question i am a 30yearold woman and have been married for three years my problem is that i have a very dominating mother and she keeps interfering in my life this makes my husband very upset we had clearly conveyed this to her and asked her not to be so concerned about what is going on in our life but she never listens we cannot make any plans without informing her her interference is creating a gap between me and my husband how do i make my mother stop poking her nose in our businessby anonymousresponse by rachana awatramani sometimes parents interfere in their childrens life as they are too attached with their children and in the process of bringing them up they forget to maintain boundaries with them and miss the fact that children are born through them and not to them i comprehend that you are 30 years old and married for three years and you have been facing challenges in your marriage as your dominating mother keeps interfering in your life i can understand that it can be very frustrating and also difficult for you to have a healthy relationship with your husband you have also tried to speak with your mother and asked her not to interfere however it does not seem to be working for you and your mothers behaviour has created a gap between you and your husband i see you struggling with balancing between your married life and your mother i would recommend that you first meet your mother and spend some time with her to understand what is making her get involved in your relationship second create boundaries with her i get she is dominating nevertheless you will have to tell her that you will speak to her for a limited time during the week third your mother might be missing you and would be also worried and concerned about you therefore she wants to know about your life after your marriage she might also not have much work to do to keep her busy hence plan out her day with her and make sure she is involved in meeting people yoga class or a hobby class etc to keep her occupied finally you and your husband can visit a counsellor to take guidance to bridge the gap between both of you ms rachana awatramani is a counseling psychologist at insight counseling services in mumbaiwant expert advice for your relationship send us a mail at expertadvicetoigmailcom