why do women even successful ones like hollywood star demi moore find it tougher than men to dust their heart and move on we are not the ones for stereotypes but when you see stereotypes play out in front of you then what liberated independent women might scoff at the theory that the ladies take longer than guys to get over their exes but hollywood actress demi moore is proving stereotype spewers right the 49yearold star who spilt from her 34yearold actor husband ashton kutcher last year following allegations that he had been cheating on her with several women is said to have turned hysterical after pictures of him kissing his that 70s show costar mila kunis surfaced in the press a few weeks ago moore is said to have been devastated at the speed at which kutcher moved on and it turns out her response has less to do with celebrityhood or individual temperament and more with gender as a woman she is hardwired to take a breakup badly sheetal mitra would know the 26yearold mumbaibased graphic designer separated from her partner four years ago but admits to carrying a torch for the man who cheated on her the two were dating for seven years and he moved residence to the uk for two years its there that he fell in love with another woman and sent me an email saying he wanted to be with her i was willing to talk about it give it another shot says mitra who heard from common friends that he was in fact keen to cut all communication the emotional turmoil saw mitra blow her final year college exams she failed and with that her dream of pursuing academics at a us university were forgotten she says she took a better part of a whole year to recover choosing to finally settle into an arranged marriage instead of go looking for love again he is still stuck in some part of my brain maybe hell sit there forever says mitra mumbaibased relationship counsellor dr rajan bhonsle says women are emotional creatures for most women falling in love is a slow gradual process a womans attraction for a man builds over time as she gets herself to love figure understand him she invests heavily in him which is why a failed relationship or betrayal hurts more psychotherapist dr reema shah has a problem with the generalisation though the difference has more to do with social conditioning than gender she argues women are demonstrative because we have social sanction to emote openly since the expression is visible the world thinks we are having a tougher time she says men dont talk about breakups publicly like women can and do they continue with their routine which makes it seem like they arent grieving that a mans brain is capable of compartmentalising data better than a womans helps says dr shah adding which is how they are able to get back to life although they