love triangles are not only common in movies and books but in real life too remember that time when your best friend and you had a crush on the same guy in class in your teenage years its worse if the boy seems charming to both the girls here are some ways to help you get out of such a sticky situation and save your friendshipobserve the hints gauge your friends body language when she is around the two of you it will help you learn how serious the problem is even if you both like the same guy was her comment about having a crush on him a passing one or was she serious go for a movie or dinner together and invite the guy toosubtly observe does your friend keep trying to catch his eye or touch his arm too often if yes you can be certain that she has fallen for him too decide how you want to take things forwarddo a background check if you share common friends with the guy it wouldnt hurt to find out about his past relationships has he had a string of breakups this will not only give you an idea about the kind of guy he is it will also help you find out if he is the right guy for you and your friend too if they end up togethertake a compatibility test make a mental list of reasons why you like this boy and compare them with the things you dislike moreover are you into the same kind of hobbies or activities that he loves or does he share more common interests with your friend if you feel you are not compatible with him it might be better to back off save your friendshiptalk to your friend muster courage and talk to your friend about the problem says clinical psychologist and psychotherapist varkha chulani it is important to be honest with each other best friends often compromise their feelings by backing off because they dont want to hurt each other however it is important that you are true to yourself and the guy you like by expressing your feelingsdont let it affect your friendship remember that your friend has been there for you much before this guy came into your lives also there is a greater chance of her being around a lot longer than he possibly will think about the times youve spent together and ask yourself if it is really worth throwing your friendship away over a guylet the guy decide this one is the actually simplest solution it is best to leave it to the boy to decide who he likes says chulani a winwin situation for your relationship as well as friendship you will know whether the guy really likes you and you will also not be mad at your best friend since the boy made the choicewalk away unfortunately if for some reason the guy chooses your best friend make peace with the