this is not the way the story in my head went for the past 18 years the story in my head was always that we would pack up his belongings together laugh out loud at the tiny discoveries we would uncover as we found childhood treasures long forgotten that was not his story lessons learned while packing up my sons bedroom alone people have had children to secure marriages and to save them to bolster an identity and belong to vouchsafe their virility out of blind darwinian compulsion and entirely by accident is not wanting kids selfish taking a babysitter along on the family vacation provides you with the freedom and support necessary to truly feel like youre on vacation it gives you the flexibility to see sights that arent kid friendly enjoy nightlife and participate in activities that are not possible when youre caring for young children how to avoid the awkward moments while vacationing with your sitter