view the relationship and our role in their lives2 let them know that you are available for advice and counsel but dont feel bad if you are not the first person they approach and prefer to go to an uncle or aunt or to a therapist like most adults they will seek advice from many sources and then distill the knowledge gained and act accordingly that is part of becoming an adult3 allow them to stumble and fall because that is how they will learn to dust themselves get up again and try once more you are not going to be available at all times and and there are many complex life situations which they have to navigate by themselves4 let them make choices many times wrong choices help in identifying the right ones be available to listen provide advice when asked or make gentle suggestions with permission rather than giving directives they will appreciate that you trust them and believe in them and will come back to you because they know you will not judge them a lot of parents worry about how relatives will view their child or their family especially when the children make out of the box choices and tend to distance themselves from their grownup children or become harsh instead parents should be curious about this wonderful independent young person in their midst and try to navigate a new relationship with them5 find things you can do for yourselves and have your own circle of friends and activities many parents are not able to let go of control because they have focused entirely on their children all their lives and have never explored their own wishes or found spaces that give them joywant some advicesharing can help your recovery so write to us at talkitouttimesgroupcom with your question name and place but if you wish to stay anonymous do indicate that in your emailif you need counselling please contact the following helplinesaasra 919820466726 24x7cooj 91 9822562522 17pm monfriicall 91 9152987821 monsat 10am8pmfortis 91 8376804102 9am5pmkiran 18005990019 24x7sumaitri 91 9315767849 2630pmsaath 91 7926305544 17pmsneha 91 9566027776 10am2pm vandrevala foundation 18602662345 91 7304599836 24x7