love is the greatest gift that one generation can leave to another also stereotypes are the scariest curse that one generation can leave to anothernobody can do for little and big children what grandparents do grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over their lives but sometimes but but sometimes can also pass on generational patterns on those little and big liveswhy the pensive mood todayin my counselling journey i get to see gender inequality at home hindering childrens growth very often the connection between the future success of our children and the home environment parenting styles we used as parents is very strong a lot of work i do and global research confirms the connection but the role of grandparents in this journey of who our children become isnt well documented in this article today i am going to focus on grand parenting and how with the love being passed on to the next generation there is a passing on of some stereotypes and prejudices too child development experts point out often how critical first 1000 days are of babys life a lot of talk around physical health is centred around grand parents extending a hand of help and support the love and wisdom wards of physical and nutritional complications through gharule nuskhe and well meaning intentions of grand parents specifically of grand mothers grandparents play a significant role in a childs life by being a provider of love support and wisdom to their children and grandchildrenthe support often comes in being an emotional anchor helping with financial and household responsibilities additionally in india we rely heavily on grandparents and treat them as a trusted source of information in the initial growing up years of our children grandparents are also wise historians who protect family traditions and a source of expert parenting advice but there is another side to this which plays out in home environments too that is the crucial role of carrying the generational patterns and stereotypes that grandparents sometimes unknowingly pass on to their children and grandchildren one of which i am focusing today is gendered grand parenting so what is gendered grand parentinggendered grand parenting refers to gender unequal parenting style which include parental messages and behaviours that convey information about how daughters and sons are supposed to behave function and live in our homes and our society in indian homes grandparents have a big say in family dynamics grand parents outlook whether it is of open mindedness or is clouded with stereotypical gender discrimination narrative they have grownup withboth have a huge impact on our childrens lives dont let her be out too long she is a girl hey you are a boy dont cry mard ko dard nahin hota girls should start helping in household chores or else how will they handle their own homes when they get married boys will be boys and are supposed to be naughty boys need to be strong their place is