 whether be our friend group yeah whether it be at the office I think we can all acknowledge today's there are difficult people that we don't have any kind of actual control to be able to to remove them from our orbit is what I'm getting at and so what do we do in a situation like that Jade what do you how do you handle a difficult person that you can't change that person and you can't get him out of the orbit but so how do you do I'm doing two things I am