 one thing that really helps me is freaking down a haunting by stages now the misnomer is a demonic thing just come in and start messing around with the house and start pushing things around and the walls bleed and it's like no no no it doesn't happen that quickly in fact it's kind of like a hollywood movie you know the classic trope where the first night you get a couple bumps in the night and the second night things happen a little more and by the end of the week oh my gosh things are just going crazy