 um i'm taking that to heart and uh you know we've been talking and i guess that's my experience and um well thanks for sharing it let me let father uh monsignor bransfield respond to you i i you know i like the advice that patrick gave okay you've done this now you have a special responsibility really try to help that child come to know the lord and and you know grow in the faith um monsignor you want to speak to uh to ann about what happened