 acceptance right it's not it's not the perfect world that you thought it would be you know would be a man and a woman you'd be the same faith and you would have all this perfect you know white picket fence right which doesn't necessarily mean you'll be happy no right no you can you can marry in your faith you can marry the opposite sex you can not be and be miserable so just be with who's going to make you happy and take care of you absolutely so if she's happy i'm happy