Going off of my last question, I put some thought into the difference between
よね and じゃん and I still find it confusing, feeling iffy about choosing one over
the other.

> めっちゃ褒めてくれるじゃん

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よね suggests the speaker assumes the listen holds a similar opinion. But how do
I understand

> めっちゃ褒めてくれるよね

Does this sound too strong, because it doesn't seem to be used a lot? What
other 語尾 can go there? でしょ? だろう? What else?

> めっちゃ褒めてくれてるじゃん

Also this doesn't occur often either, is it idiomatic?
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word-choice nuances
よね and じゃん: めっちゃ褒めてくれるじゃん
How to parse and interpret them, is determined by so may surrounding elements.

Just to prove a point, here's a _bad example_. I wish I could've come up with
a better one:

> So I went to the zoo yesterday, **right?** And the Japanese were excited
> about a loaf of bread.

I used the word "right". Immense effort will be required to explain when/why
to use one over the other, from the following possible "synonyms":

  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **eh?**
  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **u dig?**
  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **okay?**
  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **you see?**
  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **alright?**
  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **get it?**
  * I went to the zoo yesterday, **namsayin**

WhatI'msayin is, I am able to pick the appropriate one because of experience.
I would choose one when arguing with my homies in the hood, but another when
negotiating with my boss in the office.

* * *

褒めて **くれてる** and 褒めて **くれる** deliver a different message, so I'll just stick
with 褒めて **くれてる** to generate these examples:

  * A1. あなた今日めっちゃ褒めてくれてる **じゃん** 。ありがとね

  * A2. あなた今日めっちゃ褒めてくれてる **よね** 。ありがとね

  * B1. あの人私のことめっちゃ褒めてくれてる **じゃん** 、だから私のこと好きなんだと思う

  * B2. あの人私のことめっちゃ褒めてくれてる **よね** 、だから私のこと好きなんだと思う

  * C1. 私が駄目な女ってどういうこと？普段はめっちゃ褒めてくれてる **じゃん**

  * C2. 私が駄目な女ってどういうこと？だってさ、普段はめっちゃ褒めてくれてる **よね**

I think the differences between 1 and 2 for each examples are trivial enough
to be considered subjective. It also depends on the region you are in,
especially with じゃん. So you probably shouldn't take my following analysis
seriously:

  * A1 sounds straightforward happier
  * A2 sounds calmer (thus ironically may sound happier than A1)
  * B1 sounds confident that someone has a crush on her
  * B2 may be asking for her friend to agree
  * C1 sounds straightforward disagreeing
  * C2 required additional "だってさ" to clarify there is disagreement
  * じゃん **may be** considered a double negative ("isn't it?")
  * よね is a rhetorical question ("you see?")
  * I **don't** imagine posh people using じゃん
  * I **do** imagine posh people using よね
  * じゃん sounds childish and cute
  * よね sounds feminine

* * *

While I don't think じゃん is **stronger** over よね in terms of the message, I
agree with you for two reasons:

  * じゃん has a 濁音
  * Somehow for me it's easier to imagine someone hyped up choosing じゃん

* * *

You may even add "ね" at the end of じゃん:

  * A. そんなの無理じゃん **ね**
  * B. そんなの無理じゃん、 **ね？**
  * C. そんなの無理じゃん、 **ねぇ？**

If you ask me, these three have subtle differences:

  * A sounds like a dialect from the West
  * B is laughing it off ("haha seriously what an idiot")
  * C is rolling its eyes ("ugh, can't believe it")

* * *

> でしょ? だろう? What else?

  * (褒めてくれる or 褒めてくれてる) + **じゃない？**
  * (褒めてくれる or 褒めてくれてる) + **ことない？**
  * and more

And each of them may be mutated:

  * でございましょ？
  * ではございませんか？
  * ではござらぬか
  * ジャマイカ

Furthermore there are dialects:

  * じゃんね？
  * やん？
  * だら？
  * べ？

And so many more... although not all of them are universally compatible with
each other.

Following may work too:

  * おたく今日めっちゃ褒めてくれてる **ざましょ** ？
  * あなた今日めっちゃ褒めてくれてる **っしょ** ？
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I think some more specific context is needed to discuss finer nuances - who is
praising whom? I can see at least two possible contexts: 1) The listener is
prasing the speaker. 2) Someone else is praising the speaker and the listener.

I quickly skimmed [the last
question](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/questions/94524/%e8%aa%b0%e3%81%ab%e3%82%82%e5%84%aa%e3%81%97%e3%81%8f%e3%81%97%e3%81%a6%e3%82%8b%e3%82%88%e3%81%ad-%e8%aa%b0%e3%81%ab%e3%82%82%e5%84%aa%e3%81%97%e3%81%8f%e3%81%97%e3%81%a6%e3%81%82%e3%81%92%e3%81%a6%e3%82%8b%e3%82%88%e3%81%ad-%e8%aa%b0%e3%81%ab%e3%82%82%e5%84%aa%e3%81%97%e3%81%8f%e3%81%97%e3%81%a6%e3%81%8f%e3%82%8c%e3%81%a6%e3%82%8b%e3%82%88%e3%81%ad)
and it seems that the first context applies here.

With that context in mind, I would say that the -よね version somewhat implies
that the speaker has had the same opinion (that the listener praises the
speaker) for a while. The -じゃん version doesn't have such implication, at least
not as strongly - the speaker might have just noticed that. It's not a hard
division but I think there is such a tendency.

On a related note, the third version ending with -くれてるじゃん suggests that the
褒める event has just happened, and it is probably a new development.

I don't see any difference in idiomaticity among the three versions - they are
all natural. I don't know how you know "this doesn't occur often", but I think
idiomaticity and frequency are separate, although they can correlate.
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The basic difference seems what knowledge **the speaker thinks** is shared by
the listener. Roughly

  * Xよね : the speaker may or may not assume the listener knows/agrees that X
  * Xじゃん : the speaker assumes that the listener knows/agrees that X

* * *

By examples. I will use (R) and (D) to indicate the rising tone (as in
question) and the decreasing tone (as an afterthought, it does not matter
much).

**EXAMPLE 1**

  * 私去年アメリカ行ったじゃん？ (R or D) _You know, I went to the US last year_

Here アメリカ行ったよね? sounds odd. (R) or (D) sounds a question/confirmation about
the speaker's own action and as such speaker sounds amnesiac.

**EXAMPLE 2**

  * 私ここに眼鏡置いたよね?(R)

Here 置いたじゃん is odd. Using じゃん means the speaker thinks the listener knows she
put her glasses here, in which case she does not have to ask in the first
place.

**EXAMPLE 3**

(Assume the speaker and the listener are playing basketball and the former
shot successfully three times in a row)

  * 私天才じゃん(D)

Here using 天才だよね is a bit odd. It sounds like a sheer question/confirmation.
The じゃん version is natural based on the fact that the lister watched how good
the speaker was.

**EXAMPLE 4**

This is not directly relevant to the question, but there is a 'blaming' usage
(which I guess made you think these constructions sound sometimes 'strong').

  * 早く宿題終わらせなさいっていったよね？

This is naturally used by a mother scolding a boy who is worried about
finishing homework in the last week of summer vacation. Using じゃん does not
sound right. I guess it can be understood じゃん's 'friendliness', but if
following the principle as above, the mother thinks the current situation is
not consistent with the child's knowing he must finish homework asap, in other
words, knowing that and not doing it is idiotic. (Hence 'strong').

On the other hand

  * 明日雨降るよって言ったじゃん/いったよね？

Here じゃん is better, but both are possible e.g. by a wife to a husband who came
home soaked in a shower, referring to the conversation last night. Using よね
implies the strong accusation as above, so not appropirate.

* * *

Turning to the sentences in question, I assume it is saying _You praise a
lot_.

  * 褒めてくれるじゃん indicates that the speaker considers the fact that the listener praises a lot as obvious or at least as something felt by the listener as well. In other words, the listener praises in the way that her praising is rather noticeable by everybody.

  * 褒めてくれるよね does not assume that the listener is aware of her praising a lot herself. It can sound like _You praise a lot, although it may be nothing you are doing consciously_. That said, it can be used in the じゃん situation above as well.
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