 I had not realized how I had kept everything when it came to my personal life, in the sense that I was still subservient. I was still being pleasing to my husband. His needs came first. His desires came first. You know, my daughter said something to me, and it really hurt. I mean, it was true, so I'm very happy she told me, but it was very painful. She said that my voice would change when I spoke to her, like I would get a very girly voice, like