 With the new contradictory rules of the road come violations of privacy and inappropriate surveillance. Some relationships experts say. That's right. How much of a partner's online life are we entitled to? And how much privacy is appropriate to give up inside a relationship? Well, let me ask you this. If you saw, and you saw your girlfriend or your wife, and she's liking some guy in a Speedo or something, and that's what she's looking at and everything, would you like that? I mean, we're human, we're going to look and everything, but it's an action.