compare those times with today girls today are open about their personal life they are saying look i can be professional and give my 100 even if i have a personal relationship they are saying whether i am married or whether i have a boyfriend it is none of your business but those days it was taboo for girls to have a personal life whereas the heroes could be married and have children laughs there were many criterion for what actresses were supposed to do and what actors were supposed to do i tried to fit in but i was termed a bold person today when i see the younger generation being bold honest hardworking talented and very happy in their personal space i feel that bollywood has come of age people have evolved become kinder and it is better for women in our business today bombay is going to be counted among the best movies you have worked on what do you remember about its making and working with mani ratnamwe worked like a family while shooting suhasini would come and help me with the songs and with working with the kids we all worked really well together mani sir is a very hardworking director when he shoots one must be up by 4am with full makeup for bombay it meant i had to be up by 2am to get ready but nobody minded it everybody was geared up it was also fantastic shooting with him and santosh sivan for dil se mani ratnam is a genius he is intelligent extremely wellread and sensitive i also absolutely love suhasini and arvind swamy i have always retained good friendship with the team and we all meet even today whenever i go to chennai i am very fond of them i am also fond of kamalji because he is a very sharp intelligent committed and passionate person he does whatever he says he will do i am also fond of ar rahman and got an opportunity to work with him in his production venture 99 songsare you glad that your movies like bombay dil se and agni sakshi among others are still culturally relevant i didnt choose these films these films chose me i didnt go around making any kind of conscious decision saying i want to work with so and so director or that i want to do a particular film i did nothing on those lines the directors the projects i feel they chose me i did what i was meant to doyou have survived a failing career bad relationships alcohol addiction and cancer would you call yourself a survivor or a warrior i am a warrior but i would want to call myself a peaceful warrior incidentally it is also the title of one of my favourite books way of the peaceful warrior by dan millmanwho are the women who have been constants in your life first off id list my mother and grandmothers my