> 逢桜「元々、才華学園入学前に持ってあと３年だろうって言われてたんだ」
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> 逢桜「野球を辞めた理由も怪我じゃなくて、この病気が原因だよ」
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> 逢桜「徐々に体が動かなくなっていく難病で、最終的には呼吸も出来なくなって亡くなるんだって」
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> 逢桜「 **両親はね** 、わたしに少しでも長く生きて欲しいから、クリエイターとしての **活動は止めてもらいたかった** 」
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> 逢桜「でも、無理をいってここまで伸ばしてもらってた」
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> 逢桜「だけだ、去年の12月ごろに大きな発作があった」
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> 逢桜「その時にさ両親に強く創作活動を辞めて欲しいと告げられたんだ」

I understand that the meaning of the bold part is that "My parents wanted me
to quit the creator's activities". But usually てもらいたい means "I want someone
else to do something for me", not "someone else wants me to do something for
them". So why can てもらいたい be used like that in the quotation?
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Why can てもらいたい mean "someone else wants me to do something for them"?
> usually てもらいたい means "I want someone else to do something for me"

> not "someone else wants me to do something for them"

Your understanding is correct :)

> So why can てもらいたい be used like that in the quotation?

You just have be a bit flexible and implement the above understanding to a "he
said I said" situation.

Quoting your translation "I want someone else to do something for me", it goes
like this:

From the parent's point of view, I (the parents) , wanted someone else (their
kid) , to do something (stop doing creator stuff) , for me (the parent).

* * *

> **BLAH** はね、 **BLOOP** たかったの

This pattern is not uncommon when a feminine person is trying to explain
another entity's intention of the past. It's used in drama, anime, manga etc.
due to the dramatic effect it carries.

Adding a question mark to the end would make it a direct question (and a
totally different meaning). Without the question mark, the sentence sounds
incomplete, which is intentional. So, we typically add a trailing **...** to
make up for the incompleteness, and then the female will follow up with
another sentence to elaborate.

If I were to translate, it would be like:

> **BLAH** you see, wanted to **BLOOP**

But this translation alone won't convey the dramatic effect of its Japanese
counterpart. It's one of those patterns you'll get used to by watching girls
confess/justify her friend's past actions. Or even her own, by using her own
name.

Eg.

Smart person _" Why is this answer so long? It deserves a down vote"_

My mother _" dungarian just wanted chino alpha to understand... (more to
follow)"_

> **dungarianはね、 chino alphaに理解してほしかった (more to follow)**
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てもらいたい means `The subject` wants to receive.

So the `subject` or `topic` of that phrase is `両親` and thus 両親 were the ones
who "`wanted to receive` the favor of us quitting the creator lifestyle,
because even if it's only a tiny increase they want us to live a long life."

もらう = subject of the sentence receives.

So in this case, keep a flexible mind about who the main focus / focal point
of the sentence is. The sentence can "orbit" around any one or any group or
any thing so keep a flexible slot for the subject in mind.

`Subject は blank がもらいたい。`

`As for subject,` `wants to receive blank`.

In this specific instance,

`As for our parents, `

` they wanted to receive the favor of us...`

= `they wanted us to...`
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両親は(私に)クリエイター活動を止めてもらいたかった can naturally be used in this situation because her
parents' desire is a _past known fact_ that doesn't require any assumption of
the speaker. The speaker clearly and directly knew her parents wanted her to
quit at this time point in the past.

In [Can たい and たがる be used for a 1st/2nd/3rd person's
desire?](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/q/23860/5010)

> たい expresses a desire. た-がる literally expresses giving off the impression of
> having a desire. たい can be used if one does not need to assume that they
> know about a specific desire of a specific person, and たがる can be used if
> one is making assumptions on another person's wishes.
>
> * * *
>
> たい, situations that do not involve making assumptions about a person's
> desires:
>
>   * **it turned to be a fact** that another person did desire it
>

両親は(私に)クリエイター活動を止めてもらいたがっていた is also perfectly natural, though.

**EDIT** : Of course 両親は(私に)クリエイター活動を止めて欲しかった and 両親は(私に)クリエイター活動を止めて欲しがっていた
are also perfectly correct in this context. She used もらう because she knew her
quitting was a beneficial action to her parents even if it was undesirable to
the speaker herself.
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