while hollywoods power couple brad pitt and angelina jolie are writing letters to each other to rekindle romance after several years of togetherness we asked couples in mumbai if they agreed with her idea what came out was rather shocking couples in the city do not have the time or intent to revive their relationship in these ways they feel the city leaves them with enough stress and unfulfilled expectations to try reviving their love life there are five reasons why couples in mumbai dont indulge in these oldworld ways to revive romanceoverload of expectations most of the people in mumbai are overburdened with expectations right from their families to spouses to colleagues your boss expects you do work exceptionally hard while your spouse has different set of expectations besides our families always expect us to spend more time with them says shailaja vora a counsellor amidst all these expectations it is extremely difficult to focus on one relationship and even if you succeed in doing so spending more time on reviving it by writing romantic letters seems out of questionfinancial commitments most couples spend the beginning of their month paying their utility bills and installments for the things they enjoy while the second half of the month is spent in saving and waiting for the next salary couples in the city are too practical in fact this is not just the case with older couples but the younger ones too they believe love is not the only driving force in a relationship they do value each other however taking care of financial commitments is equally important for each one of them and they work so hard that they usually forget to acknowledge each others presence let alone writing notes and letters opines harsh mohani a psychiatrist and motivational speakerlack of me time one of the most important ways to rejuvenate yourself is spending some time alone but mumbaikars hardly get to do that people in the city hardly take some time off their duties and responsibilities not more than 20 per cent people in mumbai spend quality me time this is one of the most important reasons of stress and lack of interest in relationships in fact many of them are completely unaware of the concept of me time adds voratake relationships for granted were already married so i dont see the reason of trying too hard this is what most couples feel about rekindling their love in my several years of counselling ive noticed people hardly say i love you to each other after being in a relationship for a while they feel it is understood and there are other things in life that need to be concentrate on than love says nayonika singha a relationships counsellorlaziness and lack of interest when asked what they do on a holiday sleeping is what most mumbaikars would vouch for its true that the city tires you with its neverending traffic to the long travels to and from work