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Both words mean _she_ , but what's the difference, how should I use them?
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What's the difference between あれ and 彼女？
No, あれ means basically "That".
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あれ does not technically mean _she_.

There is a very peculiar way of informal communication that allows あれ to stand
in for basically anything. If you can't recall the right word, or you don't
feel like saying it explicitly, or you are pretty sure the other person will
understand in context, you can fall back to ridiculous sentences like:

  * ちょっと、 **あれ** を **あれ** してくるね  
_I'll just go [verb] the [noun]._

  * そういう言い方は **あれ** だと思う  
_That's a [negative adjective] way of putting it._

  * **あれ** やっておいた？  
_Did you do [task]?_

It is only in this roundabout way that some men sometimes refer to their
significant others as あれ. Often it seems to be that they are not comfortable
saying the word 彼女/妻/嫁 etc. out loud, especially in front of their buddies.

  * **あれ** がうるさいから飲みに行けない  
_I can't join you for drinks because my [wife/girlfriend] is nagging._

  * **あれ** とはもう10年になります  
_We've been together for ten years now._

So to answer your question “How should I use them?”, I suggest that you
**not** refer to fellow humans as あれ.
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