too fast he will feel that his masculinity will be the next thing to go 3 insist on sexual fidelity once you feel you need it he will be secretly flattered and will start to feel very secure if you demand this arrangement your telling him that his sexual faithfulness is essential to you is in effect giving him the reassurance that you intend to be faithful to him 4 after a few months insist that your man introduce you to his family and friends and to anyone important in his life his doing this is a very basic kind of commitment for him an important step on the road to a lifetime commitment the man who wont bring you into his life wont marry you his making you part of his social life is an important rung on the ladder that he must climb toward commitment 5 have the talk says bhonsle sit him down and gently probe him about marriage you dont have to be aggressive or manipulative but be firm often among couples who come to me the assertive girlfriend wins over the former long time girlfriend because she wont go along with the relationship without a favourable prom