kids what a healthy lifestyle can do it also helps cavallari said that shes survived controversies before in her career i feel like controversy my whole life has sort of followed me its just sort of who i am i guess without even trying she said cavallari and cutler have been married for three years reality tv show producers have been trying to convince them to open up their suburban home to the world the mother said shell never say never to the possibility jay and i dont want to air our dirty laundry she admitted we care too much about each other my experience is reality shows end up ruining friendships and relationships and i care too much about my family