Let's say I've just been food shopping with my girlfriend and I want to say
"give me the bag" so that I can carry it for her. Could I just use 「くれて」, or
would I use something else?
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How would I say "give me xyz" without sounding too rude (or formal)
You can simply say "name of an object" + 「頂戴」 in such case (for example,
「ボールペン頂戴」 if you want her to give you a pen). This sounds friendly and
informal, but still not rude.
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if you're shopping and you want to ask waiter to show something you want,

You can use

> xをください
>
> xをお願いします

For example:

> これ **をください**
>
> この町の地図 **をください**
>
> ハンバーガーとサラダ **をお願いします**

if you want to say _give me the bag_ in japanese when you're shopping.

You can just say

> あのカバン **をください**

in your sentence.

you also can take a look into other questions already asked and their answers
in Stackexchange.

[How to actually order fast
food?](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/questions/57234/how-to-actually-
order-fast-food)

[Why is 翼をください translated as "Please give me
wings"?](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/questions/58733/why-
is-%E7%BF%BC%E3%82%92%E3%81%8F%E3%81%A0%E3%81%95%E3%81%84-translated-as-
please-give-me-wings)
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You could use (please give me)

> ください
```

    object + を + ください
    
```

Eg ... (please may i have that)

> それをください
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Well, I guess the most "normal" saying is that you say something like:

**ｘをください ｘをお願いします**

But what I usually say with my wife (日本人) is something along the lines of:

**ｘをあげてください**

I know it's probably not the best and most accurate saying, since it also
changes with the social relation of the speaker/listener, but this was always
understandable for all 日本人 I talked to (her parents, only know 日本語, relatives,
etc.)
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Since you are trying to take over a heavy bag from your wife, I'd think more
appropriate expressions are:

  * `バッグ` (bag): combined with a hand gesture, just saying "bag", maybe just `ん`, or even not saying anything at all, communicates the right message. I prefer this the best, because the terseness shows that you and she are on the same wave length that doesn't nee too many words, which is generally seen as a sign of a long intimate relationship. otherwise known as 阿吽(あうん)の呼吸
  * `持つよ` ([I will] carry [it]) `頂戴(ちょうだい)` (pass [it to me]): similar terse forms that just uses a verb and omits everything else. This works, too.
  * `下さい` (please give [it to me]): a slightly formal word like this, when combined with exaggerated intonation, can add playfulness. 

I don't think くれて in a grammatically correct Japanese in this context, though
there's くれてやって/くれてやんな, which is more blunt/aggressive form that translates to
something like "just give it up already"
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I understand that you are asking for a casual command form, but I have found
the expression

> 持とうか / 持ちましょうか

to be the most useful because you can confirm that they want you to carry it
by just saying this first, or you can assume they want you to by saying this
while reaching for the bag.

In the context of carrying a bag for a girlfriend, I don't see why ください or any
variation of it would be necessary if spoken with normal tone (i.e., excluding
the usage Kawaguchiさん describes).
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