What's confusing me in the below exchange is:

  * What he means by 苦労が絶えない in this context
  * The usage of 言われ方. I often see 言い方 but I don't think I've seen 言われ方 before. 

For context, the 妹 is worried about her friends who did badly in the exams
before the summer holidays (and instead of studying to improve, they instead
focus on having fun).

> 「わたしはあの二人が心配で心配で……」
>
> 「まぁ、遊びたい盛りだというのはわかるが」
>
> 「お兄ちゃん、芹夏ちゃんにまで甘くなっちゃうの？」
>
> 「いや、余所様の家の教育にまで口を出しちゃいけないんじゃなかろうか」
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> 「そうかもしれないけど……芹夏ちゃんのご両親、すごーく放任だし……」
>
> **「……苦労が絶えないな」**
>
> **「なんかその言われ方ヤダ」**
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Understanding this exchange 「……苦労が絶えないな」「なんかその言われ方ヤダ」
So, it's not very clear to me, but I think the ……苦労が絶えないな is basically
conveying that he's being put in a difficult position, and that he's
frustrated by that.

From what you said and the passage, I understand that the parents are (too)
laissez-faire in their parenting approach, so they won't force their children
to study; and the sister, and I guess the brother by proxy, remain worried
about the friends' lack of studying, so they feel like they should say
something about it. But, he doesn't want to tell them to study as he
understands the friends' desire to have fun. So either they say something and
are the partypoopers, or they say nothing and the friends potentially fail
their exams. They are damned if they do and damned if they don't.

So, I think 苦労が絶えないな in this case is kind of like saying "ugh, the problems
never end" or "it's just one thing after another", perhaps when you are
exasperated, and have some complex/awkward/tricky problem that is left to you
to sort out, and you are trying to work through it, but every way you turn it
seems like there's no easy solution.

I believe that 言われ方 is just using the passive form, so その言われ方ヤダ means
(rendered awkwardly but structurally in English) "that way of being spoken to
is unpleasant". Perhaps very loosely, depending on context it could be more
naturally translated as "don't speak to (me/them) in that unpleasant way",
though this is possibly a bit too direct/cutting.

Does that make sense within the context of what happens next? Hope so, and
hope that helps in any case!
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