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I was at Japanese class today and I heard these phrases while I was listening
to chokai:

休んでくれますか (Can you give me the favour of resting for today) 休ませてもらいませんか (Can
you let me rest for today?) 休んでもらいますか (Can I receive the favour of resting for
today?)

From my understanding, these phrases mean the same thing (Translation as per
my understanding as of above). However, I was told by my japanese teacher that
they all mean different things but I could not understand his explanation on
why they were different. Can anyone explain why they are different in all 3
cases?
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て-form causation giving-and-receiving
Confusion between もらいます and くれます when used as a post-fix to te-form verbs
* 休んでくれま **せんか** is more like **won't you** rest?

  * 休ませてもら **え** ますか is like **could you** let me rest?

  * 休んでもら **え** ますか is like **could I** have **you** take the day off?

くれる is used when something is done in your/your party's favor. More
specifically, it is attached to the verb that **someone else** does **for
you**. For example, **マイケルは** ( **私に** ）ペンを貸してくれた。

もらう is used to describe your party **receiving** an action from **someone
else** , using the same example, **私はマイケルに** ペンを貸してもらった。

In the case of ～させてもらう, させて indicates some sort of allowance/permission, and
もらう indicates that **you** are the subject that is receiving the permission.
Thus, 休ませてもらえますか literally means "Could (you) allow (me) to rest?"
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