what is the reason she is shopping so much which is giving her momentary happiness secondly spend time with her and guide her to create small goals and long term financial goals and lastly discuss each others expectations from this relationship and discuss financial goals as well for your long term relationship which is also an investment you will require patience to deal with this situation and im sure you will do your best and later you both can meet a counselor who can help you both work on your relationship ms rachana awatramani is a counselling psychologist in mumbaiwant expert advice for your relationship send us an email at expertadvicetoigmailcom