That is a hard one to answer. I do get over things but not quickly or easily. I hurt and I grieve a lot, mostly for the lost possibility for what could have been, and the urge to try to go back and make what could have been attainable is hard to resist, but as I have gotten older I have come to understand more that I must look at possibilities and reality, and try to do what can realisticaly be done. I guess I sort of have started looking at the cost benefit analysis of things and let things go when the cost will be to great, and that helps me find my peace and closure. When I as younger and more idealistic it was much harder to get over things and let them ago.

Actually on thinking more about that I must say that writing some one totally out of my life is not and has never been really hard under certain circumstances. Someone hurts me or someone I care for, I have no qualms or regrets about just cutting them out of my life and I don’t look back or regret it. I have a long fuse but once you blow it I am done. I don’t get angry I don’t want vengeance but I guess I do get it in a way. I had a very wise grandmother and I have taken her advice on things, the best revenge is to live well and let it go. I go on with my life and focus on the good things. That is just me though, I would guess that many other people or younger people with an INFJ personality type would struggle with that more.