in order to determine what led to the situations you currently find yourselves in as a couple you need to utilise this situation as an opportunity to introspect about your relationship with your husband it is important to attempt to determine what could have potentially led you to make the choices you did what role was played by each individual and the manner in which you would like to move forward acknowledge accept and take responsibility for your actions and also take the more proactive stance in working towards enhancing communication and rebuilding trust with each other this can be facilitated with the help of an expert who through the utilization of a neutral stance and specific techniques would be able to help both of you individually and as a couple create a dynamic that restores your relationship if you would like to work towards the samei am a pg student studying at the open school and preparing for government jobs i really want to change my attitude towards life and my career but i feel stuck and have no motivation i wanted to do something else but wasnt allowed next my family talked me into preparing for jobs during my undergrad i struggled with studies jumping from job to grad syllabus and back i didnt score well in my graduation now it feels like i dont know how to study at all i try so hard to understand things but theres no progress last year i tried to talk to my parents about my mental health and how i feel like a mess all the time they arent aware of mental health and didnt consider what i said and instead scolded me after that i never shared my feelings with them i dont have friends i have no emotional support i feel so depressed exhausted and negative all the time sometimes i get suicidal thoughts too and i know i cant do it i think that i have ruined my life due to others expectations i dont want to live like this all i want is to be happy loved and to have a reputed career can you help me get out of this mess anonymous alone youngster this can be a rather difficult situation to find yourself in particularly as you are trying to equip yourself with the right knowledge and skills to work towards building a good future the impact this has had on your wellbeing can make it difficult to maintain an optimistic outlook that would also involve taking a problem solving approach even though currently you may not be sharing your emotional and psychological experiences with your family it would be helpful to consider staying in communication with some friends so that you do not feel alone and isolated you should first start by addressing the mental health related concerns that are emerging and consider meeting with a psychiatrist or a psychologist who can help you assess what intervention may be required currently