after a divorce selfcare should be your numberone priority and what better way to put yourself first that than by taking traveling alone 10 relaxing solo vacations for new divorcees as a dad i constantly feel torn between needing to be a strict tiger dad vs wanting to be a fun dad on the one hand i have a responsibility to protect my kids on the other hand i want to have close bonds with them to share in their lives and not to be the bad guy all the time how to be a fun dad but still be in control