 being solved but they're coming up to the surface we're seeing them and because we're able to communicate well and on the same plan on one area of our marriage like money all these other areas seem to start to have a commonality and that unity starts to be built so it's kind of the chicken or the egg of like marriage stuff and money but this money stuff if you guys can choose to get on the same page it actually can be the thing to help improve your marriage because you're going to work as a team for maybe the first time in a long time