they say your ex is your ex for a reason but since he or she was an important part of your life for a while its obvious for a few people to wish to hold onto the relationship in some capacity while many former lovers try to remain friends after breakup only some manage the transition successfully experts say that whether or not you can be friends with your ex depends upon the way you parted ways its possible to be friends as long as there is no vengeance or negativity towards your ex its best to forgive and move on also the intention behind staying connected with your former lover shouldnt be to prove that you are happier some people deliberately talk to their ex to make them feel bad or show what they are missing out on says psychiatrist dr rohann bokdawala friendship not possiblei am not friends with my ex because he cheated on me and waited to come clean till i found out we were childhood sweethearts and dated for close to four years it was a longdistance relationship when i met with an accident he used that as an opportunity to tell people that i was no more we tried being cordial after a year but he wanted to patch up and i would have chosen death over giving him a second chance says jiniya shankar aspiring author even if your relationship was healthy you should think twice before becoming pals again because research suggests that exes usually have lowerquality friendships jiniya adds i tried being friends with three of my serious exes and failed miserably however i am great friends with all my flings and casual encounters since there is no love there isnt any heartache the other sidewhile many former lovers wish to be friends they arent sure how that will affect their current relationships experts say that friendship between exes can work well if it doesnt interfere with your current relationship if you are comfortable hanging out with your current partner and ex together or if your exs partner is comfortable with you its a good litmus test arpita bose a media professional says my husband and i attended a couple of parties where my ex was also around i introduced him to my husband and they bonded well i feel it depends upon you if you can make your partner feel comfortable when your ex is around the most important factor here is honesty since my husband knows everything about my past relationships there are no hangups citybased tushar haldankar regional head for a highend furniture company believes that if both the exes move on and cross paths later its possible to have a cordial relationship we parted ways amicably and didnt stay in touch i am happily married and im sure she must have moved on too though our paths havent crossed yet im sure if we meet again we will be cordial to each other who knows we might