today is the big day in the calendar for men around the world as it is international mens day maybe not too many men especially in our state are aware of it leave alone organising any kind of celebrationbut the day founded in its present format by dr jerome teelucksingh from trinidad and tobago in 1999 gives all men a great opportunity to take stock of their current status and think about future challenges in a fastchanging world with many of the social mores and conventions having gone out of the window they perhaps were never in need of a new vision more than now something which they can pass on without hesitation to their sonswe talk to prominent dads and a mom on what are the main qualities they expect in their grownup son and what will be their advice to him on this daydrink life to the brim anand neelakantan writeri will tell my son to embrace his life to do what he loves to do but never be afraid of compromises the mantra should be dream big think big act big and bet big it is his right and duty to make money be prosperous and spread prosperity but while being careful to choose values over money also do take time to enjoy nature and spend time in rain and sunshine follow a healthy life by taking a walk and doing workouts do have a hobby or two read a lot and own a pet be updated about the developments in science respect diversity in religion culture language sexuality nationality in short never be a bigot every time any derogatory thoughts about others arise in your mind just hold back think and watch them vanish also be away from drugs smoking or alcohol life is the greatest intoxicant so drink life to the brimlearn to respect women vivek gopan actorhave selfless love towards those you connect with will be my advice when it comes to women may they be of any age group treat them with respect and priority never do anything that will hurt or make them worried as he reaching adolescence i will tell him to respect their feelings and treat them well just the way he treats his mother being a parent i feel responsible to instil this quality in him i believe that growing up respecting women will make him a good man and a good husband who will be there to protect women if needed be compassionate in life prasanth nair ias officerapart from giving advice i would like him to get involved in things that would create a compassionate heart in him our society is bombarded with technology knowledge and information so they need to develop an attitude to gel with it the most important aspect we should inculcate in the present generation is compassion or the feeling to empathise with othersin the present society the term failure is a hated term people call those who fail as losers but i