at it though, not to worry. Just communicate on what both of your likes and dislikes are and you'll get there. Edited: Added some clarification on the pill and oral STD/STI prevention.

All birth control is over 99% effective, this is with full ejaculation. Sex on birth control is protected sex. The Pill is 99.7% effective, the IUD is 99.9% effective and the Bar is 99.95% effective. You can read about your options [here](https://www.onemedical.com/blog/healthy-living/birth-control-guide/). If you’re too young to have already seen a gynecologist you can reach out to your nearest Planned Parenthood for assistance. Simply google “Planned Parenthood near me” and give them a call. If you have concerns about your parents seeing something on their health insurance please give [this article](https://www.bedsider.org/features/275-the-girls-guide-to-getting-some-privacy-on-your-parents-health-insurance) a read about your rights with your parents insurance. If you’re unsure of your insurance information you can visit your pediatrician’s office and request a copy of your card they have on file. You can also check out [this list](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/birth-control-online ) of the 9 best online sites for birth control, emergency contraception and other medications. They don’t require insurance. You can also find great support at r/birthcontrol. You want to track your cycle, though depending on your BC you may not ovulate, but tracking your sexual history every month is important information to maintain. use a safe fertility app like Clue to track her menstrual and sexual history every month. Though not appropriate for risk management alone it is still extremely helpful. It’s important to get tested 2 weeks and again in 3 months after every new partner. This includes encounters with “virgins” and with the use of barriers. Barriers greatly reduce the risk of transmission but no barrier is 100% in its ability to protect against STI’s. Different STI’s have different incubation periods and if you test too early you can get a false negative. It’s important to re test after your initial 2 week test for an accurate STI status. It’s important to be aware that a standard STI test only test for the coming STI’s which don’t include Herpes or HPV. If you want a full panel STI test done you must request it. HPV is tested for during your annual Pap smear and HSV can only be accurately tested for with an active sore. You can read more about barriers and STI risk [here](https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/what-stds-do-condoms-not-prevent) and [here](https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/brief.html). If you have concerns about HIV you can also read about PEP [here](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/pep.html ) and [here](https://www.healthline.com/health/hiv/post-exposure-prophylaxis ) which is a medication that helps prevent HIV after exposure. It must be started within 72 hours of suspected exposure and taken everyday for 28 days. Not to be confused with [PREP](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/prep/starting-stopping-prep.html) or [Apretude](https://www.everydayhealth.com/hiv-aids/fda-approves-first-shot-to-prevent-hiv-cabotegravir/). [This video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nOFzZwxreIU) goes in depth on fertility awareness to avoid pregnancy. She talks about FAM/NFP which can be very confusing but is a method of birth control if you don’t have access to or choose not to use barriers or hormonal BC. You can also get a lot of help at r/FAMnNFP. Ovulation and pregnancy tests can be purchased in bulk cheaply on Amazon, you can see an excellent kit to get you started [here](https://a.co/d/1ooCLum). You can test 2 weeks post sex for an accurate positive and 3 weeks post sex for Ana curate negative. Always use a pink dye test and your first morning urine. You can read how ovulation works [here](https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/ovulation-101-what-is-it-how-does-it-work). You can read how periods work [here](https://www.self.com/story/menstrual-cycle/amp). Although a person can get pregnant during their period, it is unlikely. The chances of becoming pregnant on or just after the period end depend on when a person has sexual intercourse, the length of their menstrual cycle, and the exact day they ovulate during that menstrual cycle. These factors make it hard to predict the precise timing and extent of the fertile window. You can read under what specific circumstances you can get pregnant on your period [here](https://www.naturalcycles.com/cyclematters/can-i-get-pregnant-on-my-period). You can read how impregnation is possible and the statistics of its probability [here](https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/conception-pregnancy-fertilization-explained). Though there is little to no sperm in precum there’s no exact number as it changes based on various factors. The amount rises the closer it’s been since your last ejaculation. Sperm dies in the urethra after 5 hours in the best of conditions in most men. Around 16% of men will still have sperm present up to 3 days later. Urination helps clear out but in no way guarantees they’re all gone if it’s been less time than that. The sperm that are left in the urethra are generally in a weakened state as they’re not in a good environment for survival. Sperm can survive up to 5 days inside a woman, though most sperm die around day 2-3. Sperm would have a 5% probability of surviving more than 4.4 days. While it’s possible to get pregnant from precum you’re looking at around a 4% chance if you happen to be ovulating. However, this likelihood of pregnancy rises every time you use the pull-out method during ovulation (with typical use the effective rate drops to 78%) as more and more sperm is being introduced into the vaginal canal. The pullout method is NOT BC. You can see the largest and most recent study on precum [here](https://www.thaiscience.info/journals/Article/JMAT/10986029.pdf). You can read more about precum [here](https://www.verywellfamily.com/pregnant-from-precum-4243919#toc-odds-of-getting-pregnant).

I did edit my comment by the way. I was slightly off on one or two areas.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting, especially if you’re scared.

With STI/STDs, they can’t all be prevented from condom, be careful

I'm a virgin and lately all I can think about is sex

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Short answer, yes. Long answer, I totally get what you mean. I'm in a similar situation. Since I had my first intimate experiences I've been craving it more and more. It's completely understandable and normal, but I want to reiterate that it's not a bad thing to be a virgin. I'm remaining one, even though yes, I would rather be having sex, until I find a person I'm comfortable with. The issue with your time is one that can be solved. I do realize family is probably quite important for you, but it is also important to take care of yourself and that includes making time when need be for intimate moments with a partner. To sum up. Yes you're being silly but it's also completely understandable. You're not alone. Just take it one step at a time.

Condom question.

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Sounds like the condoms are too large. I suggest you try [004](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004F0NXBE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_BEG2C3EAG11JWHB0PEYP) condoms. Be sure to lube your penis before donning the condom. [How to put on a condom](https://youtu.be/rrW-0wam5QY)

Measure your length and girth and find a condom suitable for it. Generally length should not be an issue, the main issue would be girth, if the condom is too big or too small it would be a problem. You measure the girth by using a tailor measuring tape or a string and then putting it on a ruler. You take that number, turn it into mm, divide it by 2 and then shave off 10-20% of that to get your accurate condom size you need.

To give an accurate answer a lot more info would be needed such as your penis girth and what condoms you are using.

pregnancy scare

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Pregnancy Scare

My first suggestion is your partner choose a form of BC to both protect herself from pregnancy and regulate her cycle. She can read about her options [here](https://www.onemedical.com/blog/healthy-living/birth-control-guide/). If she’s too young to have already seen a gynecologist she can reach out to her nearest Planned Parenthood for assistance. Simply google “Planned Parenthood near me” and give them a call. If she has concerns about your parents seeing something on their health insurance please give [this article](https://www.bedsider.org/features/275-the-girls-guide-to-getting-some-privacy-on-your-parents-health-insurance) a read about her rights with her parents insurance. If she’s unsure of her insurance information she can visit her pediatrician’s office and request a copy of her card they have on file. She can also use [this list](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/birth-control-online ) of the 9 best online sites for birth control, emergency contraception and other medications. They don’t require insurance. She can also find great support at r/birthcontrol. What you saw was either her ejaculate or her lubricant which can be creamy in some women. Not the same as a yeast infection. Your risk is low but not zero as there could have been sperm in your precum. Test 2 weeks post sex for an accurate positive and 3 weeks post sex for an accurate negative. Pink dye test, first morning urine, dollar store tests work as well as expensive ones.

update?

Nervous

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General Question

STI’s are only spread from an infected person to another person. Unless you were sharing this toothbrush with another individual who used it sexually there is no way to contract an STI in this way. Please stop using your toothbrush like this, it is not safe. You can do physical damage, it is not made from materials intended to penetrate you anally and it’s going to hold bacteria like crazy. Only use toys made for anal play which have a flaired base for safety. Yes, toys can easily get lost in a rectum and require emergency surgery to remove. There’s really no way to safely make and use a homemade sex toy, so try to should be avoided. You can find plenty of anal toys at a reputable shop like [Love Honey](https://www.lovehoney.com/search?q=Anal+toy&searchButton=suggestion&lang=en_US). Be sure to be aware of the material of the toy and use a compatible lube. Wash with soap and water, thoroughly, after each use and rack dry. Store in a satin or velvet bag in a drawer. For Vinyl Toys: You can use any sort of lube. Silicone, oil based or water based lubes will work great with vinyl toys. For Rubber or Latex Toys: You need to avoid using oil based lubes. Oil based lubes will destroy rubber and latex. It’s best to use water based or silicone based lubes with rubber toys. For Silicone Toys: Silicone lubes can dissolve the surface of silicone toys leaving small pits. This makes cleaning very hard. Only use water based or oil based lubes with silicone toys.

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Horny AF

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Advice Needed

Sending an unsolicited nude?

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General Question

Contact the company directly for clarification.

Uncircumcised

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Well.... It's something that you probably should have been made aware of before now. You never saw some other kid do it? If you're in the US, it's rather unusual to not be circumcised in your parents' age group...so they may not realize that there's a few extra things to know. Some guys can pull theirs open at quite a young age...but others can't till towards the end of puberty. So...if you can't yet it's not concerning as long as it's not uncomfortable or anything. It's definitely time to start gently stretching and pulling down on it to loosen it up more.

This is known as [Phimosis](https://www.pristyncare.com/blog/phimosis-stretching-exercises/) and you can read more about it by clicking that link. You can also visit r/phimosis to talk to others with the condition. Phimosis comes with some serious risks. Paraphimosis is a common urologic emergency that occurs in uncircumcised males when the foreskin becomes trapped behind the corona of the glans penis. This can lead to strangulation of the glans and painful vascular compromise, distal venous engorgement, edema, and even necrosis. So until he’s able to stretch himself out, it’s best to avoid that motion altogether. Sex can also cause tearing and sometimes severe, so it’s really not worth it. Condoms help protect but damage can still happen. There are stretching exercises you can do in the shower, rings you can wear which you can see [here](https://www.phimocure.net/), steroid creams you can use and if all else fails there is partial and complete circumcision options. You will need to start out by talking to a urologist, a GP is not qualified to make an accurate assessment of this condition.

>My question is, is it tight cuz I’ve never done it before and it will loosen the more I pull it back, or has my schlong got a problem because it should be able to pull back easily Tight because you never tried it before. Masturbate by pushing the skin away from the tip even if it doesn't go all the way down. Just don't hurt yourself and keep trying to make the opening bigger so the head comes out. It is normal for it to feel a little tight but you should be fine by 18.

As a teen guy, you are normal for your age. You are correct, [the more you pull it back, the looser it will get.](http://www.cirp.org/library/treatment/phimosis/beauge2/) You foreskin is a blessing. Please protect it.

Does anyone.. oddly love the way they smell?

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Good 👍

pain whilst masturbating

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General Question

Penetration should never hurt. Were you wet and did you use lube? Were you aroused? Any issues with tampons?

Depending on the type of pain, the dildo may be too big. It’s about the length and the girth. If it’s a burning type pain, then that’s you being stretched. If it’s like a cramping type sensation then it’s going too deep. Start with a small smooth vibrator. It’s more slick and glides a little easier. If you’re using a toy that’s not silicone, silicone lubricant is the best. It’s not sticky and it lasts longer. Using a bullet vibrator on my clit helps lessen the sensation of PIV and allows me to take more. That may be worth a shot to see if that helps. Don’t start off with something you have to take breaks with. It shouldn’t be like that or hurt in anyway. It will feel uncomfortable the first time you have sex regardless. Usually the first couple of times. But it should never be extreme.

This is going to be stupid but I've seen a similar post on another sub where it ended up being the woman was talking about 5-6 of girth not length and if that is the case that could be a possibility. Like the other comments say it shouldn't be painful and an appointment should be made to seek a professional opinion as soon as possible.

What kind of pain was it? Burning? Stabbing? Is it a throbbing pain or does it feel like it's being rubbed raw? If it's the last one, my ex used to go through that during sex sometimes, and that was her body's way of saying we were having too much sex, it that we were having sex when she wasn't horny so her body was rejecting it. So, it's possible that you're masturbating when your body isn't horny. I'm not sure what exactly the case is here, and it's frankly none of my business, but it's most important to listen to your body and it's limits.

whenever i drink alcohol, i get wet

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Body/Physical

No idea but I'm wondering if this has anything to do with the dehydrating effects of drinking alcohol. Does it happen immediately? Or when you start having your hangover?

Happens to me too and afaik this is pretty common, a bit of a drink makes a bit (physically, if not mentally) horny. Hence buying that lady/that guy a drink. :) Something with tequila and clothes, too, if I recall. I always believed it was because my inhibitions get lowered, and I get relaxed, but I never looked too closely into it.

Do women masturbate to their couple friends?

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General Question

Not a woman, but does it make you uncomfortable?

I probably just have anxiety

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Pregnancy Scare

You are not pregnant. A test is definitive after this long if you’re taking it correctly. The stress of worrying you’re pregnant likely delayed your period - stress is the most common reason for delayed periods. We’re you on antibiotics for your UTI, because some meds can mess around with things too. Take a step back and look at the whole thing: you were protected, you have had two periods and multiple negative tests. You are not pregnant. If you are getting this worried about it, you should probably have a read about how ovulation works and how pregnancy actually happens, as a lot of worry comes from misinformation and anecdotes on the internet. Arm yourself with information, learn the in and outs of your particular BC method, and learn how to reduce the risks :) you can find all this info on Planned Parenthood xx

I can see why you're worried, but as the other commenters said, you're not pregnant. Your tests were negative. Stress will absolutely fuck with your periods. I'm mega regular and being convinced I was pregnant made me skip **3** periods. Three. It's a cruelty of nature.

You’re not pregnant. A test is definitive 3 weeks post sex. If you suffer from acute pregnancy anxiety I encourage you to choose a form of BC with a low user error like the arm implant or IUD. The arm implant is the most effective form of Bc available, even more so than surgical sterilization. You can read about your options [here](https://www.onemedical.com/blog/healthy-living/birth-control-guide/). To answer your question about double periods, no they don’t. What they’re experiencing is irregular bleeding due to hormonal shifts. You’re strongest source of support in overcoming your anxiety is education on how your body works and being able to know when you ovulate. Understanding your body gives you agency over it. [This video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nOFzZwxreIU) goes in depth on fertility awareness to avoid pregnancy. You can also get a lot of help at r/FAMnNFP. You can read how ovulation works [here](https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/ovulation-101-what-is-it-how-does-it-work). You can read how periods work [here](https://www.self.com/story/menstrual-cycle/amp). Although a person can get pregnant during their period, it is unlikely. The chances of becoming pregnant on or just after the period end depend on when a person has sexual intercourse, the length of their menstrual cycle, and the exact day they ovulate during that menstrual cycle. These factors make it hard to predict the precise timing and extent of the fertile window. You can read under what specific circumstances you can get pregnant on your period [here](https://www.naturalcycles.com/cyclematters/can-i-get-pregnant-on-my-period). You can read how impregnation is possible and the statistics of its probability [here](https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/conception-pregnancy-fertilization-explained).

Thank you everyone! I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety from it. I even took a blood pregnancy test 31 days after sex and in deed negative. I guess I just have anxiety because ever since I had sex a month a go, I’ve had dark brown discharge with a slight bright red during ovulation. That is unusual for me and it makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

How do I bring up wanting to have another female for a threesome to my wife?

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How To?

Sex at work

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114mdvr

General Question

After hours I brought a girl to “show her my office”. My opinion, but it’s overrated to have sex on a desk.

Yes, it has been done before. Janitors Bathroom Any office with a lock

Personal, I have. It was exhilarating/scary… with the thought of somebody walking in, but totally worth it.

Quickie In office supplies room Then again out in the warehouse where things got wild and heated🥵🔥💦💯fuckin amazing

Bj in the back after work, I enjoyed it, he felt it was too public (worried about cams) after the fact and I respect his say on that to not to it again

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General Question

It’s always helpful using a butt plug during foreplay before moving to anal, it will really help loosen up before you switch over. If you’re new to any kind of anal play I recommend starting with a gentle graduates set like [this one](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/butt-plugs/butt-plug-sets/p/jelly-rancher-pleasure-anal-training-butt-plug-kit-3-piece/a40004g73208.html) to ease into the sensations. You may also consider a set with different shapes to find one that you may prefer over the standard butt plug shape like [this set](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/butt-plugs/butt-plug-sets/p/lovehoney-bumper-booty-bundle-anal-sex-toy-kit-6-piece/a37704g69868.html). Excellent guide to anal stretching [here](https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/how-to-stretch-anus). Biggest discomfort people experience is pain during insertion and thrusting. A good thing to do is to insert slowly, a little bit at a time. Stopping and holding position to let your muscles relax and accept the penis. Once fully inserted they should start to gently move in and out. If you start to feel pain, stop and hold position until your muscles relax. Then they can begin again. This will eventually get you worked up enough that there should be no more discomfort and it can get pretty stimulating (in a sexy way) once the prep work is done. Another thing that can increase your pleasure during anal is incorporating a vibrator on your perineum or a vibrating cock ring. Before having anal you’re going to want to clean yourself properly. Are you familiar with water enema’s/ douching? Doing one shortly before anal helps clean up and clear out. Along that line of thinking, you both should always shower before hand and urinate afterwards. It’s always best to use a condom during anal as feces getting into the urethra can cause a UTI. If you decide you want to return to oral after anal, it’s super easy to just take the condom off and give the penis a quick wipe down with a baby wipe. Then you’re good to go! They make different enema/douche tools, but the bulb is cheap and easy to use. You can see one [here](https://www.lovehoney.com/search?q=Enema+bulb&searchButton=suggestion&lang=en_US#pid=Tilea952g952). You can see an excellent how-to guide [here](https://www.healthline.com/health/anal-douche). Look into a lube injector! This is a device you fill with lube, insert into the anus and push the plunger as you pull it out. That combined with lots of lube on the penis really produces optimal results. Check one out [here](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex/lubricants/lubricant-applicators/p/lube-tube-applicator-syringe-2-pack/26266.html). Silicone lube is the best kind for anal as it lasts longer than any other kind and has a silky texture. Afterwards be aware that you’re going to have gas, and possibly loose stools the next bowel movement. Both normal. If you do another gentle enema/douche after sex it will help reduce both these symptoms. Just one flush is fine, no need to do multiple ones like before sex.

I find riding on top works best. You can ease it in

M(27) always seem to catch the attention of older women instead of women my age.

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General Question

Thanks for reading!

Is it possible for a woman to have no fantasies?

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General Question

I, for one, don't have any fantasies, which in turn frustrates my husband. I often wonder if a sex therapist could help because I feel like something is wrong with me in the fact that I have ZERO fantasies. So, to answer your question , yes, there are other women who have no fantasies.

Yes, it’s possible. There is a lot of pressure for women to repress themselves sexually and this often leads to them having impaired relationships with their sexuality. You might consider couples sessions with a [sex therapist](https://www.healthline.com/health/sex-therapy) to help support you both in productive communication and sexual exploration.

It could possibly be that she has no fantasies. Or maybe she is unable/uncomfortable to share verbally. Could possibly try watching different types of adult films to see if any peak her interest more than others? She might need help discovering her “fantasies”.

I personally think it has to do with not having anything to compare to. Women don’t tend to watch as much porn and not all women read erotic novels. So if you’ve never been exposed to any “ideas” or options, then it’s hard to come up with your own. Or to even know what you’d like/not like. I’m 38 and have a ton now, but there was a time I didn’t really. I would get stumped when a man would ask me and just generalized it as wanting good sex. I definitely agree it can be difficult to get a woman that’s not into porn or anything similar to jump on board. Some people just aren’t interested or feel the need to explore. My fantasies usually stemmed from sexual frustration or boredom, and a high sex drive.

My wife doesn't have fantasies either. I, on the other hand, have enough for both of us. I accepted the fact that she's different than me in that regard and let it go. She's satisfied with our sex life. I'm confident when she tells me she is happy.... that she's happy. She is an eager participant in many other ways...so after considering all of that...if there was any failure...it was on my part for not accepting her answer the first time she gave it. It took me longer than I care to admit to realize that, but once I did... things got much easier. Some people are wired differently. It doesn't seem to me like an insurmountable thing.

Is this toxic

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Advice Needed

This isn’t a sex question so it’s been removed. But it sounds like it’s time to take a break from the drugs and this relationship.

Shaving.

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General Question

It’s an unusual choice if you’re shaving yourself bald, generally people who do remove all pubic hair. But it’s your body and if you want a bald vulva and hair around your anus that’s completely your call!

It’s not weird and pretty common. You’ll see a lot of pics and videos showing the ass territory untouched. It just all depends on what you prefer and feel the most confident with. 🖤

Questions about realistic risks

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Birth Control

She can get the Paragard IUD which is non hormonal and one of the most effective forms of BC available. It’s good for 12 years of protection. If you’re only using barriers it’s best to double up with spermicidal lubricant in case the condom breaks. Unless she is already doing so, I suggest moving forward your girlfriend download and use a safe fertility app like Clue to track her menstrual and sexual history every month. Though not appropriate for risk management alone it is still extremely helpful. You should both educate yourselves on ovulation and decide if you want to avoid sex during her fertile periods. [This video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nOFzZwxreIU) goes in depth on fertility awareness to avoid pregnancy. You should also discuss what you plan to do in the case of an unplanned pregnancy and educate yourselves on emergency contraception. It doesn’t hurt to have a couple of the appropriate kind on hand in case of emergencies. Plan B - Is best used up to 72 hours after unprotected sex, though the effectiveness declines as you near the 72nd hour. It is also not as effective for women over 155 lbs and is not effective at all after 175 lbs or at a BMI of 30. This pill is a huge dose of progesterone and works to delay ovulation but will not work once the woman has ovulated. This can be taken multiple times a month, however its not advised to take this often. It is also not as effective as any other type hormonal birth control having a 50% chance at preventing pregnancy. You can read a full list of side effects [here](https://www.drugs.com/sfx/plan-b-side-effects.html) which can last up to 6 months in some women. Ella - This must be prescribed by a doctor or ordered on contraception website. It is 2x as effective as Plan B. It’s not as effective for women over 195 lbs and stops working at a BMI of 35. It can be taken up to 5 days after unprotected sex but also declines in effectiveness as you get closer to the end of the 5 day window. It also works to delay ovulation and does not work once the woman has already ovulated. This can only be taken once per menstrual cycle. Plan B and Ella cancel each other out. It is a progesterone blocker and if Plan B has already been taken in a cycle it is no longer an option. If you use hormonal birth control, such as the pill, shot or ring, taking Ella at the same time can reduce the effectiveness of both Ella and your birth control. You can calculate your BMI [here](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educational/lose_wt/BMI/bmicalc.htm). The Yuzpe Method - The Yuzpe method consists of two doses of a combination estrogen/progestin oral contraceptive (100 mcg ethinyl estradiol and 1 mg dl-norgestrel [equivalent to 0.5 mg levonorgestrel]) taken 12 hours apart. This regimen offers a convenient method for patients to use pills they already have. Mifepristone and Misoprostol - This is the Abortion Pill, which is actually multiple pills taken over a couple days, but can and is used as emergency contraception. There is no weight limit and it works up to 11 weeks of pregnancy. You can purchase these pills through a mail service in any of the US states and in Europe. Please visit [Aid Access](https://aidaccess.org/en/i-need-an-abortion), [Women on the Web](https://www.womenonweb.org/en/i-need-an-abortion) or [Plan C](https://www.plancpills.org/find-pills) to do so. Cost ranges from $75 - $470 depending on your situation and service chosen. Copper IUD/ Hormonal IUD options - The copper IUD is good for 10-12 years of birth control protection and can be placed up to 5 days after the first day of ovulation to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Once the woman has ovulated or if pills are not an option, this is a form of emergency contraception that will prevent a pregnancy. It is also more effective than any other option for EC. You can call your gynecologist or reach out to your nearest Planned Parenthood for assistance. Recently a study was done that showed the Mirena and Liletta IUD were also viable options for EC. These IUD’s are good for 5-7 years. You can see that study [here](https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa2022141). A quick side note about IUD placement. Many women are fearful of the possible pain from the procedure and often ask if they can be put under. Many will tell them “No.” but truthfully it can and is done. As of now PP will not use sedation, however women are put under for the procedure if they advocate for themselves and don’t stop at the first doctor telling them no. Call around and explore your options. An article [here](https://elemental.medium.com/getting-an-iud-doesnt-have-to-hurt-like-hell-6c45d6089d33) about one woman’s demand for sedation for her IUD. You can also see a hospital [here](https://www.childrenscolorado.org/doctors-and-departments/departments/pediatric-gynecology/pediatric-gyn-services/IUD-under-anesethsia/) who routinely offers it for teens as well as a health center for adults [here](https://www.ohsu.edu/womens-health/birth-control-contraception) that offers sedation as well. You can read even more about emergency contraception [here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/morning-after-pill-emergency-contraception/which-kind-emergency-contraception-should-i-use) and their effectiveness thresholds [here](https://endocrinenews.endocrine.org/august-2014-pregnant-pause/). You can read more about the Yuzpe method [here](https://www.goodrx.com/conditions/emergency-contraceptive/yuzpe-method). You can read more about the abortion pill [here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill). You can download the PP app [here](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/planned-parenthood-direct/id1214393415) and get EC overnighted to you. You can also use [this list](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/birth-control-online ) of the 9 best online sites for birth control, emergency contraception and other medications. They don’t require insurance. If you’re in the UK you can visit [Brook](https://www.brook.org.uk) for all you sexual healthcare needs. You can also find a ton of resources for help worldwide in many different languages through Women First Digital [here](https://womenfirstdigital.org/) they cover all women’s sexual health needs including assistance with access to safe abortion options.

If she doesn't want an IUD or the pill other options include - Nexplanon implant - The injection - Nuva ring - sponge - female condom It would be best for Her to speak to a doctor about what would be best for her, and what her concerns or worries are. Not all BC pill cause the same side effects in the same people, some people get little to no side effects in one thing, despite having side effects with another option....it's all a bit trial and error to find what works for her, and what she is comfortable trying...but the best person to discuss that with is someone from a doctor surgery, pharmacy or planned Parenthood or similar

Masturbating

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It may be Ejaculatory Anhedonia. Experts believe that orgasmic anhedonia/PDOD occurs because of a problem with neurochemicals in the brain, particularly dopamine. Patients may receive sexual stimulation, but there is a disconnect between the sensation and the part of the brain that recognizes that sensation as pleasurable. In general, it is recommended that a combination of psychological and physiological treatments should be used to treat the disorder. Other drugs which may be helpful in the treatment of this condition include dopamine agonists, oxytocin, phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors, and alpha-2 receptor blockers like yohimbine. I suggest you start by talking to a [sex therapist](https://www.healthline.com/health/sex-therapy) and talking to your doctor about what treatments they can provide on the physical side.

Wife wants to watch me fuck other women

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First off there is nothing “gay” about a woman playing with your butthole. You got a g spot up there and if your partner is willing to explore that you’ll open up a world of orgasms you never knew was possible. Check out r/ProstatePlay. Secondly bringing a 3rd person into a relationship is a minefield. Unless your both 1000% into it don’t do it. Pregnancy hormones flip everything upside down. What’s she’s fantasising now might change when you got a baby to look after. I’d tread lightly on that one.

Am I the only one that feels uncomfortable when there is a pet in the room during sex?

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It doesn’t matter whose pet/place it is you can always make your feelings known.

Pets will openly maintain eye-contact while pooping. I don't know if there's much point to having shame around them.

It wasn’t a problem for me until I got a surprise cold wet dog nose in my butt. Now they’re banished

I have sex with my GF while I’m asleep.

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This is known as [sexsomnia](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/parasomnias/sexsomnia).

My hubby does sometimes too. Usually wakes me up and wants his dick touched then back to regular sleep 🤣

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She can get pregnant from your penis going into her vagina.

Yes. Even if you cleaned the outside of the penis, there might still be some sperm in your urethra that can be transferred into the vagina during PIV sex by your precum. Always use protection. The pull out method has a big chance to get the other person pregnant, especially for the above reason, but also because you might not pull out in time. It's very unreliable. I'd recommend taking a plan B. You should take it as soon as possible, as the chance of it being effective decrease as time passes (if I remember correctly). Learn more [here](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/morning-after-pill-emergency-contraception/whats-plan-b-morning-after-pill)

Yes, because cum or precum enters the vagina. The risks are low, but not zero.

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Congratulations?

Intrusive thoughts during

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Since when is a 6" penis considered small?

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what's your oppinion on romanticising mentall illness?(tourretes among other things in my case) like saying "aww your tics are so cute (or hot)" in a clearly flirty way

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I feel like it depends on context, like if someone said that about my tics (depends on the person) I would either feel less insecure about them happening or get anxious bc they are “too focused” on them

I have a kink that isn't really uncommon per say but is a bit... extreme? Worried about what my partner might think of me if she find out

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My wife and I flirt by me calling her baby girl (inside joke from a bad movie we saw on our second date) and she calls me daddy when we’re fucking because it makes me cum as she’s begging for it. It’s just a little name tease and I guess it’s more the connotation of me being dominant and her submitting that gets us both going. She loves being controlled and told what to do.

Anybody turned on by body odor? Haven’t been able to shower for a day and half (I shower daily) and noticed my dick has an odor… not bad foul odor. Just a strong… sex-y-ish odor? Anybody else?

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Ladies, have you cheated? Why and did you feel bad after? Dm if you prefer.

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Ladies, have you cheated? Why and did you feel bad after? Dm if you prefer.

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Is it bad to show off in the community showers?

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I wonder what it's like being so immature that I'd feel compelled to ask this kind of question. Is it painful at all?

Yes, it is bad. Exhibitionism without consent is bad.

Is it cheating?

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Would your SO be upset? If so, you may want to reconsider

I don’t think so but if you were entertaining advances from people then it might be.

Id say, if you feel the need to keep it a secret from your partner, then probably. But why not ask them if they would be okay with it? Set boundaries with each other and abide by them.

The fact that you are asking us and not your significant other means it’s probably cheating. Cheating only has meaning in terms of your relationship’s parameters. Tell your significant other that this is something you enjoy doing, you do it anonymously and you wanted to disclose it to them. And ask them if they have thoughts or questions. Ask if they’re comfortable with it. You don’t have to treat it like some big fuckup (*unless you’re into that; you can always tell your S.O. that you need a punishment for being bad*). Treat it as a dialogue.

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Taboo

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My supervisor 😳

Uhm, a lot!! Lot of times. Lot of things

Oooooooo I'm not sure if I can even type the word here. 😬

Post flicking clarity prevents me from disclosing those horrors.

Basically every female member of my immediate and extended family.

what you guys think of this kink/fetish?

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Why does no one believe me?

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That's... above average, but it's not even close to the edges of the bell curve. So I have no idea. That said, most people who actually have big dicks don't spend a lot of time talking about their big dicks. Stay humble and always preserve an element of mystery.

It's less believable if you're a white guy, mainly because the stereotype is that black guys have large dicks, which is why there's this whole Big Black Cock and Big Black Cock Queen tropes. Aside from that, there is a chance they might actually believe you, but are jealous and don't want to admit that they are, so they hide it by teasing you because that will make them feel better about their smaller size, somehow.

who cares if they believe you or not man, if you do have that much then good for you but it doesn’t affect you or them in any way. the only people who really should care is the people you’re fucking so worry abt them not others lol

Horny at work.

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I'm horny in bed lol

Lose my virginity to a 37 year old OnlyFans woman or wait until I get into a relationship

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You should do it. Get it out of the way and she might even give you some tips on what to do, older women know what they like and usually give you direction to make sure they get off

Is it wrong to have a crush on my mom and find her hot?. But i don't have any sort of feelings or weird thoughts about her. I just find her beautiful and hot seeing other men trying to hit on her and i feel proud about it, i have a crush on her but no creepy or sexual thoughts.

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It’s wrong

Sounds a little weird to me

Get out of the house more. Spend time socializing with people your age.

*Sigmund Freud liked that.*

You ever check out your sister and think of she wasn't your sister you'd be nailing that ass?

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