grandparents form a part of an essential family setup especially in indian families while it is always beneficial for children to grow up under the shadow of grandparents we are sure that parents dont always agree with their parenting styles when it comes to raising children whether it is something as simple as pampering children forcing down food choices unsolicited advice allowing kids to watch more tv than usual there can be multiple instances when parents feel grandparents are just spoiling the kidsit is quite possible that those who brought you up can have different viewpoints than you have while raising your own offspringreal problems or disturbances arise when grandparents interfere nag intrude unnecessarily or when parents forget to take grandparents feelings into consideration these could turn into familial discordsaccording to a new survey nearly 50 of parents admit to being in disagreement with how their parents watched over their grandchildren it was also seen that in almost all cases this led to strife in the relationship and familial relationsa survey conducted by cs mott childrens hospital national poll on childrens health at michigan medicine found that half of the parents who participated in the survey reported discord and disagreement with one or more grandparents about parenting styles the study also found that the repeated disagreements made 1 in 7 participants limit the time for which a child saw their grandparentsfor the same 2016 responses from parents who had children aged 18 or under were analyzedmost parents recorded to feeling a disagreement on a number of factors including discipline 57 food and meal timings 44 screentime allowance 36 apart from these parents also said that they also had a difference of opinion when it came to matters like mannerisms safety health grandparents giving into favouritism oversharing pictures and information about the little ones on social media without parents consentparents when asked to reason as to why there were disagreements said that they felt grandparents were either too harsh 14 or too soft 40 on children which made them worry for most couples discipline was the one ruling factor which created family troubleone of the lead authors involved in the study said that constant interference from grandparents made parents feel neglectedparents may feel that their parental authority is undermined when grandparents are too lenient in allowing children to do things that are against family rules or when grandparents are too strict in forbidding children to do things that parents have okayedfor most families a lot of parental differences rose from intergenerational gapsmany in the survey also said that the disagreements often led to parents to have a discussion with grandparents over household rules and parenting styles even with this there was a clear disparity while half of the grandparents obliged and took matters into consideration nearly 17 outrightly objected the findings did suggest that grandparents were less likely to cave with bigger the issue and such disagreements often made parents enforce the rule of limiting their visits and meetingsgrandparents not in