 get in touch with that investment outfit if it's got your name on the account your social security number on the account you're one of the owners simply cash it out and uh then that puts you in where if you get all of that done then you're just in the heartbreaking deal of dealing with an emotionally abusive dad who doesn't want a relationship with you that's the horrible thing and i'd like to just put this out into the world to clarify something that man is not a big fan of quote-unquote dave ramsey