 masculine things absolutely you're taking ownership of this stuff you're engaged you're going to be a dad uh you're actually going to show up and be a dad not just father children there's a difference that's right you know you're entering into all these things and so what would you do what you know what's the course on how to do life right that you'd sign up for well i'd get plugged in with some men that are who i want to be when i grow up oh that's true and i and i would you know get a group of guys that i hang out with all the time because you do become who you hang around with so true