 Somehow, self-valuing, being self-assertive, having self-esteem, having a self, selfishness, having that, not someone that runs roughshod over people, but valuing, truly loving your life. Somehow, these are made to seem bad. And that sacrificing for other people, whether it's Cheryl's lazy, slothful, mooching family members, or sacrificing for God, somehow these are enshrined as good.