you got engaged you told all your friends and now you want to hurry up and pick a venue and set your date you are likely doing this alone because you havent hired a wedding planner yet 7 steps to your perfect wedding venue my sons take their seats the motor kicks on and the swings start turning to the right in a soft careful circle it is their spotlight it is as wide as a slow dance and twice as wild their hearts beat accordingly they pass me by again and again the only thing that changes is the calendar occupy childhood or how i learned to love the moment