 Koch says she grew up as a, quote, tomboy and a black sheep on the Iron Range. The expectations that came with being a woman, like wanting to hold babies and going to the bridal showers and all those, like, societal XYZs that a woman is. And I, like, didn't feel like that is what I was. As Koch got older, she says she realized that she'd been cheating herself and that those things don't define a woman or anyone.