question i am a 35yearold married woman and i am going through a very difficult stage my husband is seven years older to me and he recently confessed to having an affair with his boss a young woman in her midtwenties according to my husband his boss forced him to have sex with her when they were on an international tour to attend some meetings he was not in a position to say no because he was expecting a promotion plus his entire career depended on this job he obliged once thinking that would be the last time but she started being very demanding and they often get physically intimate my husband told me everything because he said he loves me but he is helpless since he cannot bring this to anyones notice and he cannot afford to lose the job his boss is a very influential and strong woman after hearing all these all hell broke loose i even fought with him and threatened to walk out of the house along with our threeyearold child he begged me not to leave him i dont know what should i do or what should he do to come out of it i am not even sure if our life would return to normal even after all this ends please tell me what should i doby anonymousresponse by dr rachna khanna singh thank you for reaching out to us i understand that you and your husband are at a very difficult position in your life there is not one simple solution to this the first step is to understand and realize what is it you really want are you willing to forgive him for what he has done if this is the first time he is talking to you about this then there is a possibility that he wants to work it out with you you should think of you and your childs future and see if you still can forgive him there are two possibilities one could be that he is lying and cheating but there is a greater chance that he is not because he came up to you himself if you are willing to work it out it might take some time but you can bring back the romance and tenderness in your daily lives i understand that it is not an easy decision for you to make and also it is not possible for you to stay with him if he is in a relationship with his boss hence i recommend you to give him an option to either make the relationship work by quitting what he is into currently or quit the relationship in case your husband is going through the problems at the workplace and is willing to take a stand but fearful to leave the job you need to have an open mind and help him through the process if he is worried about finding a new job you can make him realise that the