 that um it's not starting in a good place it's not good for him or her because this is good 10 years from now this weirdness is just going to be more weirdness if y'all don't work on it that's probably what sharon and i would do if we found ourselves in your shoes i don't think we would find ourselves in your shoes but if we did find that that's what we would that's what i would do if i woke up there suddenly ouch you're a sweet person you're trying to help that's a good thing make sure you're really helping this is the ramsey show