nagpur parenting is tough and anybody taking the plunge into this fulltime job undergoes a lot of anxiety the question whether the job is being done in the right manner or not continues to haunt most parents despite having several years of experience trying to make their task easier was well known psychiatrist dr anand nadkarni who gave some valuable tips to parents he told them to stop thinking of becoming perfect parents as ideal parenting is only a myth the thanebased psychiatrist is in the city to deliver a series of lectures samvadmala on saturday he also conducted a workshop on parenting that was jointly organized by the geriatric society of india vidarbha chapter adolescent health academy and nagpur obstetric and gynaecological society parenting is not a onesizefitsall thing every child needs a different approach depending on his own unique personality he told parents some of the important pointers that dr nadkarni gave included widening the circle of ones acquaintances concentrating on an open channel of communication and respecting the individuality of all children he spoke about the evolution of parenting through generations stressing the need for a graceful acceptance of social and lifestyle changes by parents the talk gave us several points of retrospection towards the betterment of family and social relationships he told us how there needs to be a change in the family atmosphere and value system to understand the different emotions and motivations of the new generation said madan kulkarni retired head of the marathi department of nagpur university dr vijay rodke an eye surgeon from bhandara who had come to the city specially to attend the lectures agreed through the lecture we got several practically implementable ways of improving child care and tackling adolescents not just as parents we also learnt a few things about human behaviour in general he said several of the golden mantras that dr nadkarni gave us included a stress on effective parenting rather than an ideal one avoiding labelling children unconditional acceptance and providing a good security system though we keep hearing and reading about such things this lecture gave us a solutionbased approach interspersed with many examples said pallavi dadhe principal of st xaviers high school hingna and a mother to two preschoolers one lesson that she said she had taken to heart was the statement by dr nadkarni that parenting is a partnership that needs negotiations with children sometimes it wasnt just those dealing with kids on a daily basis that came for the tips though chartered accountant ravi ramani decided to accompany his friend yogita chhablani a budding psychologist the things that i learnt today will stand me in good stead when i become a parent after listening to the different kinds of problems that the other parents are facing i will be better prepared to play the role well he saidparents must accept the individuality of the child and not label him build a good social security and support system for kids nurture children as