hiding behind an emotional wall let your partner know the most important thing is to be aware of your own feelings they carry this shyness into their marriage and romantic relationships it can lead to a pile up of resentment over time ask yourself if its true ditch the blame game people are bound to a certain type and seek to be with such a personality over and over sex can be a great way to bridge the intimacy barrier it could make you possessive jealous overly critical or publicly patronizing the erogenous zones are not restricted to private parts dont start thinking it is never going to work out draw up a list of things that need to be taken care of on a daily basis and mutually delegate the responsibilities dont bottle up your emotions until they reach a pressurecooker situation this could leave them feeling used repeatedly and take a damaging toll on their feeling of selfworth which further feeds insecurity communicate and discuss likes dislikes preferences what arouses you things happen and dont have to be one persons fault yours or your partners experts say many of us are averse to expressing our feelings and vulnerabilities they need to understand that even if the work isnt done according to their level of satisfaction it doesnt make a big difference as long as its done experiences vitiate this tendency further write a journal and keep asking yourself how you really feel by not expressing anger over something one isnt necessarily letting things go we subconsciously accumulate arsenal to use later and this is what makes us feel powerless and negative the solution is practical what you tell yourself shapes you and your life you need to understand that your insecurity in relationships stems from self doubt giving deadlines and reinforcing them through rewards or punishments may seem childish but is an effective mechanism if your partner makes a mistake dont write himher off completely or forever focus on your talents strengths and physical beauty as well be in touch with how you are feeling and express yourself our panel of experts list destructive emotional behaviour which we unwittingly repeat one partner could procrastinate endlessly and the other may get frustrated and start doing things themselves one of the primary steps to overcome insecurities is to work on yourself people make mistakes our selfworth depends on other peoples acceptance of us the biggest tool at your disposal is to listen in one way to overcome issues in the sack is the sensate focus exercise every time you find yourself thinking i dont deserve this person change it to i deserve a wonderful relationship and more this poses as a hindrance in their emotional accessibility its so much a part of who we are if a bill is paid after its due date let your partner pay for the extra charge in cases where there is a history of sexual harassment or abuse being cagey about emotions works