place in spite of you constantly reminding himher dont make threats especially of divorcing next explain to them individually that they need to respect the relationship you share with each of them and hence you expect them to be cordial with one another if nothing more the only opinions that matter are of the two of you if your partner continues with hisher spending habits in the future too go alone or with your friends send photographs to show that you are having a gala time without himher another issue that leads to an argument is my husband after returning from work tries to wake up the kids who are fast asleep a kiss for a longer life