beijing a chinese television drama has depicted a boy dropping out of a relationship when he finds out that his girlfriend is not a virgin this has sparked an intense debate in the local social media with thousands of people debating on the virtues of virginitythe soap opera ode to joy is inspired by the american drama sex and the city but touches on aspects of life in china which are not always similar to the western life the soap which is now attracting the highest number of audience narrates the life of five attractive looking women who live on the same floor in an apartment complex in shanghaithe debate in the social media is a piece of dialogue in the tv play in which the boy ying qin says how can i trust that a person who disgraces herself has the ability to love methe story has several dimensions but what has drawn the maximum attention in the chinese social media is the question of whether virginity is still the most valued asset for an unmarried woman questions are being asked why the same standards of virginity are not applied to men as intensely as they are in the case of women many have posted comments that virginity complex was holding back career women from achieving their potential and giving their men colleagues an undue advantage at the workplace others have bitterly criticized such irresponsible attitude saying that virginity has nothing to do with the career growth of a deserving womanthis is not a right or wrong issue people with different social backgrounds may have opposite attitudes toward virginity china daily quoted zhang chenhua a professor at beijing normal university as saying but i personally do not encourage premarital sex zhang addedan online survey conducted last year by internet giant tencent revealed that 471 percent of the respondents were not bothered about whether their partner had sexual experience in the past the survey which covered 50000 anonymous internet users also showed that 322 percent of the respondents had engaged in sex with their partners just one month after they started dating