 like you know everything bothers me you know I worry about everything and I think that there's just not enough room and I just have to concentrate on the things that I can control and and that's it because if it's out of your control that's how I've kind of been my mantra lately if it's if it's something that I just can't take care of like even just driving in the car with my husband he gets crazy there's traffic I'm like you know what there's nothing you can do about it