 And she just needs to tell him that. That's what I would do if it was my family. But she doesn't need to say, my husband and I have talked about this. She's got to bear the emotional brunt of this because it's the only person he can hear it from and come back to later. If you get saddled with the blame for this, you're just going to be the evil, evil son-in-law. Everything was okay until you came along. And you don't understand how it is in our family.