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I would like to ask a follow-up question about the 敬語 used in [Why “お食事の際は、…”
instead of
“ご飯を食べる際は、…”?](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/questions/28136/why-%E3%81%8A%E9%A3%9F%E4%BA%8B%E3%81%AE%E9%9A%9B%E3%81%AF-
instead-
of-%E3%81%94%E9%A3%AF%E3%82%92%E9%A3%9F%E3%81%B9%E3%82%8B%E9%9A%9B%E3%81%AF?noredirect=1#comment59018_28136).

_example sentence:_

> こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけます。

Sounds like:

> I can use this table.

So, the listener certainly must be a 3rd party who has nothing to do with the
table, right? If I were addressing the _"owner"_ of the table, I'd have to
**ask** :

> こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけ **ませんか？**

  1. If the listener is the "owner" of the table, I am interested in knowing why I do not need to ask if it is ok. Seems like I'm just (humbly) telling them what I am going to do to something they "own" (whether they like it or not). 
  2. If the listener is not the "owner", then what is being said is that _"I can use this table, **but you cannot**."_ This is because I cannot use 謙譲語 to describe the actions of others.
  3. Technically, I guess, "こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけます。" does not comment on whether the listener can, or cannot, use the table. But, it'd seem weird to make no comment about the listener. like: _"こちらのテーブルをお使いいたいてもいいし、使ってもいいです。"_ You'd just say (to include me and you): _"こちらのテーブルを使ってもいいです。"_ anyway, i don't get it...
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Does "こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけます。" mean "I can use the table, and you cannot?"
It just means _"You can use this table"_ (e.g. a hotel employee explaining to
a guest).

「こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけませんか？」 means _"Could you use this table (instead)?"_ (maybe
the guest sat at a wrong table).
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I would like to counter-argue by introducing an article about the **[common
misuse of いただく as the 尊敬語 not as the
謙譲語.](http://www.nikkeibp.co.jp/article/column/20101018/248732/?P=2)**

The writer of the column says:

> 「いただく」は尊敬語ではない
>
> 同様に、尊敬語を用いるべき場面でよく使われる謙譲語の一つが「いただく」だ。
>
> 誤
>
> お昼はもういただきましたか。
>
>
> 「食べる」の尊敬語「召し上がる」を知らない人はいないはずなのだが、実際には「いただく」もよく耳にする。ついうっかりでも勘違いでもなく、丁重な表現だからこれでいいのだと確信して使っている人もいるようだ。しかし、「いただきました」はあくまでも謙譲語であり、自分が食べたことを述べるときにのみ使いたい。
>
>
> 「いただく」は「もらう」の謙譲語でもあるが、やはり尊敬語と錯覚して使用する人がいる。会議の参加者一人一人に資料を配付しながら、「もういただきましたか」と聞いたりする。「もらう」の尊敬語は、形の上では「おもらいになる」と「もらわれる」だが、目上の人に対しては使いにくい動詞だ。「お受け取りになりましたか」「お持ちでしょうか」としたほうがよいだろう。動詞を機械的に変換して、「ハイ、敬語、一丁上がり」というわけにはいかないのだ。

Translation:

> 「いただく」 is not an honorific (尊敬語).
>
> ( _In the previous article, the author talked about the misuse of "お会いする"._)
> In the same way, the commonly misused word which should be used as a humble
> form (謙譲語) but often used as an honorific (尊敬語) is いただく.
>
> Example sentence (wrong): 「お昼はもういただきましたか」
>
> I think people should know the honorific form (尊敬語) of the verb 食べる is
> 召し上がる, but often I hear people say いただく instead. It seems that they not only
> are unaware of the misuse, but they are even certain that いただく is the
> correct word because it sounds so polite. いただきました is certainly an expression
> of modesty (謙譲語), therefore I would like to ask people to use this word only
> when they eat something themselves.
>
> いただく is also a humble form of the verb もらう，but many people mistakenly use
> this word as an honorific. At (business) meetings, I often hear a person who
> delivers the documents (to those in higher positions) say もういただきましたか. An
> honorific form of the verb もらう is おもらいになる or もらわれる, but I think these verbs
> are a bit hard to use so often. Therefore, I would like to suggest using
> 「お受け取りになりましたか？」 or 「お持ちでしょうか？」 instead.

* * *

Thus said, いただく is a humble form (謙譲語) and not an honorific (尊敬語)，therefore:

> こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけます。

is wrong, because the person who uses the table can not lower him/her/them
self/selves in order to express the respect.

So my alternative way of saying it is:

> こちらのテーブルを（は）お使いなさる事が出来ます。

Using なさる - the honorific of する.
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こちらのテーブルをお使いいただけます is right, because in this context 「〜いただく」is used for
expressing "get you (to use this table)".

Think about a case when a group of people invites someone to talk about a
certain theme at symposium or somewhere.

The moderator can say: ①「Ａ氏に◯◯のことについてお話しいただきます」 because he is a part of the
group which planned the whole symposium. As this group asked A to talk about
the ◯◯ theme 「(お話し)いただきます」 reflects also the host's intention.

But in a rare case if moderator says: ②「Ａ氏は◯◯についてお話しになります」 he simply states
the fact that A will give a speech, like when some guest or non-related person
would ask to take the floor. In this case the honorific 「(お話し)になります」 applies
only to A and not to a relation between A and the whole group.
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