question i recently got married and my wife is a very nice person although she is welleducated but not a very caring person i didnt find her taking an interest in our relationship she does not take any initiatives as a wife and when i tried to discuss this issue she took my words very casually i never see any concern from her side which a partner should have for the other when i asked her if she was forced to marry me and if there is any other person in her life she flatly refused there is something strange about her family as well they had taken money from her after emotionally blackmailing her and now they do not keep in touch with her i had assured her that my family and i are with her and will support her but she does not seem to trust us what should i doby anonymousresponse by kamna chhibber building trust takes a long time it does not happen because someone is asking you to trust them actions over time demonstrate that a person can be trusted it is important that you have conversations with her continuously and share parts of your life with her keep finding ways of supporting her and demonstrating your love and dont hesitate to ask for what you may need in the relationship she may currently struggle to do things for you spontaneously as it is possible she is emotionally distressed over the situation with her family members give her the space to be herself while also gently guiding her to be more engaged with you and your family do things together go out spend time and make good memories with her which will certainly help her move forward if you feel that there is no shift happening over a period of time then you can also suggest seeking help with a professional to manage her thoughts and feelings about what happened with her family kamna chhibber is the head mental health department of mental health and behavioural sciences at fortis healthcarewant expert advice for your relationship send us a mail at expertadvicetoigmailcoma