i fought futilely against my own body so that giving birth to my only child would not be the thing that killed her the surprising thing i learned from having a micropreemie as adults we usually dont give ourselves permission to process and express our emotions but we really need to not necessarily in the middle of target but as soon as possible life lessons from my kids everyday existence those childhood feelings of participating in mandatory traditions that did not feel right still sting during the holidays i think that is why i am so passionate about making chocolate chip cookies for my kids at thanksgiving baking those cookies is my way of saying i love you i see you thanksgiving desserts showing love with food