we as a family are active participants of the bhartiya societal system married couples in agreement with one another are making well researched well informed and well thought of decision of opting out of motherhood parents are held accountable with the kind of human being the child turns up to be with times changing priorities have changed all this is causing shift in the needs and desires of a couple i have seen my friends being overtly joyous on becoming parents fulfillment is coming by in various other packages when we got married my husband and i were at least clear that we did not want a child for next few years eventually as time passed my husband somehow became more and more clear about the fact that we were better off without children they want to spend their hard earned moolah on seeing the world or on an expensive hobby or a luxurious lifestyle may be as years passed by we as a couple became the object of curiosity to many around us in earlier times children were viewed as the budhape ki laathi in time my husband and i had decided we are not cut out to be parents but it also comes with a responsibility for lifetime they exist as equals in the 21st century my gynecologist told me that my biological clock was ticking but for me my clock was on mute bringing a child in to this world is no longer associated with the feeling of being whole we wanted to have a relaxed lifestyle and enjoy ourselves couples want their space and the parents want theirs or are you going to waste your life having fun like this forever it also means that you have to almost always put the needs and desires of the child before you which is not easy or possible for everyone today the mold of the purush pradhan society is about to crumble slowly not becoming parents is a choice a preference it is a culture that is engraved with the concept of an ideal family that at least consists ofmiya biwi aur do bacche the couples want to see the world tour their own country explore every nook and cranny and tread an unknown path every individuals soul food is diverse and he asked me to stand up for the decisions i have made likeminded couples now want to spend time and energy building and forwarding their careers in india the yardstick of judging a woman has been her housekeeping skills and her ability to bear a successor for the family she is married into it is a contended fulfilled life despite or perhaps because of being what is called childless never was it considered that the man also could be responsible for the same everyone was expecting us to hit the jackpot during our first night together like i find it extremely fulfilling looking after my two dogs and four cats and help every other animal in