married for so long and not dislike things about each other sometimes i like the fact that he doesnt talk much and sometimes i hate the fact that he doesnt talk much im like why are you so quiet there will be no conversation between us if we dont talk theres nothing ill change about him though im sure he will say the same thing about me too but the one thing hed love to have in his hands would be a remote to press the mute button on meq who do you regard as your goto guy my husband is my best friend i tell him all thats happening in my life whenever i need to vent my husband gets it from me even if hes 5000 km away ive to talk to him and tell him hes my goto guy but i do have some amazing friends tooq what are the dos and donts for the kids there are lots of dont and theres just one do laughs do exactly what your mother tells you to do thats the golden rule in the house q how has nysa reacted to your weight loss and this image makeover of a fashionista oh she has started respecting me more after i started dressing betterlaughs now shes like hmm you are looking fine but most of the time she doesnt like what i wear i only hear mama this is crap or you are looking fat or your ass is big if i listened to her id be the person with the lowest selfesteem i shout at her to stop her commentsq does age scare you my mothers age scares me but according to her she will live till shes 130q what are you afraid of im scared of cockroaches im scared of not bringing up my children well im scared of my insecurities overpowering my decisions i wouldnt want that when i put it in words the fear lessens but i try not to let my fears take decisions for meq what are your insecurities normal women insecurities am i looking fat am i looking thin am i too fat am i too thin am i looking good am i not looking good am i doing this right am i hurting someone how do i go about saying no in the most polite way there are lots of them i wont call them insecurities id call them doubts and sometimes you make your doubts take decisions for youq you once said you dont like 95 per cent of people doesnt it get difficult oh yes i dont but i dont associate with those 95 per cent my social life has gotten smaller also i have calmed down and become more tolerant now i kind of have a filter between my head and my throat my kids have taught me to look at people differently for them i tolerate people who i wont have liked otherwiseq whos the boss in