 i'll tell you this great newsflash your instincts are right yes and a divorce is going to turn a marriage into a business transaction and so your best bet now is trying to do this all as amicably as possible and try to protect your assets i think you're doing the right thing to protect your legacy in your financial world and again i'm not the qualified person to talk to for this i'd be working with an estate planning attorney a you know a lawyer who's is specifically in trusts