 secrets will destroy your marriage and if you keep them they'll destroy you yeah and so if something is quote-unquote eating at you you have to have the courage to put it on the table and i want you to put on the table madison with eye language anytime you start a conversation a hard conversation with the person you're married to and you start with a finger pointing you say you you didn't take this seriously you cost me two years of my life with my babies or whatever