 But, you know, as I'm hearing you speak, I'm thinking back to the Wheel of Consent book. And you wrote, quote, one thing that became clear was that my sexuality belonged to me. The realization was so sharp that it made me wonder what I had been thinking all those years before. As a woman of my generation, I had learned that my sexuality was always in response to someone else's. Someone else's desire, someone else's idea of what was sexy.