I heard the phrase of "ぼくとお茶しませんか" from a rather odd [Japan Times
article](http://www.japantimes.co.jp/life/2011/10/17/language/desperately-
seeking-the-lost-art-of-nanpa) by a presumably Japanese woman called Kaori
Shoji. It's also mentioned elsewhere, such as [in a native speaker's blog
about Japanese](http://onephrasejapanese.blogspot.com.au/2014/03/the-word-of-
today-would-you-mind-having.html).

It literally means "Won't you have green tea with me?", but there's two things
I don't know.

What venue is implied by the phrase? Is it implied to be a public venue such
as a cafe, or instead is it somebody's home?

Also, is the phrase still used nowadays, or considered out-dated?
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Nuance and current-ness of "ぼくとお茶しませんか"
> What venue is implied

At least traditionally, [Kissa-
tens](http://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E5%96%AB%E8%8C%B6%E5%BA%97). Kissa-tens
used to be cool until around the 80's together with this phrase. Note that
"tea" here doesn't mean green tea. Kissa-ten's primary attraction is coffee
and to a lesser degree english tea.

> Also, is the phrase still used nowadays, or considered out-dated?

I would say mostly outdated.
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ぼくとお茶しませんか is used to _Nanpa_ described in that article.

> For men, the favored tactic was nanpa (originally derived from the term
> nanjyaku, 軟弱 — which means softie) and this amounted to cruising the streets
> of Shibuya or Shinjuku, looking out for anyone cute who seemed available,
> and pulling out that famed and lamest of lines: “Bokuto ocha shimasenka?
> (「ぼくとお茶しませんか」, “Would you like to have a cup of tea with me?”).

If I want to say "Let's take a break" to my friends, I use

  * ちょっとお茶しない？
  * 休憩しない？

and others.

In this situation, 僕と/私と is left out because it emphasizes "with who?" more
than needs. So ぼくとお茶しませんか？ is too politely, and it appears odd.

> Also, is the phrase still used nowadays, or considered out-dated?

As one of _Nanpa_ tactic, it maybe still used.

However, I have an impression _Nanpa_ is outdated culture...
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