in the wake of the newtown shooting president obama called for a national conversation about mental health but that conversation really begins in your home and your community and it doesnt start and stop with individual tragedies the barriers to mental health care for kids and how to overcome them those of us with healthy children may for a time enjoy the luxury of remaining oblivious to their vulnerability and impermanence but when a close call provides an unwelcome reality check we can take some comfort in the fact that all parents are really and truly in this together other parents grief