 When you're in a relationship, you open yourself up to heartbreak and risk. Saifullah said, if you're snooping because you feel entitled and not have your heart broken, that's more entitlement than empowerment. If you want to stay in a deceitful relationship, Saifullah and others agreed, but looking back on her Bluetooth sleuthing, Gonzales said she'd handle the situation differently. Now, if you can't trust someone, you should just break up. Yeah, there you go, man. Trust. You have to have a relationship based on trust. But there you go. A simple rule of thumb or any other appendage.