he is not aware of our feelings for him but he tends to talk more to my sis than to me its obvious that some compromises are crucial to sustaining loving and lasting relationships my parents want me to opt for an arranged marriage but i am madly in love with a girl who is not from my community thats what friends and family are forme and my sister are 18 and 16 years old respectively however the girls parents have agreed to the match he has also said that he is okay if i want my son to stay with me what you share with the other man is a great friendship and i dont know why you want to confuse that equation at 18 there are a lot of new emotions new situations and lots of learning about relationships and relationship handling what are the chances that he will be a good husband a good provider or a good parent to your child there are no guarantees in relationships and compromises should only be those that you dont deeply regret later you share a life a marriage a good equation and most importantly a child with your husband also remember a person should love you for who you are not because youre trying to fit into a mould and become someone youre not however we have very few common interests i am an 18year old girl in a relationship for the last two years you have learned your most important lesson you cannot make someone love you or make someone faithful i am a 35yearold married woman with one kid but for some reason he has not changed when i asked him to stop talking to a particular girl he was a sweet and caring guy till the time he went to college this is neither respectful to the bond you both share nor does this unhealthy competition serve you in the future i dont want to upset my parents but what if they dont come around and accept us if you are financially independent you can certainly proceed with your love and commitment to her however if they are only being respectful of the community theyll come around as you matter more you both are madly in love with each other her parents have agreed so the only contentious angle is the role your parents will play in this scenario certain compromises are obvious ones like having to get along with the inlaws whether you like them or not or to cut down on boys nights out because you have a lonely wife to come home to or giving up the dream to buy the fancier car because in the toss up a membership to the club for your family was of greater importance etc however there is a far more sinister form of acceptable and expected compromise that i feel is belittling and damaging to women recently i met a guy who i am attracted to