 then there was the actual wedding that took place and then there was a reception i think that really is sort of more representative of the kind of weddings that most indians have rather than this sort of big fat jamboree that we've seen over the weekend that's true nickel but they are big aren't they compared to maybe what lucy is traditionally going to you know my own wedding which was a long long time ago what would i have i had three big venues how many people were