 and that you know so that's why i was trying to he's mad at the credit card companies taking advantage of her yeah my mother the credit card company is being able to lend people more money than they make in a year i got you yeah yeah yeah so um what would i do if i woke up in your shoes um i would put your income and her income together when we get married as you said on one budget and i would list these and i would work a debt snowball and i would pay them off in a year