 i think for our parents and and a lot of times it is nervousness of the parent right um when you have the first child going off to kindergarten not knowing exactly what to expect i can say you know from my own experience the first one you don't know kind of all all the rules the routines how everything works and then um the next one you you know like oh we've got that under our belt like this isn't you know it's not as scary as i thought but i think just um