your relationship get clarity in your thoughts about your personal goals and then you share them with your boyfriend tell him this is what you want and what he can do about it if he is willing to be with you and is in an unhappy marriage he would work on the situation accordingly he might require time to do that and therefore you can decide on the timeline and work together as a team to achieve what you both want for this relationship any outcome of this situation can be challenging for you hence you need to be prepared for the same he might not be able to leave his wife due to his attachment with the child for having clarity for yourself and aligning your goals you can visit a counselor who can help you in this process long term relationships require a huge investment of time and emotions it is always difficult for someone to go through the process of divorce especially when a child is involved i am sure you would know this as you have yourself gone through a similar process ending a relationship is challenging nevertheless if he is not happy and they dont have a good relationship he will need to take that call and you can be there as a support with some defined boundaries for yourself ms rachana awatramani is a counseling psychologist at insight counseling services in mumbaiwant expert advice for your relationship send us a mail at expertadvicetoigmailcom