bangalore even as the sslc results made headlines on thursday author ck meena held up a flyer on a robotics summer camp its about a oneday workshop on gearing up to be back at school she read out it was followed by a discussion on whether children be taught to pursue success or cope with failure by former ambassador of india to unesco in paris chiranjiv singh and author poile sengupta singh queried why should children become parents pet project when i came out of school even with a second class one could get seats in medicine and engineering there were no iits then in the past 40 years iit has become a disease look at indian literature some characters just dont do anything they are looked after by their families today with results follow suicides success and failure are also part of meenas book seven days to somewhere which she launched on friday it talks of a little boy growing up to taste success giving his dad highfives about making it to iit after school and harvard thereafter one of my students despised history she wanted to become an engineer together we studied the subject and she began to love it she wanted to become a historian but wasnt allowed to said poile singh too spoke of his personal experience when my son was in class 8 he just said one day that he didnt want to go to school he sat at home for a year but i was sent to england where by law we werent allowed to keep children at home he said which brought to perspective three questions what is a parents notion of success or failure whats the yardstick by which they measure success and failure why judge your child whatever the yardstick parents are enemy no 1 ive taught in schools and found that parents are enemy number one followed by teachers and peers often the child feels part of a conspiracy when he finds it difficult to summarize in three hours what hes learnt in nine months poile sengupta author