 at the time so there have been a grieving process for many years for that so i'm grateful that he had the time and i'm just grateful that i had a father that i can say almost nothing negative about it all i don't have any story where it's you know something i had to overcome and i know a lot of people do and i know a lot of people have lost wonderful fathers too just add mine to the list uh... he was my best man in my wedding for a reason he's he's he is anything good that that is in me