only if you can love yourself can you love somebody else we tell you whyi found the greatest love of all inside of me the greatest love of all is easy to achieve learning to love yourself it is the greatest love of all love yourself before you get into a relationship only if you are totally happy in your life can you be happy in your relationship and you will not expect others to bring you joy psychologist prathibha desai feels that even though every individual has become independent today they are still dependent on others i dont know why but youngsters always tend to find their happiness in their partners that is why when they go through a break up they are not able to cope up they start criticising themselves for the breakup and then go into a state of depressionfinding a way to get control over ones life and find happiness in oneself is easier said than done but only when are you content with your life and are willing to give your happiness a priority can you be happy truly but some people think that self love is being selfish im a career oriented girl and ive been in a relationship since the last four years my boy friend is ok with my thinking but whenever i give my career a priority i always feel that im being selfish the worry is that i think if not him his family will think the same too shares seher motiwala but loving yourself is not selfish dont stop caring for others but maintain a balance you cannot keep sacrificing yourself for others when you love yourself first you know what kind of a person you want knowing that very clearly will allow you to choose only relationships carefully adds pratibhaan old adage goes like this to love someone else first love yourself and this does not mean that you have to be selfish for most people the biggest fear is of being left alone and because of that many people end up in wrong relationships in the tryst of finding true love something that happened with rakshita desai a college student my relationship became my world i sacrificed my goals my desires my dreams for him and when he dumped me my sense of self belief got dumped too i just couldnt raise myself to be happy again psychologist tamanna saxena gives a solution for such a situation the way you loved and supported him you need to love yourself too you have lived your life on your own and will always continue to do so no other person other than you has the right to hurt you or disrespect you or show you down when you love yourself and understand your value you are confident about yourself and this way happier in a relationship or without it so love thyself and everyone will love you backmishapaultimesgroupcom