we people dating midlife were like old shoes we buff up okay but our stains and worn down heels show up fast and when shoes are worn in theyre worn in theres not much one can do to an old pair of shoes they either fit or they dont online dating a particular sort of hell id like to cement my reputation as the grinch who stole weddings by floating my lil black cloud over to the guests section raining on their reception parades with my unsolicited ironclad rules for what not to say while giving a wedding toast burnt toasts