 you can end up thinking you're being caring and fair when you're in fact being cruel. There's an old saying that I always, I molest in some ways, but a rough translation of it is this. When you are lenient, when you should be firm, eventually you'll be cruel when you should be kind. So, so let me give you an example of this. There was a case of two young women who decided to go block a freeway in Seattle.