 mm-hmm that well that didn't come up until just recently and my husband because he lived in a family where money was the manipulation yeah so don't let them just forget about it don't worry about it yeah walk away if you get a check in the mail after she passes away then great but i would plan my life as though that money's not coming and i would okay dust my sandals off and go on to the next next thing because it's just not worth your soul