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I understand that つきあう means "to hang out with, to date, to keep company…".
I've seen it used both with と and with に, but I haven't been able to figure
out when to use which. So for example, what's the difference in meaning
between

```

    彼とつきあう and
    彼につきあう？
    
```
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word-choice particles
What's the difference between 「〜とつきあう」 and 「〜につきあう」?
There is an important difference in nuance and often even in meaning.

Nuance:

(Someone) **と** つきあう = "to hang out with someone willingly"

(Someone) **に** つきあう = "to hang out with someone **unwillingly** " because you
feel obliged to do so.

Depending on context, 「(Someone) **と** つきあう」 means "to date someone" and when
it means this, the phrase cannot be replaced with「(Someone) **に** つきあう」. That
is unless you are dating that person unwillingly.
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