if you sense that your child may be reluctant to put his toys or projects away acknowledge the importance of his work by telling him he does not have to clean up heres an idea dont clean up no matter how much you read or prep or think you know how having children will change your life your perspective and perhaps most importantly your marriage there is really no way to predict it no way to anticipate how you and your partner may differ on parenting goals values methods until you are facing them head on how to be happily married with children