 Um, but it's, it's forbidden. I mean, God says, don't do this. Um, and so of course I know, you know, somebody who's listening right now who says, well, it worked out for me. You know, I, my dated my boyfriend or girlfriend and they weren't, they weren't a Christian at the time, but then they came to faith and now they love the Lord. And so, I mean, I, I have friends and I know that that happens, but that, that doesn't give us permission. It's not an excuse to,