 but i don't know but i didn't have my divorce until ten years but it doesn't matter because they took that no but i want to ask you something joy do you would you would you find it admirable behavior if a young lady said i got my first two jobs in the business i'm in now by having sex with a married man would you admire that but i just think that that is a twisting of what actually happened did she have sex with a married man does he brag about giving her her first two jobs