 so sometimes that's also about breaking it down one step at a time somebody might say to me my house is such a mess i haven't had company in months or even years because i'm embarrassed and i'm overwhelmed and when i'm at home i just throw myself down on the couch and i don't feel like moving so we'll pick one small task at a time like can you clear off the kitchen table or can you set a timer for five minutes again and see how much you can clean in the kitchen in just five minutes