it is their lack of thought which makes men easily replaceable in relationships since they often need solutions spelt out we put together this dummies guide relationships are like any other sort of partnership if both sides are not pulling their weight one partner may reassess whether they are with the right partner relationships dont work out when one doesnt give the other what they need and the other decides to move on the best way to not be replaced be the kind of boyfriend shell want to keep around i wish more men would actively try to understand what it feels like to be in a relationship with them see it from the perspective of the women that would go a long way to discourage them from being jealous and controlling or clingy and doormat like says wendy brown clinical member ontario society of psychotherapists i cant tell you how many women have told me about the critical importance of having their person this is someone with strength and character who cares about the ups and downs of their day who is there for them when they need a loving voice a few laughs or a hug this isnt a role thats just reserved for a friendoften friends end up filling it because its so hard to find in a man says browncommunicate create a safe environment in which she is able to comfortably voice her needs and wants a lot of us women carry around this huge fear that were going to be rejected for putting ourselves out there and speaking up for what we truly want yes being vulnerable sucks for us too this is where couples tend to get into the old i just wish he knew what i wanted without me having to tell him routine says julia fordcarther an eq expert dating coach and founder of the selflove formula digital media platform that delivers modern lifestyle content for millennial women via entertaining and empowering channels until google glass features the latest in mindreading technology heres what you can do to cultivate consideration in your relationship in the moments she is open and honest with you try not to make fun of her criticise her or dismiss what shes saying be present stay level recognise her feelings as valid says fordcartherthis has a cumulative effectshow and tell her how attractive she is its also invaluable for a man to see a woman as beautiful and desirable says brown this does not mean always thinking of sex it does mean being her champion when she gains a few pounds or has a bad hair daybe good to her in bed its important to be giving in bed but thats not the only way you can be a thoughtful sexual partner on the subject of sex its really important for you to be considerate about it if shes exhausted stressed or troubled its probably not a good time to make moves on heryou need to show her