gayatri varma a 26yearold pursuing her masters in medicine was set to marry sachin mishra in december this year but things went for a toss when during a family gettogether sachin started blowing his own trumpet he would say things like im the smartest in both the families and everyone including my parents is an idiot he believed that no one could match up to his potential on various occasions he would tell me that i should feel lucky to have him in my life says gayatri it was the last straw and i called off the wedding apart from instances of cheating and compatibility issues an increased selfworth which leads to superiority complex is also leading to divorces and breakups vitaminme complexpeople with superiority complex refuse to admit that they are at fault they are rigid and believe that their ideologies and beliefs are unquestionable but this experts say is their way of hiding their insecurities counsellor padma rewari says when kids are subjected to comparisons they develop low selfesteem they want to prove everyone wrong and as a defence mechanism they subconsciously start believing that they are the bestpsychologist and relationship counsellor sanjoy mukerji correlates it with inferiority complex and believes that both are interrelated they are both different sides of the same coin for most the need for appreciation approval attention and acceptance gives rise to this problem however if they have their selfesteem and selfworth in place this need for approval wont arise he addssymptoms and repercussionsincreased selfworth which leads to superiority complex is leading to divorces and breakupsmost people with superiority complex dont bother about other peoples emotions and it gets extremely uncomfortable and taxing to be around them psychologist seema hingorrany says as such people only focus on themselves and their accomplishments they put others down on many occasions they are also delusional and believe that others havent achieved anything at all so they end up becoming condescending also because they are forever bragging they drain you emotionally interestingly this superiority complex is equally detrimental to them she further adds a 32yearold who had recently lost his job admitted that he had bad rapport with his colleagues when i asked him what could possibly be the cause he said that people thought that he spoke too much about himself this has a snowball effect and hampers ones social and professional lifeother outcomes are they cant get along with others due to their unmalleable ways often making them loners they dont make for good bosses primarily because they cant appreciate others they are jealous of other peoples achievementshow to deal with a superior person sanjoy says most people are selfobsessed not because they want to but because of an underlying problem which makes them unhappy and depressed as long as they are harmless the best way to tackle it is by doing nothing and accepting them as they are confronting is okay but without authority why will anyone take your word seema adds