Watching him reshape his identity during his illness, learning to witness and accept his pain, talking together through his choices -- those experiences taught me that resilience does not mean bouncing back to where you were before, or pretending that the hard stuff isn't hard.
Observá-lo a modificar a sua identidade, durante a doença, aprender a testemunhar e a aceitar as dores dele, conversarmos juntos sobre as suas escolhas — essas experiências ensinaram-me que resiliência não significa voltar para onde estávamos antes, ou fingir que as coisas difíceis  não são difíceis,