 Coming up with me, Shea Rhodes in Outlook from the BBC World Service. Thomas Rongan finds himself through helping others. I never was able to let go and maybe one of my weaknesses is that I don't show a lot of emotion. So I was taught by my dad not to cry. That all changed in American Samoa where their hearts were big. Their acceptance of me was a beautiful thing and that gave me a lot of confidence as well. That's after the latest news.