 and uh... the next time i see you will be in divorce proceedings uh... unless you're willing to sit down and try to rescue this marriage because i always love the idea of let's try that we'll see if this guy's the real deal when you come to that i think this point you have to play hardball with him and say this is my home i'm in debt as you said i'm in financial distress so in this case jade uh... answering the initial question i don't think you have to sell this house