 that right spouse is never going to come so we have to worry about ourselves that's also a great mindset because when we worry about ourselves in marriage more than worrying about our spouse yeah a lot of things will start to shift and truly and truly solidify who you are in christ your value your worth your identity you will not find that in your spouse they are not your answer they are not your solution god uniquely knit you together with somebody who can help heal and even redeem you in a lot of areas