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What nuances are carried when addressing someone as きみ?

  * I often hear a (Japanese) manager addressing his subordinates using きみ
  * My partner told me that addressing him as きみ made him feel like we were having an argument. 

So I'd like to know what nuances are in that word (or if it really does vary
from person to person).
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What nuances are carried when addressing someone as きみ?
きみ is one of those words that are common in fiction but rare in real life.

In fiction or lyrics, きみ is a common, androgynous, friendly and gentle
pronoun, which is more casual than あなた but much less casual than おまえ/あんた/etc.
For example it's used by:

  * Someone who is a writing a letter to their partner or close friend (きみ is actually very common in songs for love and friendship, and its gender-neutrality is often very handy)
  * A boy/girl who met a stranger of the same age
  * A timid, gentle or leader-like character who doesn't like calling someone with おまえ/あんた (e.g. のび太 and 出木杉 in ドラえもん)
  * A teacher/boss to their students/subordinates

In real life, however, きみ is rare anyway. A boss calling their subordinates is
probably one of the cases きみ might be used in real life, although no one
around me actually use it. Your partner might have felt your きみ sounded bossy
and condescending. One _real_ instance of きみ I definitely remember for now
is...a stage performer who picked one of the audience using "きみ! (You!)". A
few "委員長タイプ" students might be using きみ without being laughed at when I was a
high school student, but I've almost forgotten.
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