 and the student fails to tell their new fiancee or is there any other years later doesn't get a job that go you remember that time you said you're gonna pay this loan and i don't know i didn't that's what i think of it as it can hear that all the time don't well that or the student pay in the parents like well i guess i have to pay it and then they're frustrated i mean like it's just ends up being this like tangled mess relationally uh... but whose responsibility once it comes do i will ever promise to pay it morally