 stop, take accountability and ask how we can repair together because I'm here to love you. I'm not, I don't, I have no desire to just hate you and banish you. I will not do that. You are my friend. We live together. So it's become much more like, also, how do I want to raise my kid? And who am I with my kid? You know, I want him to be able to walk around the block and know all these places. So it's also that it's,