ladies it may sometimes be hard to get a mans attention especially if hes engrossed in a cricket match or is a diehard footie fan and his favourite team is playing but what if the competition you have comes from a palmsized culprit were talking of gadgets like the smartphone or gaming device or even a laptop thats right if your guy would rather spend more time with these than interact with you thats a red flag that you need to take heed of not only do bedroom dynamics change due to it but it also leads to a feeling of isolation if you have found yourself to be such a hapless cyber widow youre not alonemy wife sometimes asks me are you married to your phoneits not a winwin situation here for either parties like in the case of kandivalibased finance executive nikhil pai who admits that technology is his passionduring the day i am involved with my finance work and the whole day goes in that but when i am back i want to catch up with the online world i like to read up on the latest happenings on sites like twitter and be the first to be updated so is being so caught up affecting his personal life yes i can relate to cyber widows because my wife has felt like that often enough she even asks me why didnt you marry your phone we often sort it out but sometimes arguments also crop up when i cant keep the phone away especially when i am watching live events like an international launch of a smartphone any advice to those like him out there well id tell people to find a balance though that is easier said than done he smiles for retail merchandiser nitisha jha from bandra who handles her work solo she needs to be online at odd hours to keep up with the timings of her clients in the us luckily my husband is very patient about it and understands my schedule but that ends up making me feel guilty too she sayswomen must first understand to be understoodsays clinical psychologist neelam vakil i have come across do many cases like this women say my partner is ignoring me and sometimes they may even say he wasnt like he was before is it because he is no longer interested in me this definitely affects the selfesteem of the person at the receiving end the person may also feel depressed and what is unfortunate is that he or she may for happiness elsewhere she warns about using virtual time as a way to get at someone i have found this to be rampant when both couples are working both spend their time online and use that to vent out on the other saying oh but you are busy working too but this is no way solve anything always talk it out instead remember the woman needs to first understand to be understood perhaps somewhere