 have a hard time accepting those wounds? Or was that... No. No. First off, I'm one of those people that obnoxiously vomits their life out on people, you know. So like on your first date, you just went for it. Literally, the day I met her. First off, we both realized, individually, we said to ourselves, I said to myself, I'm incapable of being in a marriage or relationship because I will mess it up. And she was saying the same thing to herself. We both had come grinding to a halt.