unsuccessful in love unhappy at home dissatisfied at work stressed in life feeling jaded cheated and disillusioned at the way things are going for you need a shoulder to cry on an emotional crutch to carry you through the dayan agony aunt to whom you may pour your heart out and get free advice that works like chicken soup for the soul look no further turn to pooja bedis the heart chakra a weekly column that answers your relationship issues and problems that arise out of them but why pooja bedi why not do you know anybody whos been as successful at developing and maintaining her interpersonal relationships as she is shes a mother a daughter a girlfriend a 4 am friend to all who know her she shares a fabulously warm bond with her exhusband and his family her thinking though out of the box is balanced grounded and offers perspectives as it is never the issue but our attitude towards them that causes the problem turn to back page then after reading the heart chakra trust pooja with your life and its relationshipslady astor told winston churchill if i were your wife id poison your coffee to which churchill retorted lady astor if you were my wife id drink it i grew up in a home filled with laughter i learnt that the ability to laugh heartily at situations jokes others and most importantly yourself was one of the greatest gifts you could empower yourself with as is said if you can laugh at it you can live with it laughter is integral to relationships a couple that laughs together stays together serious situations can be diffused with laughter and touchy issues are easier braved with a good sprinkling of humour we all love a good laugh and blessed is the man who can laugh at himself for he will never cease to be amused laughter is the cheapest luxury that we have it electrifies our nerves clears away the cobwebs from our brain and gives our entire system a good cleansing additionally it lowers blood pressure reduces stress hormones boosts immunity function triggers the release of endorphins and is a fabulous relationship strengthener lets not take ourselves too seriously lets laugh most of our problems away we dont stop laughing because life is tough life is tough because we stop laughingour marriage is now 10 years old and we both do not get along well our thinking is different but i explained to her as fate has brought us together lets try to be compatible and give a good future to our only son however at times we end up quarrelling please give me some tips on how to build a good relationship with my wife cyrus sethnaeven people who think alike quarrel its perfectly normal as no two individuals seamlessly merge however whats wonderful is your desire to create togetherness try developing hobbies or classes or a sport that both of you can easily do