before you say i do you might now have to also include i dont which is about courtroom battles bitter kids custody and money wars that you dont want to get into should your marital bliss turn sour you might be protected via the prenup a document meant to safeguard ones assets and wealth as per reports union minister maneka gandhi wants to make these prenuptial agreements recognised in indian courts and is said to have even met law minister dv sadananda gowda for this last year in mumbai spousestobe have been increasingly opting for a prenup of latechanging mindset lawyer mrunalini desmukh admits that the prenup is a hotly debated issue now its being discussed at all forums and we get so many queries on it especially from younger couples they see horrendous stuff that others go through in courts bitter endings among friends and family too and dont want to get into the same they ask why cant we look at marriage in a more practical manner there was a recent case of a couple who sat down and thought what happens if we separate and our kids are affected so earlier a prenup was a topic one wouldnt talk of but theres a huge appetite for this now the document certainly has persuasive weightage on its own she saysit minimises allegations and litigations the prenup spells out movable and immovable assets and child custody and experts reveal that several high profile families have gone in for one the demand for this is on the rise by as much as 70 per cent and i drew up three prenups in the last two weeks itself reveals citybased lawyer siddhartha shah more people are now wanting to safeguard themselves before they marry they want to be cautious and keep things crystal clear from day one when you have such a document in place which spells things out a lot of unreasonable claims as well as stress can be mitigated he says money isnt everything either one of the cases wasnt just about a house and money but custody of the dogs and cats as people can be very emotional about their pets as well he addsshould it be made legal yes say experts legal bigwigs are in favour of the document while the prenup is not a legal document now it can be referred to as having the intention of both parties and the court definitely looks into it that said it should definitely be made valid soon adds shah noted lawyer satish maneshinde says at the moment a prenup may not hold ground legally as there are other laws in contrast to it unless the law is amended it is not possible to enforce a prenup but its high time we did so a prenup also protects the girl child so many women today dont have an income after marriage or property from their parents and it can be traumatic to be thrown out of a marital