 him just leaving a little dave ramsey quotes here and there and hey i'm watching this on dave ramsey on youtube and this that just the little things that smile like you need to do this and like i said once i got my mental health back and i was able to focus more on my family focus on our marriage and realize this is what we needed to do we needed to make a better life for our kids you had to do it from a position of strength yeah mental health wise yes that makes sense good