 Quote, Shirley's illness and death were so tragic, I thought you were saying I was too. Of course, you're not tragic, he told me. Was that because my father had saved me before I was even born? I'm sorry I was a disappointment to you, I said quietly. What are you talking about? You stuck to your guns and became a big success. I wish I'd given you grandchildren, I confessed. I have lots of regrets myself, he admitted. That's the back and forth between her and her father.