 Again, all of this would be fine if he just included that phrase, including me. When he says, we all have to cool it down, we all have to take note, we all have to... We all is a way of evading responsibility if you don't say, we includes me. Otherwise, at that point, we reads as you. When you are in some sort of argument with your spouse, and you say, we all need to... If she accuses you of something, you say, we all need to take responsibility. What you're really saying is you want to avoid culpability.