over jeans as assorted wannabes lined up to shake hands with the crown prince of the tata empire mistrys reluctance to be part of the social scene is likely to make him more popular here rule no 1 remember good luck brushing off the attention cyrus but if it surprises you that someone may actually choose to not be a part of this glamorous world youd be confused to hear designer sandeep khosla say nobody wants to be a socialite the word has been used so loosely it has an offensive ring to it these days the power of a socialite is lost earlier a socialite was someone who was good generous and yes influential a veteran fashion designer crowns godrej and ambani as the classiest they host international actors and politicians in their living rooms someone like an anish kapoor is welcome at nitas home for instance a world of creative geniuses have enjoyed her hospitality gauri khan star shah rukh khans wife has an open house he says the younger breed includes goodlooking dynamic women who possess class and money like natasha poonawala he adds about the lady married into the poonawala family well known for their stables and their association with the turf exposing the layer beneath despite days of research the writers of this feature felt several names had been left out of discussion sheetal mafatlals for instance is that how fragile the tag is marital discord and you are done but if thats the case how do those with far flimsier claims to fame manage to stick around sabina chopra says its because they are frighteningly shameless retracing the socialite explosion to the economic boom she explains at one point there was a continuous string of launches a book launch followed by a restaurant opening and then a designer store launch when photographers saw the same face at three events in a row they would start clicking confident that this must be somebody shocked at how aggressive wannabe socialites can be chopra shares some of them run across the room as you enter just to say hello even if you dont know them youd feel compelled to be polite then she quickly corrects herself its not just women though for every woman doing it theres a husband or boyfriend following suit or even leading the way how do the roomcrossers get on the guest list to begin with chopra says the mystery has baffled her too id have a party and be absolutely certain that the guest list was airtight yet half way through it id see people i didnt know and then there are the ragpickers once at a newspapers anniversary party i had people calling me to say if you are not going could i have your invite d is disappointed that the grande dames have been sidelined by flashy arrivistes who wouldnt recognise class if it hit them on the head today some socialites are event managers in disguise they