accepting each other for who they are which you can only do only if you live together when you live apart you are only looking at what is good and avoiding the bad things i feel that living apart together is more of a convenience says veenathings to reflect upon while stressing that it is an individual choice making it inappropriate for her to say if lat is right or wrong psychotherapist meera ravi suggests that couples should ask themselves the following questions before considering the arrangement how do you define a marriage what is it that you want from the marriage how long will this arrangement work what could be the longterm effect of this kind of relationship what happens if the underlying main issues are not addressed are there no other options whats the final outcome what are your conflict resolution skills as a coupleceleb lat couples arundhati roy and pradip krishen helena bonham carter and tim burton woody allen and mia farrow used to live apart when they were married katharine hepburn and spencer tracy margaret drabble and michael holroyd