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please help me am lossing my self

am jenilia and i am in love with a guy since last three years.i was loving him very much.we had sex too.now my mind feeling very guilty as we had sex before our marriage..now i am not feeling to love him as before.am very much worried as my lover is loving me very deeply and i cant love him back as before.i cant make my lover sad...what should i do..please help me..my lover insisted me to go for a councelling but i dont like to say these to any one....i want to love him as before what should i do..help me brothers and sisters..please

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i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years he is the father of my child after such a long relationship things are the same always the same there is no fire i felt i was falling out of love with my partner i could not bear too kiss him most days. horrible i have to say so i went away to my mothers for three weeks A BREAK let loose seen old friends had fun then after a week i missed him like crazy after 3 weeks i could not wait to get back home and to be onest things have never been better there even perfect.

Jenila,Obviously, you are not ready for a sexual relationship or mature enough to deal with all of the consequenses (pregnancy, too); plus, you have deeply ingrained head trips from your childhood (or are you a teen?)..you are definitely not ready for marriage, but if you love this guy you need to talk with him and tell him you need to wait until marriage. I don't think you are ready or prepared for much of anything and need to get back in school or finish school and plan your own future as if you had to take care of yourself the rest of your life...then, you will be a contributing member of society and can have a choice of work vs. stay at home.