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context: ...夜は飲みに行きました。みんなで近況を話して楽しかったです。私 **と** 旦那さん **と** の今の関係について話す **と**
みんな驚いていました。

Do the first two "と" mean the same? If the first two "と" mean "and","I and my
husband", why used two "と" here?

And what does the third "と" mean?
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meaning word-usage particle-と
What is the difference among the three "と" in "私と旦那さんとの今の関係について話すとみんな驚いていました"?
The first and second と are listing particles. The second と is optional. As for
why と is sometime used twice, see: [Question about the と particle in
comparative constructs](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/q/83411/5010)

The third と is a conjunctive meaning "when" or "and (then)". See: [Differences
among -たら, なら, -と, -んだったら, -ば,
etc](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/q/393/5010)
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