 Oh, my nerves are, you've hurt me. You've kind of, you know, pricked my heart a little bit, right? So the solution to have these, to not avoid the conflict, but to wade into it, but in a gentle way. We call it gentle startup. It's a Gottman invention. I call it having a gentle conversation. There's three parts to it and you have to do all three parts and you have to do it in the right order. The first sentence is, I feel.