for your friends to be concerned because they care about you do a thorough background check about this person before you get into a relationship you could also ask him why he needs time to reply if it is a genuine thought then give him space and allow him to revert with an honest answer meet him offline before you take it any further online dating can be tricky because you know only what is presented to you which may not always be true remember it is not bad to trust your instincts about a person and often they are the ones that point you in the right direction however base your instincts on facts you will have ample opportunities in life when love will knock your door the decision to make someone a part of your life should be taken with caution and time i am a 19yearold girl i had a relationship for four years and it ended recently we had trust issues and would quarrel over silly matters he has moved on but i feel guilty for breaking up i am unable to trust anyone and feel lonely i feel sad seeing him with his new girlfriend i am not able to concentrate on my studies please guide meanonymousit is difficult to move on but not impossible trust is one of the pillars of a relationship lack of trust is a strong enough reason for a break up you are feeling guilty because you hold yourself responsible for contributing to the fights leading to the breakup this is an important realisation it indicates that insecurity existed in your relationship while it was at its peak and continues even now because of which you feel that you are unable to trust anyone seek assistance from a therapist and address the insecurity to help you heal you through this concern and deal with loneliness start journaling your thoughts and feelings this will give you a safe space to express making you feel lighter and helping you cope betterif you need counselling please contact the following helplinesaasra 91 9820466726 24x7cooj 91 9822562522 17pm monfriicall 91 9152987821 monsat 10am8pmfortis 91 8376804102 9am5pmkiran 18005990019 24x7mpower 1800120820050 24x7nimhans 0804611 0007sumaitri 91 9315767849 2630pmsneha 91 9566027776 10am2pm vandrevala foundation 18602662345 91 7304599836 24x7want some advicesharing can help your recovery so write to us at talkitouttimesgroupcom with your question name and place but if you wish to stay anonymous do indicate that in your email