the same quality of transience life is a balanced exchange of one with the other and this is lesson number eight dont attach yourself to either theyre both going to change with the same certitude take them with the ephemeral spirit of their impermanence and manage them with a healthy dose of good humour laugh at yourself when you are despairing shed a tear or two when one of my movie plots makes you hysterical with laughter we did actually consider guddu donating a single eye to his blind girlfriend and both of them waltzing into the sunset eye patch to eye patch kabhi khushi kabhi gham was the title of an indian style family drama in which i was one of many heroes and it means just that to be happy sometimes and sad others is the very beauty of a life lived in full measure why fail yourself by desiring one emotion and detesting the other you know ive acted in over 50 fulllength movies if i took you through a journey of each title wed be sitting here forever and youd all end up fast asleep this wonderful venue being most uncemetery like notwithstanding so ill wrap up with my last two lessons live from the heart dil se love love people love the world around you love animals and birds and big cities and mountains love dreams love life love your work your friends and your enemies even if you feel least like it most importantly my friendslove yourselves embrace all that this life has in store for you let your heart be as deep as the deepest ocean and as wide as the farthest horizon know that it is limitless love is not an excuse to grab or to hold or to own or to barter it is the only excuse you will ever have to call yourself special and if someone you love lets you down dont fault yourself for not trusting him fault yourself for not trusting your love enough to forgive hisher trespasses you never know what the future will bring whether there will be a tomorrow or not i died at a shockingly young age in a movie called kal ho na ho which means exactly that and i wasnt even a smoker i never let my two older children watch it to the end we even filmed a whole alternate ending especially for them but now they have grown up and like all of you will soon be embarking on a wondrous journey of their own instead of trying to protect them from life the wiser and older version of me grabs every chance to tell them live as hard as you can in this very moment live now live today you may not see it with your youthful eyes but now is as much time as you will ever get because tomorrow we we will all be dead and just in case there is no cycle of rebirth etcwhy