I'm enrolled in Japanese at my university, and we recently had a review of
personal pronouns. The professor encourage us to understand and practice
casual speech, and as part of that, to try finding personal pronouns that we
feel comfortable with in different situations.

I identify as male, and I want to use 僕 (boku) as my personal pronoun, but my
professor said that it's totally inappropriate, and said I need to use 私
(watashi) or あたし (atashi). I was a bit offended by that, because I don't
identify as female.

I don't like to call my professor out as wrong, but this seems totally wrong.

Is 僕 (boku) only appropriate for cisgendered men?

What are the ramifications of using 僕 (boku) when you are male, but not
cisgendered?
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pronouns
Is 僕 (boku) only appropriate for cisgendered men?
**I appreciate the upvotes and I do not wish to delete my answer, but I think
it's important to note that @psosuna 's answer about pronouns as a "scale of
humility" is more relevant toward understanding why pronouns are used the way
they are in Japanese. My answer is based on the "gender association" that I
was taught in college and my personal experiences in Japan, and my sense of
what the original question poster was concerned about. psosuna's answer offers
a deeper insight, and although I'm not saying "please undo your upvotes"
(which I appreciate), I hope people will recognize the important point that
psosuna has made clear about the Japanese language.**

* * *

You definitely don't want to use あたし , as that is a pronoun used by people who
identify as female. I can't imagine why your professor would suggest that you
do, unless he/she is unaware of your gender identity.

僕 is a pronoun used essentially out of a desire to stress one's maleness, as
あたし is used to stress one's femaleness. 僕 is also sometimes used by
girls/women who simply see themselves as "one of the guys" and don't attach
gender to it as strictly, but for this reason it is seen as somewhat uncouth.

You also hear younger boys using that pronoun more-so than older boys or men.
This is because as Janusz said 私 is gender neutral and more polite, which
younger kids care less about, and older kids/adults care more about.

As you care about making people aware that you identify as male, I think it is
fine for you to use 僕 rather than 私. Be prepared for some people to think that
you are simply being "rough" with your language though, rather than
identifying as male, if you choose to refer to yourself that way. And be
prepared for people not to understand your gender identity if you choose to
use 私.

Edit: I want to apologize for not really being able to answer the point about
ramifications, because I don't know what ramifications might develop from a
non-cis-gendered man using 僕. As the comments say, Japan is more gender
prejudiced than the West (which is itself still not great in that respect) so
you can expect social discomfort from some Japanese people, especially older
people, meeting people who don't conform to their biological gender. The use
of 僕 will just be one aspect of the interaction that causes their discomfort
though, so... :(

Further Edit: Thanks to one of your comments, I now understand a little better
what one of your concerns is. The use of gendered pronouns in Japanese is not
a guaranteed way to make people aware of your gender identity in Japan. Some
people might get it, but most will assume that you are making some sort of
linguistic mistake, and will attempt to correct you. Some few might simply
think that you are trying to be "tomboyish" when using 僕. Unlike あたし, which is
only used by women, transvestite men, and transgender women, 僕 can be and is
used by some boys, some girls, some men and some women, so it cannot truly
"hint" at your gender identity. I was recommending that you use it, based on
the sense that it made you happier to do so, which I feel is a valid and
sensible reason, despite the fact that it will necessitate conversations about
language and about gender identity on occasion.
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You'd do better to not look at personal pronouns from a gender-association
perspective, despite the misleading idea that they always go hand in hand. The
truth is that personal pronouns have more to do with assertion versus
humility. The fact that gender has anything to do with it is merely by proxy.

As Japanese culture would have it, a male person is expected to have traits of
assertion, and a female person should show reservation and humility. This
fact, however, does not immediately dictate that a specific pronoun is
reserved for a specific gender; oftentimes, you see women using 僕 and even 俺
but not often, in order to assert something (or being a joking braggart), and
men using 私 and very rarely あたし because it is on the opposite end towards
reservation.

In reality, it has more to do with the relationship with the other party. This
is why men will likely say 俺 with friends, 僕 with their family and respected
elders, and 私 to company officials. Women by default are expected to be
reserved and humble, so the female gender tends to resort to 私 and
humbler/more reserved personal pronouns.

For this reason, I don't disagree with your instructor entirely - gender
identity certainly plays a part in how you express yourself, but so does
exhibiting reserve and humility, for example, before a prospective employer.
It is, in a way, a power play, and not a gendered one, specifically. As a
cisgender male, I would use 私 in an interview environment, say, but not あたし.
Therefore, I would suggest you use 私 though not for the sake of promoting
yourself as a female, but for the humility and reservation that goes along
with and is tactful and required of the situation. However, in informal
situations, I think 僕 is acceptable and understandable.
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I think there's some really complex interactions going on here that deal with
language, history, and culture _on both sides_ , but if the question is to
focus on Japanese language and usage, then there's really a few subquestions:

  1. For someone who looks female what does using 僕 communicate?
  2. Is there a Japanese way to express "I am a man but look like a woman" using personal pronouns?

Starting with question 1, it's important to note as background that the
default term for I for adults, both men and women, is わたし ( which of course
can be written in kanji as 私 but this is also the kanji for わたくし which is a
more polite form). [Japanese
wikipedia](https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E6%97%A5%E6%9C%AC%E8%AA%9E%E3%81%AE%E4%B8%80%E4%BA%BA%E7%A7%B0%E4%BB%A3%E5%90%8D%E8%A9%9E)
explains that this is the "public personal pronoun" for both.

Deviations from this among adults have cultural significant linguistic
meanings. This could include showing closeness, humility, respect, deference,
or self-assertion.

In my experience, the standard set for men (here I mean under a rather
traditional understanding of the term, cis-men if you prefer) is:

```

     わたし
     わたくし [more humble]
     おれ [more assertive, close, selfish?]
     [ぼく][2][deferential?]
     and possibly じぶん
    
```

The standard set for women (cis-women if you prefer):

```

     わたし
     わたくし [more humble]
     possiblyあたし [close?]
     possibly personal name (あいこはアイスを食べたい "I want to eat ice cream") [close? selfish?]
    
```

All of this is background, based on a brief bit of googling, someone who looks
like a woman using ぼく might be:

  1. Perceived as a [ぶりっ子](https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E3%81%B6%E3%82%8A%E3%81%A3%E5%AD%90), engaging in a type of intentionally childish language. See also [here for its use by someone who plays children roles](https://matome.naver.jp/odai/2147510850441007901).
  2. Copying language from video games [僕少女](https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E3%83%9C%E3%82%AF%E5%B0%91%E5%A5%B3).
  3. [Immature](https://detail.chiebukuro.yahoo.co.jp/qa/question_detail/q1139266246) because this is not an appropriate pronoun for an adult woman.
  4. Asked to stop (Same as above)
  5. [Idealistic girls](http://spi-con.com/your-call-you/).

I assume based on

> I identify as male, and I want to use 僕 (boku) as my personal pronoun,

in your question that you're hope was that using 僕 will result in others
recognizing you as a man, but my sense is that they will instead take it to
either be something near their perceptions above _or more likely_ a linguistic
error.

In answer to what I take to be the second half of your question re: how to
express "I am a man but look like a woman"

My sense is that there's no easy way to accomplish that but that gender
studies people perceive it as a problem:

  * [One blog](http://kimilab.hateblo.jp/entry/2015/09/30/174326) where the person notes the problem but doesn't have an answer.
  * [another blog](http://hatopia.webcrow.jp/blog/2006_12_20_728.html) complaining of the limited options for women.
  * [blog](https://lgbt-life.com/topics/yamadai2/) of a similar Japanese individual who uses じぶん and the struggle to get to that point.

Maybe to sum it up, Japan is not (at this point) all that adapted to this
idea. I'm sure you can find a few people working in gender studies (both
inside and outside of Japan) who think there are solutions, but the average
Japanese person you communicate with will mostly likely not comprehend what
you're doing as expressing "I'm a man" but instead think there's something
wrong with how you're communicating.
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The professor is completely wrong. In recent times, it's become kinda common
for some women to choose to use "boku", especially if they work around a lot
of men. "Ore", the roughest and most masculine form, is even known to be used
by hypermasculine lesbians. This is not uncommon. "Boku" is becoming gender-
neutral to a degree. So for a trans-male to use boku would be the most normal
thing in the world. Your situation with your professor is what happens when
you get Western instructors teaching Japanese. Pretending to be experts on a
culture they know very little about.

If you really want to mess with your professor, tell him, "Oresama wa kamisama
degozaimasu." LOL
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