 and honestly I do this here I don't do this everywhere else I could care less for a political conversation outside of work but it it's the perception and people always trying to goad me into something I'm sure the same happens to you but what do you recommend to those folks you know what's your best nugget of advice you got it here's a here's the back of the napkin tip and by the way there's a whole chapter in the book devoted to exactly what you're talking about