to identify the motivation behind sharing the information try to discern over sharing can be unhealthy even when the receiver is a partner often couples fall into the unhealthy pattern of sharing every thought that crossed their mind like a child who comes home from school would she says anxious personality types may call up friends after a fight with a partner for their view they may also be seeking approval from peers on decisions they make once the fight is resolved theyre left having to explain their actions this bhonsle points out serves neither party the trick says bhonsle is to ask yourself are you venting looking for advice or simply a kind ear