 And then I'd say, you have to have a gentle conversation with them, and I call it the formula, the three-part formula, where you start off with saying, you know, I feel offended, I feel hurt when you lash out at me, when you say these hurtful things, and I'd like to ask you to treat me with greater kindness, okay? So I feel when you, and I'd like to ask you to do something different, okay? And