works with an advertising firm in mumbai if you doubt whether your partner will be able to bear the truth about your past affairs or secrets its better to abstain from sharing them confessing about your exes can make you partner lose faith in you and make your life miserable so its better not to say things you might regret later advices archana nanda a psychologistguilt pangswhatever may have happened its in the past it doesnt really matter and its more likely to create problems rather than solve them if you share everything with your partner hoping that it will bring you both closer you need a reality check your partner may not necessarily be pleased to know the truth i had an affair with a senior when i was in college and i still havent been able to forget her also i recently met my ex when i went to appear for an interview and we exchanged phone numbers now i am married and also have a 4yearold son but my past keeps haunting me i feel guilty of not being true to my wife i feel as if i am cheating on her ive tried many times but i still havent been able to confess it to her says sunil joshi name changed on request 32 a marketing executive often people feel guilty of not being true to their partners if they are hiding anything from them but the belief that your partner needs to know everything about you for a happy and long lasting relationship is a mere myth sharing your past can at times ruin your relationship and affect your future adds archanawhile it may be tricky to tell your partner about your ex or fling with a colleague it may also be beneficial in some ways heres howalso readdecoding female body languageinfidelity hits men women differentlyno time for loveis your partner true to youare you dating a married man is your partner true to youare you committed to your hubbyten signs your partner is not into youdreaming of a blissful marriage forget itmutual understandingif your partner has shared everything about hisher past with you and you have willingly accepted it its possible that he may be more willing to know about your past too if both of you take the past deeds in a healthy spirit and laugh it off it can strengthen your mutual trust and understandingmy husband and i share a very healthy understanding we know everything about each other whether it is about our exes or childhood crushes but it has never been a cause of worry or suspicion in our relationship we trust each other completely and never suspect each other of having an extramarital affair i think its all about trust if you are true to your partner nothing can come between the two says nivedita prasad a home makerconfessing it at the right timewhen and how you make such confessions play an important role in determining your partners