 What she's saying does not match what you see her doing. So you've got to watch her and take notes. So, you know, we don't all have access to the recipes. But then there's, you know, the matter of being judged for not nailing the macaroni and cheese or even, you know, feeling like your sweet potato pie is not going to be as good as your mom's. But you and your book posit that that's a normal part of the cooking process. How did you come around to that understanding?