 not, you don't make him ashamed. You remind him of his misbehaviors. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. I haven't thought of it that way. Yeah. And you can't, you can't fix that. You didn't cause it. That's a brick he's carrying around and you can't knock it out of his hands. Yeah. Yeah. I'm so sorry. It was just not, the problem is there's not a good answer except, except just, you know, one of us to walk over and knock him in the head. But you know,