kanpur what with criticism resulting into warning signs of illness among children and increasing suicidal tendencies among the teenagers not only the children but their parents also should be counselled feel the psychological experts according to a city based clinical psychologist and counsellor manju gupta a major chunk of the younger lot are loosing confidence in themselves owing to continuous parental chiding and criticism after interacting with the children coming to us we have come to the conclusion that the parents high aspirations affect the child mentally and emotionally even as the child is declared to be ill or disturbed by the parents they forget that it is them who are to some extent responsible for the condition of the child she pointed out dr manju further added it is must to make the parents realise as to how even a small degree of criticism from them can lead to loss of confidence among their wards generally the children cannot explain their feelings to the parents and it is thus necessary that parents also undergo psychological counsellingagrees assistant psychological expert at divisional psychological centre dr gayatri shukla it is quite common these days to come across meritorious students and teenagers complaining about how their selfesteem and mental capacity is affected by the peer pressurecounselling of parents and guardians along with their wards has become the need of the hour the students undergoing stress and anxiety demand a healthy atmosphere at home as well as at their institute and the atmosphere at home can be kept light and lively if the parents know that this is what is required to keep their child happy it is only possible when they are made to understand what their child is undergoing claimed shukla who counsels the parents along with their children and advises them accordinglyanother eminent psychological expert dr l k singh too feels that the parents of the children who develop suicidal tendencies should be counselled first in order to know the reasons behind their children showing such behaviour at times its the parents who are more in need of counselling rather than the children as they are likely to be stressed and anxious about their childs performance and thus their frustration comes out in the form of pressurising the child to do what they want explains dr singh and concludes the rising incidents of suicides can be checked once the parents begin to understand what is the expectation of children from them and not putting undue burden on them