But instead of seeing it in the binary fashion, we focus on all of us as what we call bystanders, and a bystander is defined as anybody who is not a perpetrator or a victim in a given situation, so in other words friends, teammates, colleagues, coworkers, family members, those of us who are not directly involved in a dyad of abuse, but we are embedded in social, family, work, school, and other peer culture relationships with people who might be in that situation.
te cilet mund te jene ne ate situate. Cfarë bejme ne? Si i mbeshtesim shoket tanë? Por si te mos mbesim te heshtur ne prani te abuzimit? Keshtu, kur vjen puna te burrat dhe kultura mashkullore, qellimi eshte te marrim burra te cilet nuk jane abuziv te sfidojne ata te cilet jane. Dhe kur them abuziv, nuk dua te them vetem burrat te cilet rrahin gra. Ne nuk po themi nje burre shoku i te cilit