raising our children is the most important job we will undertake we are not only raising individuals but citizens of the world each one of us and our children contributes to society in both small and sometimes very large ways there is no one handbook on how to do it emotional health the key to our childrens success pain is a natural part of life as long as we keep our eyes and hearts on the rainbow rainy days are no longer unbearable 10 things i learned from my special needs child when harry told me at age 2 that inside his head he was a girl i have to admit it was an unexpected moment and it took me awhile to realize that the awareness hed had of his outer world as an infant applied also to his inner self as a toddler and growing boy the genderqueer kid i never expected