i often hear this hit back harder advice from adults who are recalling their own playground brawls from 20 30 or 40 years ago the simplicity of this advice fails to consider the complexities of the bullyvictim dynamics of todays digital world dear middleaged man who stopped to chat with me at comiccon like most parents with juniors and seniors in high school ive spent some of my summer touring colleges this was my fifth time around so i thought it was time to pass on what ive learned how to survive your childs college tours this year ive decided im not going to stand over her with a timer and a cupcake to coax her to the finish line why im going to let my daughter fail math