 i think that's really well put and yet something is said that um... it's like a bucking bronco and it takes time you know i i wish someone would have told me that when my kids were younger because there were times where you know i don't have any air left but i don't know if i had any other pulled it out because i was so frustrated with just like i didn't understand why things were happening the way i wanted them to and oftentimes i think family therapy or even therapy one-on-one with you and and teenagers and whatnot