 and i'm confident that there's a other side of the story that if he was telling his side that's right that bethany you're not your hands aren't cleaning this either y'all have to sit down with somebody and the conversation has to begin with i don't think our marriage is going to make it unless we control alt delete and build a new marriage from the ground up ready go yeah short of that you're not gonna fix it over here and solve this you can play whack-a-mole and if he's listening