I'm not quite sure if this is right.

> 彼女は私の人です  
>  Kanojo wa watashi no hitodesu

I'm a little confused on the word for "she" as it can also translate to
"girlfriend." I've read that it can depend on the context, as well as
preference. I'm a little confused. Could someone explain and check?
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Can someone help me translate "she's my person"?
I don't know that I would consider this an answer so much as a reflection and
suggestion about how to approach this idea in Japanese. (If the moderators
feel this is unsuitable as an answer, then please let me know, I will remove
it.)

As I mentioned in a comment to your post, "to be _someone's_ person" is a
highly idiomatic phrase made popular to some extent by--perhaps even coined in
--Shonda Rhimes' _Grey's Anatomy_.

" _My_ person" is the person _I_ can rely upon in a crunch or a crisis; it's
the person who will be there no matter what happens, no questions asked, no
judgment. It's certainly not synonymous with "best friend" or even "BFF";
neither really do "soul mate" and "kindred spirit" capture this feel either. I
mention these other notions of _friendship_ since they have been around a
while and can probably be reasonably translated into Japanese (though off the
top of my head right now, I don't how best to translate these concepts
either).

In my comment, I mused about capturing this notion through the idea of a
_bodhisattva_ , 菩薩{ぼさつ}. But, almost from the moment I made that comment, I
felt it missed the mark. It seems to me that in English, in circles where
folks understand the concept of a bodhisattva, we use the word much more
casually than Japanese perhaps do 菩薩. (I certainly welcome feedback on this
point.) 菩薩 somehow, to me at least, has a more technical or stiff or formal
feel about it; whereas in English, bodhisattva has a much easier feel to it.
But even with that said, _bodhisattva_ doesn't exactly capture the feel of _my
person_ either.

I don't think you're going to find a good single expression in Japanese to
capture this. I would recommend that you identify for yourself the quality of
_your person_ which best captures this feeling and express that instead.
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The phrase you are using, to say that someone is "your person", is essentially
an expression in English. Expressions can be difficult to translate directly
between languages. I might take a direct approach and say 私には彼女だ which
literally says, "For me, it is her". But that doesn't really make sense. You
could expand that a little and say 私には彼女がいいんだ which is literally, "For me, she
is good". Which is basically trying to communicate the sentiment that, "She's
the one for me."

In general, I find that it's best to approach language from a native
perspective. That is, instead of starting with an English phrase and then
trying to figure out how to translate it into Japanese, I prefer to start with
a Japanese phrase in the beginning. Try to feel out the sentiment that you
want to convey from an emotional or abstract sense. Then immediately use the
Japanese parts of speech that you know in order to express the sentiment. The
more Japanese you know, the better you will be able to express yourself.

I find that it's best to pull directly from things that native Japanese
speakers say in normal, everyday life. I'm reminded of something my sister-in-
law said when she started dating a guy (whom she eventually married). She said
that she was really happy they were dating now because he was "私の憧れの人". You
can look up 憧れ in a dictionary if you need to. Basically, she was saying that
this guy is someone that she had liked for a long time (and also someone she
had respected and admired). So she was really happy that they had become a
couple.

So, you might choose to use that phrase to describe the sentiment of someone
being "your person": 彼女は私の憧れの人。 While it doesn't translate the English phrase
directly, the sentiment behind the two phrases is basically the same. And this
would definitely sound like a more natural thing to say in Japanese. When
translating between languages, you often lose some of the nuance in meaning. A
well-translated phrase is about conveying the closest possible meaning while
still sounding natural in the target language. It does no good to make a
direct translation that sounds strange or unintelligible in the target
language. There is a reason why the phrase "lost in translation" has become a
cliche!
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