an international survey based on 30000 individuals emphasised on how having sex once a week worked wonders for couples however sex therapists in the city feel that to increase intimacy and have a healthy and satisfactory relationship with your partner getting hot between the sheets more than once a week is necessary infrequent sex trend is alarming be it between married couples or those in a livein relationship lack of sex drive seems to be growing says dr rajiv anand marriage counsellor sex consultant and senior psychiatrist in certain sections of the society frequency of having sex is decreasing which is an alarming trend sex should not be related only with penetrative satisfaction but also be looked at as a tool to create stronger bonds and sustaining the relationship psychiatrist and counsellor dr pavan sonar adds it is a must for couples to have sex at least once a week and then some more however if both the partners are working and genuinely dont have the time or mature couples are content in a relationship then they can mutually decide how often they want to roll in the hay but for those who have enough time there should be no excuse lack of intimacy takes a toll on relationship showing continuous disinterest in having sex with your partner can adversely affect the relationship denying your partner action between the sheets will take a toll on the marriage this might affect their psychology and can make them irritable cranky angry hyper intolerant stressed and even depressed a caring husband or wife has to find time for regular sexual expression of hisher feelings or else be ready for distances detachment differences and in worst cases even divorce warns dr anand veena k who has been married for the past five years says last year there was a bit of stress in our relationship due to financial matters my husband and i would constantly bicker and there were times when i would not entertain his advances in the bedroom but i realised it was not solving any purpose so we consulted a sexologist who advised us on how to up the frequency and also asked us to keep a diary of sexual activity for two weeks by the end of the exercise we realised it helped us solve our differencessex makes you feel appreciated experts agree that one of the best ways for couples to feel emotionally connected to each other is to remain sexually active when youre a couple sex can be the best way to keep the spark alive in your relationship says gia m name changed while making love brain releases oxytocin also known as the cuddle hormone which helps you and your partner bond better i always feels appreciated after a good time in bed with my husband just having a good romp in the bed amidst the crazy routine makes us feel close dr anand adds most people who want to keep love alive and kicking in their