 I'm out the door and I don't know what you guys have talked about in way of counseling you know I I kind of have this acronym when you're in these situations I always say it's it's a safe acronym about keeping your money safe and it's the SS you need to seek counsel if you are experiencing things like a addiction abuse on F financial infidelity right those are the times to receive counsel and then from there that he is you need to evaluate your options what is it