 saturday and uh just to go swimming and we did apologize to the host of the party and they were so lovely about it they're like oh my god like we wouldn't even think about that and they were actually asking us they're like tell us which which ones are the moms and i didn't i didn't want to rat anybody out or say anything because i didn't know some of them very well yeah um but boy judgy wudgy i mean if joyce was there