 who can look you in the eyes women who can look you in the eyes and say like okay so what are you going to go do when you say I know this is crazy I'm not a great dancer this happened to me recently I'm not a great dancer and like I signed up for this dance class and it probably sounds innocuous to a lot of people right of like well that's not that big of a deal and for me it was really confronting something it was almost paralyzing and I was sitting out you know in my car outside of this dance class and by the way there were girls who were like 11 you know walking into this dance class like it was no big deal and