divorce is no walk in the park but there are things that you can do to make getting through this time easier and less painful such as being aware of these five most common mistakes the 5 biggest mistakes people make when considering a divorce one of the reasons that selfgrowth does not always result in better marriages is that it does not take place in the context of relationship the enlightened spouse how selfgrowth can wreck a marriage in the nyt motherlode blog yesterday a mother wrote about the judgement she felt when she announced she was having her second parenting a second child is forcing me to chill out