question hi i was in a serious relationship for one year and broke up with my partner because he was not willing to get married it was a practical decision and we decided to not stay in touch after the breakup but it seems i have lost my happiness after this incident i still love him and think about our relationship almost every day to divert my mind i tried going on several dates and even started jogging to get into shape but nothing has helped so far i broke up seven months back and nothing seems to make me feel happy what should i do by anonymousresponse by ms rachana awatramani thank you for writing to us happiness can be subjective however experts say that happiness is equated to pleasure and contentment it can be an external experience and it can also be an internal experience sometimes people attach their happiness with certain places incidents and people when things change or evolve some people are still stuck to the past and do not allow themselves to experience new feelingsi comprehend that you were in a serious relationship for one year and broke up because he was not willing to get married you made this practical decision seven months ago and since then you feel that you have not been happy and distracting your mind is not helping you i see that you also tried meeting new people however you still think about your exboyfriend i can understand it can be difficult for youi would recommend that you try to spend time with people you like they can be your friends and family members you can also consider visiting a counsellor for few sessions it can be difficult to move on however the fact is that it was your past and you made a decision based on your priorities therefore i would suggest you revisit your personal and professional goals and reflect on what is your current priority working on your health and getting into shape is a great thing that you are doing you should continue with this similarly you can work on emotional and personal development and work towards disconnecting with your past i suggest you to live in the present so you can look forward to the future that you want ms rachana awatramani is a counseling psychologist at insight counseling services in mumbaiwant expert advice for your relationship send us a mail at expertadvicetoigmailcom