question at last i found my love but unfortunately we both are married to other people i met him on an online dating site four months back and fell in love we have even gone on vacations together i dont know if he loves me or not because he is a person who values his family a lot he used to tell me that he loves me like anything but his actions speak otherwise when it comes to his family he would not think twice before stamping upon my feelings all his promises emotions and love for me seem fake i was really hurt when we fought one day and he didnt even bother to call me for 24 hours sometimes i feel i am just a means of entertainment for him but still i love him and am terribly heartbroken i dont know how to get over this could you please help me by anonymousresponse by kamna chhibber wanting to be with someone you love is natural spending time with them having good moments and building memories together is all very important however this needs to be a reciprocal and mutually felt experience if the need to do so is not equally so for both the individuals in the relationship even if this is something which is revealed in moments during the course of the relationship it is a red flag putting aside the question of the difficulty of making a relationship like this work where both of you are married to other people it appears rather evidently that he is not perhaps fully invested in it as much as you are at the end of the day the choice you may need to make is to find a way to prioritize yourself and determine a mechanism that allows you to do what is somewhere best for youkamna chhibber is the head mental health department of mental health and behavioural sciences at fortis healthcarewant expert advice for your relationship send us your query at expertadvicetoigmailcom