in my opinion science should not be treated like a ping pong ball no one study replaces all that came before every study should be interpreted in context situated into the prior body of accumulated understanding because thats where studies make sense just my opinion whether that secret crush is creating fear and insecurity or a secret habit is stirring up guilt secrets come with a cost that more often than not far outweighs the benefit so what is this cost added emotional weight that pulls you down emotionally and physically the weight of a secret what do you say to console someone who has seen the ugliest side of humanity who has faced their worst nightmare who has lost everything what do you say to comfort yourself im not an expert on grief and loss but fortunately i happen to know one what to say to yourself and those you love when the worstcase scenario comes true