 And what that does, again, breezing past used to feel to me like a version of toughness. Now I can see what's wrong and be by willpower. Immediately I can change and I can fix this. But what I've learned in my relationship with God is that if I am confident in my relationship with him, if I know that I am forgiven, then I can also have the patience to stop and to hold on to whatever is happening inside my body and my mind at this moment.