And when I began to listen to the sexlessness of the couples that I work with, I sometimes would hear people say, "I want more sex," but generally, people want better sex, and better is to reconnect with that quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of renewal, of vitality, of Eros, of energy that sex used to afford them, or that they've hoped it would afford them.
Kad es sāku klausīties pāros, kam pietrūkst seksa, es dažreiz no cilvēkiem dzirdēju:  „Es gribu vairāk seksa,” taču kopumā cilvēki vēlas labāku seksu, un labāks sekss rodas,  savienojoties ar šo dzīvīguma, spēka, atjaunošanās, vitalitātes, Erota, enerģiskuma īpašību, ko sekss viņiem kādreiz sniedza vai ko viņi cerēja, ka tas sniegs.