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I encountered this usage while watching a
[video](https://youtu.be/Vx_dCXVv324?t=1m37s "Japanese lessons JLPT N3 Grammar
#7") on grammar on 日本語の森:

```

    好きって言われたい
    
```

Now, judging by the context, it apparently means that the speaker **"wants to
say 'I like her**. **'"** However, if I were to read the sentence without any
context, I would probably understand it as someone **"wants to be said 'I like
you** , **'"** which would seem awkward to me at best.

A specified search on Google turned up 138,000 and 392,000 for 好きって言われたい and
好きって言いたい respectively, meaning that while the former is relatively used less,
it isn't rare at all.

**Question:**

Am I wrong to say that by 好きって言われたい, the speaker means to express the same
thing as 好きって言いたい, or are the two actually entirely different as one would
normally expect?
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Saying "I like you": 好きって言われたい vs. 好きって言いたい
I'll be honest; This question worries me a lot about your Japanese studies.

The two sentences mean **_very_** different and almost opposite things from
each other.

> 「好{す}きって言{い}いたい。」 means "I want to tell someone that I like him/her."

The speaker is the type to prefer confessing.

> 「好きって言われたい。」 means "I want to be told that s/he likes me by her/him."

The speaker is the type to prefer being confessed to.

「言われる」 is in the passive voice form -- "to be told".

「言われたい」 means "to want to be told".
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