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I just received an email from a good friend in Japan, who has notably over the
past few months been instrumental in connecting me to various people, for some
research interviews I've been conducting.

The data collection phase of the research has long been completed, but she has
just sent me an email with some additional data attached. Given we haven't
communicated for some time (as I've been writing up the results of the
research, and the phase of research she was helping with is over), her email
starts thus:

> ヘンリー
>
> ご無沙汰しています。

I'm aware of the meaning of the phrase 「ご無沙汰しています」 -- but how best to respond
to it in my reply?

Would a simple 「こちらこそ」 suffice, or would maybe 「私もご無沙汰しています」be better?

I had also considered 「ご無沙汰していますね」 but I don't know if that's got a
potentially rude connotation here (i.e. I'm somehow highlighting the lack of
communication on her side, rather than agreeing to the plain fact that we've
not communicated for a while).

Many thanks! よろしくお願いします。
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word-choice expressions word-usage set-phrases email
How best to respond to 「ご無沙汰しています」
If you were speaking then こちらこそ alone would be fine, but since it is email, I
think it would be best to add ご無沙汰しています。

> こちらこそ、ご無沙汰しています。

This is to avoid the disconnect of "こちらこそ about what?"

If she is even a little 目上 or you just want to express added politeness change
the います to おります。

> こちらこそ、ご無沙汰しております。

Both of these versions can be modified with words like すっかり as in

> こちらこそ、すっかりご無沙汰してます。

On the other end of the spectrum, if you want to keep everything more casual,

> ご無沙汰していますね

can work too, but I think it is more of a spoken expression.

As you may already know, the more casual you get, the more options you have.  
Aside from `ご無沙汰していますね` you could also say

> お久しぶりです。お元気でしたか。

Or even

> メールありがとうございます。お元気でしたか？

These casual replies all work if you are certain of the closeness of your
relationship.

**Many thanks to Chocolateさん who helped me flesh out this answer with many
more options**
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