most of us anticipate our eyesight getting worse as we get older blurred vision the need for more light to see the list color vision problems may get more common in elderly age i listened carefully as he spoke i took notes i mulled over in detail his main points since that day i have steeped like tea in the essence of his message my sense is that if he were to write a dear dalai lama column this is what he might say mindfulness in everyday life my day with the dalai lama a primer for happiness the need to be willing to raise the difficult questions express concerns share feelings and confront issues directly and openly is the best way to prevent the possibility of a long drawn out deterioration of your marriage just hang in there but for how long