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Which of the following is the most polite? Is any of them incorrect? Is there
a more standard way to ask someone if you could stay with them while in town?

~ 8日から9日まで、あなたのお宅にお邪魔させてもらえませんか。

~ 8日から9日まで、お宅に泊めてもらえませんか。

~ 8日から9日まで、あなたのお宅に滞在させてもらえませんか。

Is 「あなたの」 unnecessary?

Is 「あなたのお宅にお邪魔させてもらえませんか。」 ambiguous? In other words, would the reader clearly
understand it is a request to stay overnight rather than to drop by?

Can 「お宅」 be used to refer to a place of residence when it is not a personally-
owned house, such as a share house apartment シェアハウスのマンション?

Also, can 「8日から9日まで、」be shrunk down to 「8〜9日に」?
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Politely asking to stay at someone's home? お邪魔させてもらう、泊めてもらう、or 滞在させてもらう?
* All of them are syntactically correct, but they are semantically strange as explained below. Depending on the situation, `もらう` may not be polite enough. `いただく` will be even more polite.
  * In the second one, `泊める` is just about the night, so it is unnatural to mention `8日から9日まで`, which means the whole two days (unless you are talking about both nights of `8日` and `9日`, in which case it would be better to say `8日と9日の晩`). If you intend to stay only on the night of `8日`, then `8日の晩` would be better.
  * The third one is unnatural because `滞在` implies much longer span than a day or two.
  * `あなたの` is unnecessary.
  * `あなたのお宅にお邪魔させてもらえませんか。` does not mean to stay over night (unless, for example, the context is about lovers, and you have a shared knowledge that visiting implies staying over night).
  * It is not impossible for `お宅` to refer to share house apartment, but `お家{うち}` would be better.
  * The following is not just for Japanese: The expression `... から ... まで` or `from ... to ...` is usually used when you are talking about a range of more than two things; it is unnatural here. You should use `... と ...` or `... and ...`.

Considering this, a better expression is:

> 8日の晩、おうちに泊めていただけませんか。
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