there were no tabloids or gossiploving hindi news channels in the late 70s and early 80s but when actor raj babbar a father of two fell in love with and married coactor smita patil it created controversies loud enough to shake up babbars family after patil passed away in 1986 barely hours after giving birth to a son pratiek babbar reunited with first wife nadira and children aarya and juhi aarya who turned 29 this week concedes to have not made a ripple in bollywood yet eight years after codebuting with amrita rao in ab ke baras it bombed pataka bhi nahi phoda he smiles removing his shoes to sit crosslegged in a hotels lounge chair his career is poised better now with films like tees maar khan and anees bazmees next in his kitty but thats not we want to talk about here are excerpts from a freewheeler about growing up to fight the devilsyou havent had the sort of childhood most celebrity kids in india do yes i didnt enjoy growing up kids around were mean people looked at you in a different way to make it worse i was a fat shy kid who used to not talk to anyone i locked myself up in my own world keeping twothree of my friends and avoiding public contact it was obviously connected to the controversies and complexes surrounding my family any child watching his parents fights will go through trauma remember mere bhai ki film jaane tu the character manjaris parents are always fighting and it reflects in her behaviour if there was a device which could erase my childhood memories i would really use it you were very young but how was it later on coping with the aftereffects of your fathers relationship outside of his marriageyoure talking about smitajiyesyes i was just fourfive and didnt understand things at the time but it left strong visuals my mind the aftereffects of your parents actions affect the kids for a very long time mentally and emotionally it obviously didnt feel nice which child would like a father having an extramarital affair as i grew up i became this rebellious teenager with a strong negative point of view i was behaving like a complete a deciding to not take money from home and becoming a freelance journalist my attitude towards everything changed there was a phase in which my dad and i just didnt get along but then as you grow from being a boy to a man you start understanding things more today i look at things more rationally i have realised that since i cant change what has already happened i ought to look at the positives kuch bhi ho mujhe mera bhai toh miladid it help that your father stood up for the relationship he had with smitaji listens intently thats a good question yes i really respect him for that it takes a man to stand up and say yes i did this and