him some level of scaffolding till he is ready to sit and work on his ownask instead of telling we are constantly telling children what they need to do and not ask them as much as is required what they would want to do so you could sit down with your child and ask are you happy with your grades right now do you think you are putting in enough time how can i help you in this make sure you ask without sounding sarcastic or angrydraw up a plan for any change to happen you would have to get down and draw up a clear plan so you might want to first make sure that your connect with your child is solid and strongthen you might want to sit with him and ask him a few questions regarding how he feels about his grades initially he might show a bit of his rebellious child i hate studying it is so boring listen to him empathise with it i know it can be a drag sometimes i remember feeling like that but bring him back to the issue i can understand you find it boring but we still need to do itafter being listened to and understanding your point of view he might agree that he needs to work on his grades too thats when you need to gently work out a plan of action make sure you dont make it too overwhelming and remember he is at 3 and we just want him to move up to 4 and not 8 work out when he could take out that hour for studying where he would like to study with whom how etcrhythms and routines when we lived in england i heard a very experienced nanny say once there is nothing like a bad child there are just bad routines it sounds a bit drastic but there is a lot of truth in that statement i do believe that if children follow a clear routine then you have already won half the battle routines give a rhythm and flow to the day if a child knows that after school she can relax for an hour followed by homework time at 4 pm playtime from 5 to 7 pm and then bath dinner reading in bed and lights off at 9 pm then chances of her following it every day without much protest are higher however if there is no clear routine and the homework can be done anytime she chooses or dinner time changes every day then she might push things around as she deems fit and everything might turn into a battle ground it could vary during the holidays when you make it more flexible with timings that can be stretched a little like get ready and finish breakfast by 10 am or finish homework before going to the park in the evening teenagers can be given a choice in making their own time schedule with some basic expectations