as a nanny and parenting consultant i have long espoused that we are doing our children a disservice by catering to their every need and catching their every fall but its a hard message for parents to internalize even harder for them to come out and say and harder still to publish a blog about it a childcare professionals case for giving up on your kids as you get to know each other youll find common ground and it wont feel like youre on opposite sides it will never be perfectno relationship is but if you work at the relationship you just might learn from each other dear family whisperer how do i deal with my mil motherinlaw