 something happens, and at one point he writes this letter, you need to stop telling these terrible things about me to your friends, that I'm pulling your hair, that I'm doing this and doing that, and we wonder what did really take place. At that moment, there's an absence of correspondence on her part, so we don't know her side of the story. People in the 19th century often burned their correspondence. Husbands and wives, this was a private matter of their marriage, and we don't have an