So simply put, if our children are to develop self-efficacy, and they must, then they have to do a whole lot more of the thinking, planning, deciding, doing, hoping, coping, trial and error, dreaming and experiencing of life for themselves.
Ühesõnaga, selleks, et meie lapsed  õpiksid ise hakkama saama, ja nad peavad iseseisvaks saama, tuleb neil endal palju rohkem mõelda, planeerida, otsustada, teha, loota, hakkama saada, katsetada ja eksida, unistada ja asju oma nahal läbi elada, tehes seda iseenda jaoks.