love with the idea of dating a person you are working with but the moment you get out of that set and you see the actual person things change initially i was commitmentphobic and felt stifled in a relationship and felt that marriage is something forced upon you by society i feel that i can have the same level of commitment without marriage and that is why i have not made my relationship official and he does not feel the need for it either mentally i feel safe and reassured and am no longer skeptical about getting married i am dominating and a free spirit and know that no one can contain me