compassionate grounds the eldest child in the family was a daughter and then there were two sons i asked the mother whom she would like to be appointed in the police i was hoping she would say my daughter but she immediately said my son there is definitely a subculture here which is antifemale its reflected in skewed malefemale ratio it is reflected in high female foeticide infanticide and the entire attitude towards women right from home to anywhere else but the good thing is that women are coming forward despite all this if you see our force there are so many women who come from the same hinterland where there is strong prejudice against women they come and join the delhi police they join the bsf they join the army things are changing in the rural hinterland of delhi and i guess the more of this intermixing the more women come out in the open and mix around with men the more attitudes will change at the moment the subculture is antifemale but its changed quite a bit since 1970 which was when i first came into the cityas a student yes i came as a student i studied in st stephens for five years and did chemistry hons horrible it was then things have changed and they have changed for the better even within my own force the attitude of a male constable towards a female constable is changing because more and more often they have to deal with a woman who is there in the police station they have to earmark a washroom for the woman they have to earmark a changing room they have to make her sit next to them all cases of rapes are being investigated by female officers and they men come to assist them so attitudes are changing graduallyand the attitude towards the police it is strange in some ways you see a reaction to an incident say in newtown in connecticut where 26 children were killed barack obama goes there whom does he meet first not the families of the children he meets the first responders he meets the ambulance staff the paramedics the police he meets the counsellors and then goes and meets the families and then goes and addresses the mediaand we typically have it in reverseaap dekhiye yahaan par parliament house par attack hua tha and it was solved within 72 hours supposing the pentagon was attacked and the fbi or some local police force cracked the case in 72 hours the chief investigating officer would be on the cover of time magazine the president would call the entire team to white house where there would be a felicitation he would have tea with them they would become heroes for the rest of their lives i have a nephew who is now an american citizen he was training to be a marine at one point of time if hes in a taxi and he tells a fellow who