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Recently, I chanced upon the sentence 友達の家に泊まってくれてしたり... or was it
泊まってもらってしたり... (Couldn't really recall, but they would translate to the same
thing) which translates to "do things like **me** staying at my friend's
house, etc". But from what I understand, when a te-form verb is used with もらった
or くれた, the **other party** , and **not myself** is the one that does the
verb, for example, ペンを貸してくれた/ペンを貸してもらった - (someone) lent me a pen. Using this
intuition, wouldn't 友達の家に泊まってくれてしたり mean **my friend** (and not me) stayed at
my friend's house (ignoring the したり part as the sentence wouldn't make sense
otherwise)? Two (more accurate?) ways that I know of to say that **I** stayed
at my friends house would be 友達の家に泊まってさせてもらってしたり or 友達の家に泊まらせた.

Any help would be highly appreciated
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くれた and もらった used with 泊まって
I'll try to explain this by giving some examples. I'll assume that the person
staying over / letting someone stay over is the speaker (unless otherwise
specified) to make this easier to read.

I assume that by「～てしたり」you mean「～たりした」, i.e. the past tense of「～たりする」. As you
say, the「～たりする」corresponds to something like 'and stuff like that'.

In this context「泊める」means "to have/let someone stay (at one's house etc)"
while similarly,「泊まる」means "to stay (at someone's house, a hotel etc)". The
basic forms for these with「～くれたりした」and「～もらったりした」are:

  * 「友達の家に（自分を）泊めてもらったりした」

Normal interpretation: "A friend let me stay over and stuff" or more lit. "I
had a friend let me stay over at their place and stuff".

  * 「友達が家に泊めてくれたりした」

Normal interpretation: "A friend let me stay over and stuff".

  * 「友達に家に泊まってもらったりした」

Normal interpretation: "I had a friend stay over at my place and stuff".

  * 「友達が家に泊まってくれたりした」

Normal interpretation: "A friend stayed over at my place and stuff".

* * *

As for the other forms that you mentioned, I assume you meant (some of) the
following (without the「～たりした」/ "and stuff like that"):

  * 「友達の家に泊まらせてもらった」

Normal interpretation: "I had a friend let me stay over at their house".

Alternative: "I stayed at a friend's house (without their permission)".

  * 「友達の家に泊めさせてもらった」

Normal interpretation (although weird): "I let (someone) stay at a friend's
house (either with the friend's permission or without, depending on context)".

  * 「友達に家に泊まらせた」

Normal interpretation e.g.: "I made ("forced") a friend to let me stay at
their house"

Alternative: "I made a friend let (someone) stay at that friend's house" etc.

  * 「友達の家に泊まらせた」

Normal interpretation: e.g. "I made (someone) stay at my friend's house".
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