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Like probably everbody I have a hard time with Keigo. I get the basic concept
of in-group and out-group and neutral-group but I am really confused about
switching between 丁寧語 and 謙譲語 when talking about things that I would count to
in-group matters because the concern me in some way.

For example I was told that if you introduce yourself in a job interview, you
wouldn't use 謙譲語, so you would just say 来年卒業します instead of 来年卒業致します。Is that
because you would lower your university with you? But if I google it, I find
results saying 卒業致します... x.x

Also when my boss asks me about where I went for holidays, to answer
スペインに行って参りました。sounds "good, but very polite" according to a Japanese friend of
mine and he meant that just スペインにいってきました。 would be better. But he couldn't
tell me why... x.x Is it because, if my boss asks me a somewhat personal
question or wants to have small talk with me, it's already a signal that he
wants a more relaxed atmosphere and I am allowed and supposed to answer in
just 丁寧語？

And one last situation. When asked by my boss if I could finish something
until noon, I was told it's fine to just answer はい、できます。or はい、間に合います。 instead
of something like はい、お仕上げできます。 It's not considered belonging to the neutral
group if someone asks me if **I** am capable of doing x, is it? But then why…

I am so confused ... x.x
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When to use 丁寧語 and when to use 謙譲語　when talking about myself
I think that the first and second examples are too polite to be awkward from
your supervisor's perspective. I think that your boss would like you to be
closer to him. I assume that he might think that you are afraid of him? The
last sentence is just wrong. お+verb is not Kenzyougo but Sonkeigo.
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