 wow, that's interesting. And then I educated myself, you know, so many of us think it's someone who's very, there's a spectrum of narcissism, which I learned, but we all think of it as, you know, the person who's flashy and has lots of selfies and that can be part of it. So that's why I kind of sort of questioned it at first. I was like, I don't really know that that's what I'm dealing with, but there's this spectrum, right? And it can be covert and it can be, you know, getting people to feel sorry for you and take care of you and sort of vulnerable narcissism, if you will, but not vulnerable in the way that Brene Brown speaks of it, that it's positive.