she made raj call up the hotels management and got him thrown out from thereif smita loved you she loved you totally i have such fond memories of her visiting us frequently to cheer up my nineyearold daughter who was terminally ill smita would impersonate donald duck and other comic characters to humour her they would both giggle endlessly in fact after smita passed way id dream of both of them giggling away it made me feel they were okay together wherever they wereconsidering that smita patil was such a strong personality why did her personal life apparently turn so complicatedregarding her personal life so much water has flown under the bridge its futile to comment on what went wrong smitas mother vidyatai whom i also called maa was distraught that smita had got into a relationship with a married man it went against her values maa was upset that i could accept such a thing because i was the forsaken abandoned wife in my story while smita was the other woman in her story i would tell maa repeatedly that smita was suffering too it was not easy for her nobody likes to be the other womansmita went this far because raj had promised that he would take a divorce and marry her all above board and legitimate but that was not to be moreover smita was extremely possessive and sensitive there was a rawness a vulnerability in her she could get hurt easily if you triggered her she had a fiery temper and colourful language smiles too she could give back as good as she gotmotherhood must have been a dream come true for hersmita was extremely happy when she learnt she was pregnant she was ecstatic when a godhbharai ceremony was organised for her by my mother who came down especially from bangalore vidyatai was happy too for her daughter but she wasnt quite into such things my mother had brought along a green and crimson kanjeevaram saree with a gold border for smita she loved it i remember her joy knew no bounds that daythough things were difficult for her she knew she had to bring prateik into this world with as much joy as she could muster there was no going back only forward she had made some decisions regarding her life to move on to end her misery and bring up prateik in a healthy way but time was not on her side incidentally smita was the original choice to play takubai in my film rihaee 1988 later essayed by hema malini she was looking forward to doing it she wanted to be a director and insisted that she would assist me in rihaee to learn the ropes we had planned how we were going to look after prateik outdoors smita was clear about charting her own path and beginning anew but she never got the chance she went before thatcan you recall her last dayssmita gave birth to prateik on 28