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I recently asked about the differences between "くださいませんか" and "いただけませんか". But,
I just realized I have a related question.

Doesn't "くれない" have the same basic meaning as "ください"? And, isn't it more
polite, and less confrontational? For example:  
"それを読んでください。" <-- direct / confrontational. spoken to someone beneath you.  
"それを読んでくれない？" <-- same meaning and more polite?

If that is correct, then I can be done with saying "ください". I've got respect
and humility to pretty much everyone, so I'm just going to continue always
saying "くれない". That makes sense, right?

btw: In the case of "見せる", I would say:  
"見してくれない？" instead of "見せてくれない？". Is this correct? Is it like slang, or
something?

thank you.
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"くれない" vs. "ください"
You have it backwards. 〜くださる is the honorific version of 〜くれる.

〜くれない is a tiny bit softer than 〜ください (since it's negated), but in terms of
showing respect, 〜くれない actually less polite -- do not use it with your boss.

Something worth pointing out though, is that 〜くれない could be more appropriate
in some situations where the extra respect actually makes things overly
distant and as a result, somewhat rude or odd (for example, when talking with
friends or subordinates).

(As for 見せて vs 見して, you are correct that 見して is slang, generally not used in
writing but by some people in speech.)
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