 that that sense of identity and and so much of that the things that keep us from being in the present moment are you know who kind of sometimes worries about it what is this person gonna think of me or have I said something that all that with a bad thing to say I wish I could say something else and sometimes we feel you know paralyzed by worry because we're not living up to the expectations we have of ourselves of things we would be doing for our life and and all of those things it all starts with being a child of God and just