 um the most important thing to us our relationship with god and um the person that you're with the person that you intend to spend the rest of your your life with i mean that's somebody that you want to serve god alongside of that you want you want to grow together as a christian family raising children in the nurture and admonition of the lord that requires i mean two people of course you know i mean i was raised by a single mom who was who was amazing but ordinarily speaking