 you know well when only when we have a big fight is when i yell at you would say it's my money yeah but other than that i say with our money you know and it's like yeah if you're going to play that that's a power play that's manipulation play and then that's when you find out what's in the heart out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks so when someone is saying something you need to listen because it's coming from inside of them oh yeah because if