 just telling her yes you know you you do have a dad and um well what's his name you know and she wants to see him and i show her a picture and i talk about how i just tell her i don't know what to tell her you know because she's she's too young to comprehend just everything and so i tell her you know that her dad's a really busy man he lives far away because she wants to know why doesn't my dad come visit me and so i make excuses and i tell her that you know he he's a busy man he lives far away and then