throughout this process ive left barrett the boy and have become barrett the man a man who released the shame he felt for wanting to love another man a man who addressed issues that were holding him back a man who has started to live authentically a real man coming out i am a man how one nypd officer went to jail for using a chokehold and why thats unlikely to happen in the eric garner case we are told we dont want sex often enough we want it too much we are too madeup we are not madeup enough we should love our bodies we should hate our disgusting bodies and articles like 8 things that actually gross guys out in bed are examples of the worst of this kind of shaming womens bodies and sexuality are not gross