 The scripture says in verse 15, when Amnon had raped her, after that he hated her with a very great hatred so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he loved her. That is a commentary on the nature of sexual bonding if there ever was one. Verse 19, and Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the long robe that she wore and she laid her hands on her head and went away crying aloud as she went.