relationship when you are kind and respectful you are allowed to compassionately but firmly set boundaries and ask for what you need know that she might never change dont expect her to change instead armour yourself with selflove dont look for validation from her or anyone outside of youim a working financially independent girl i stay with my parents i have never been in a good relationship with any guy i liked so far i am a shy girl with very limited social connection im scared to get into a relationship as i got mistreated by the men i liked my mom is worried about finding a good alliance for me because the whole idea scares me i find it difficult to socialise with men will i stay alone forever anonymousthe idea of committing whether it be to a new job or a new relationship brings on intense feelings of anxiety and an urge for avoidance you seem to be having a fear of intimacy and it is affecting your ability to form or maintain close relationships it appears that you are shying away from the things that would make you happiest because they also might make you feel pain it is also evident that relationship anxiety has become a fear or phobia for you as you have repeatedly experienced some hurtful situations while our fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of a relationship we all harbour defences that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt therapy can offer a safe space for you to discuss issues and identify challenges understand your emotions and teach you coping techniques i am a student of class 12 my mom scolds me using vulgar words whenever i make a mistake of course we should get scolded for our mistakes but not in foul language those vulgar words make me sad and angry at my mom i tried telling her this but she wont listen to me what should i do to make her realise how i feel anonymousit appears that your mother is emotionally abusive toward you many parents dont realise their actions are hurtful they may not know a better style of parenting or they may not realise that taking out their emotions on their child is abusive your mothers behaviour comes from her not from you dont let your mother guilt you into thinking you need to take her bad treatment you probably already recognise the triggers things said or done that really sets your mother off set boundaries and let her know that its hurtful the most effective thing you can do is set boundaries for yourself and maintain a distance if possible if you do not feel like confiding in any close friend or relative try sharing your experiences in a safe environment like support forums or a counselling helpline learning stress management skills and building up your selfesteem can also help you cope