have met a partner who had designed the same two lists then you have indeed made an everlasting match in heaven but some things that work are being realistic keeping your perceptions under check and have patience tanushree dutta the biggest secret to a healthy happy relationship is to seek to give and we let each other do that without any questions asked we asked some celebs what according to them was a happy relationship and this is what we came up with i think it is kind of tough to figure out the secret to a happy and healthy relationship for me the most important ingredient in a relationship is the ability to give space to each other as well as find time to do things together