the son in turn feels responsible and reciprocates this dependency and forms an unhealthy codependent relationship i would recommend you to take professional help to uncover this aspect of the relationship and help him healit also seems to me that your relationship never got developed into a primary or core family unitof you your child and your husband forming the core family unit and strengthening it would help make that unit a priority it would make your husband feel more committed and responsible towards you and your son while that unit never got strengthened you may have had to take over the responsibility to look after the financial and emotional needs of your child alone weakening the nonexistent foundation of your relationship further complicated the matter however this strengthened your husbands unhealthy attachment to his mom which led him to seek her approval for everything including decisions and discussions around leaving the job starting the business and expanding the business and you remained out of itthere are benefits of being with a man who is so close to his motheroften he is more in tune with his emotions than the stereotypical man would be however to survive this and benefit from it you will have to ensure that the motherson set healthy boundaries in their relationship i have often seen there is a need for a lot of selfwork to be done by people who are unable to clearly establish boundaries they often have very weak concepts thus before working on your relationship you will also need to work on yourself then you need to work on establishing building and strengthening your husbandwife relationship lastly learn to build healthy boundaries this does not mean you have to leave the mother out every relationship should have its place and if a person doesnt understand it you may have to step in and reclaim it seek professional help to heal yourself help your husband and work on your relationship if left unattended this will definitely affect your child and his ability to establish healthy relationships in the futureboundaries not only keep unhealthy relationships out they also keep good relationships intactms zankhana joshi is a mumbai based counseling psychologist and a dance movement therapy practitionerwant expert advice for your relationship send us an email at expertadvicetoigmailcom