now says prateeksha jain a 23 year old girlit is mostly the fear in the child of being neglected by others that also leads to a feeling of indifference and possible resentment towards the new parent it is hard for a child to understand and not get influenced by all these stereotyped ideas of media and society and thus he or she builds a hate relationship with the father says dr samir parikh a clinical psychiatristthe word stepfather doesnt exist for me sikander kherfor actor sikander kher whose mother kirron kher divorced his biological father gautam berry years ago its simply fantastic to have a father like anupam kher whatever i am today is because of him says actor sikander kher as a child also he was always there for me he says and though sikander is closest to his mom with dad too he doesnt mind sharing a secret or two yes i am quite close to him he has always been a good father and i love him thats it the word stepfather just doesnt exist for me he explainsmothers rolethe magnitude of a mothers role in relationships as sensitive as these is immense often the mother gets caught up in a dilemma about whom to side with when an altercation does start between the father and childshe has the make or break power and it is unfortunate to note that in most cases it is her illusiveness that that worsens the situation and drives a deeper wedge in the relationship one of the major drawbacks i have seen in such cases is that the mother often defends the child for the wrong reasons this not only encourages the child to do that thing again but it also makes him see his father in the wrong light says dr aruna broota clinical psychologist at the department of psychology delhi university if the mother wants her husband and child to have a healthy relationship she should not come in between them she addsstepfathers are probably one of the most misfortunate and misunderstood souls on this planet though not all of them would be eager to make an effort to know their child and get in hisher good books yet there are a majority for whom their childs smile is worth all the gold in this worldheres a toast to a sensitive yet sacred bond that is yet to get its due creditfathers day special