 Do you know that Jesus can sanctify the hurts so that the bitterness isn't there and so they become then productive actually in your life? No chastisement for the present seemeth joyous, but rather grievous, but afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of repentance. Jesus said, What I do thou knowest not now, but thou shalt know hereafter. It's God's blessed hereafters that make the difference.