the firstgeneration nri parents face many delicate choices as their children grow up for instance one of the fundamental questions they confront is whether to let kids continue on nibbling the american candy or bring them home and encourage tasting indian kheer in either case its a tough decision to make deep in their hearts the firstgeneration parents want indianness to bloom and show in their second generation kids whether it be showing respect to elders food education and exposure to art forms of india and of course performing the traditions for indian festivals or at least taking part in those activities some nri parents may argue that india is now very westernized and there is no difference between the upbringing worlds of the two india may have adopted some parts of western culture but its still enveloped in a closed segment of indianness and the westernness is less contagious unlike living in the west itself there is barely any conversation about divorces or separations in schools while its predominant in the west in vest once kids reach teenage there is peer pressure to have night partiesboyfriendsgirlfriends and when the kids grow up no matter how the parent is openly thinking and letting them enjoy their life and teaching the values they search for the indian bridegroom only as their life partner the heart would go for it it would be hard to convince their own selves to accept someone in their family that is probably not us the kids would adapt to the medium they are in the culture friends and atmosphere while indian culture teaches love and respect the western culture teaches independence all the way the thought process has been topdown parent to child but if it is bottomup it would be a 360 degree shift there is some fact to it but majority of the settlers have other reasons to choose pollution unavoidable relatives scorching heat cleanliness and above all work culture kids need love in abundance and it becomes the primary and sole ingredient for their academic social and emotional upbringing the secondgeneration nri kids would have only a few instances to completely indulge in the love of familyfriends oh yeah the people in a country like the us are very friendly greet each other good morning even if they dont know each other but even a sixyearold can figure out that they dont mean it but just say it when it comes to education some nri parents try to use quick fixes sending them to afterschool math classes mother tongue speaking programs or raise the children in india until they reach teenage the intention of the parents is commendable no matter what they try to do its only to see the child successful in all respects and yet preserve their sanity the nri parents all the time teach indian formula while the child conveniently conceives american concept according to immigrant studies the firstgeneration immigrant is more successful than the future generations there is