personal integrity that you chose to stick to what you believed in be happy that you did not do anything which bites your conscience your spouse may have betrayed you but you have not betrayed yourself if you really need to step out of the marriage consider a mutual consent divorce that is amiable make financial arrangements for your spouse and childrens upbringing prepare the children gradually to accept the news sort out the visiting rights and other things so that they get the best of both parents lastly you are not defined by your relationship status your life is bigger than your marriage cultivate hobbies build your business exercise go on a vacation remember we have to keep our thinking straight in a world where not everyone and everything is straight dr atul aswani is a psychiatrist and counsellor in mumbaiwant expert advice for your relationship send us an email at expertadvicetoigmailcom