when it comes to travelling partying books and fashion statements though all this does matter in a relationship but more than all this you need to find out how is heshe is as a human beingfuture planningshould we talk about kids does he plan to buy a bigger house there is so much to askrohini dutta a hr executive tells on all our meetings i first process the questions in my mind and then decide whether should or shouldnt ask them my fiance belonged to a joint family and i am scared about getting married i dont want to shock him by asking his views on having a nuclear family i know his monthly salary but i want to know more about his investments and financial planning methods without sounding materialistic dr mittal suggests when a couple is getting married you have every right to ask these questions to each other you deserve to know the financial status of you partner is heshe actually a social creature or not just phrase your questions correctly so that the other person does not feel offended