 you're attached to this part of this person that in, in their description is a lie, but you're going, well, that, that lie is all I knew. And now this seems like a lie to me, but they're going, no, this is not the lie. This is the truth. And this is who I am. So that, that process is a difficult one for both parties because the, the, the party who's saying, you know, I was living as a girl and I'm not a girl.