resources to begin those conversations before a medical crisis an estimated 60 percent of people say making sure their families are not burdened by endoflife decisions is extremely important according to a 2012 survey by the california healthcare foundation which has partnered with the project but 56 percent of them have not communicated those wishes according to the survey whatever time is ahead most peoples goal is to have as many good days as possible and to really focus on each day said forrow who served as an expert on a state panel on endoflife care i like to find out something about the patient as a person before i get the medical details usually its the other way around former jazz singer dolly baker with actor clint eastwood courtesy shira lheureux at first forrow said he offered baker a dollar to sing and she launched into his favorite song over the rainbow this frail anonymous woman sitting in a chair comes alive said forrow it was the most beautiful rendition i had ever heard we stood up clapping and she says moola moola and wanted to be paid for each song so i reached in my pocket put a dollar on the table forrows simple question opened the door to a duet and eventually a dialogue between baker and her daughter baker had never admitted publicly that she was jewish according to lheureux but in the end she said she wanted a jewish funeral home to handle the arrangements after she died in the jewish tradition lheureux and other family members washed her mothers body and placed her in a shroud mother daughter singers dolly baker and shira lheureux in japan in 1970 courtesy shira lheureux she looked like a young woman her skin was so gorgeous and she had no pain and she looked so beautiful said lheureux we covered her with the star of david and after all these years of saying she was italian she chose in the end to own up to being jewish she was a drinker to the very end death by sake said lheureux who noted her mother had a marvelous sense of humor but it was a good death she said all the family was there and it looked like a scene from fiddler on the roof after the death of a loved one forrow said family members often feel guilty about the decisions they made because they hadnt discussed endoflife wishes before the death bed lheureux who was born marianne gendron said she was raised until she was 6 years old by her frenchcanadian grandparents her father ran a new york city restaurant lucky pierres and her mother was always on the road she said she remembered hiding with her two brothers behind the couch watching musicians drinking and doing drugs once she said she witnessed her father punch miles davis in the face dolly baker and shira lheureux with selena jones courtesy shira lheureux but there was all