marie showed me my own anxieties and fears around commitment and marriage shedding baggage and losing my own sense of self in an effort to be with someone else when love is too much but not enough on one particular saturday i went to the thrift store in the afternoon and the radio was playing fellas call in and tell me two things you love about black women after the commercial break the dj said my stomach immediately tightened even though i hadnt yet heard any of the listeners perceptions of black women i already knew in my gut what they were going to say 7 adjectives to accurately describe black women other than strong and independent