we are a ticking temper timebomb from a facebook post to a roadblock anything can set us off but anger is not all bad it can be healthy and even lifealtering aristotle was a bright bloke in nicomachean ethics he wrote the man who is angry at the right things and with the right people and further as he ought when he ought and as long as he ought is praised but then aristotle didnt live in the world of road rage traffic jams social media diarrhoea and impossible deadlines enough to make our inner hulk come out theres a lot of stimulus available nowadays to make us lose our cool says psychiatrist dr samir parikh life coach dr vinita malhotra jha calls everyday anger a big city problem where few people are fighting over limited resources parikh says but its just like any other emotion its what you do with it that makes it negative or positive healthy or unhealthyanger vs aggression the word on the street is that anger doesnt serve any purpose studies have shown that it puts your heart at risk increases your chances of a stroke weakens your immunity leads to depression and shortens your life and nobody really likes an angry person anger may become a problem but its not the problem the problem is aggression rather the aggressive actions that stem from anger as opposed to being with the angry feelings per se what experts say needs managing is not feelings of anger but aggression for anger to be constructive it should be a twoway dialogue the anger response should be justified and expressed as the first step in trying to solve a problem anger becomes toxic when it becomes personal when expressed assertively and not aggressively anger is actually constructive healthy anger is a mix of effective communication of thoughts and feelings with respect psychiatrist dr bhavna barmi sayshealthy anger the keyword here is control just like chocolate cake anger has to be regulated in india we love a good fight jha says but not even one per cent of people understand constructive anger the first step towards tapping into your healthy anger zone is to become selfaware why you got angry and how you acted when angry parikh says improving your worklife adequate relaxation and knowing your trigger points will help you deal better with it for instance if you know that the commute gets you riled up plan in advance use soothing music or find an alternate routelittle change big difference involve your partner in improving your temper anger is not a monologue and shouldnt be so jhas tip never write angry mails or messages because the hurt lingers longer when you write it it can be revisited she says but dont supress it suppressed anger is associated with higher death rates higher risk for some cancers high blood pressure and heart disease used right anger is good but its also the most