 May I say something in defense of her ex-husband, Cam? He's a wonderful father. He is. Particularly when Toby needs him the most. Yes, and she recognizes this, and she accepts and forgives and has to forgive herself, too, which is part of the deal. You know, Count the Ways and Now How the Light Gets In are not thinly-veiled memoir, but they certainly explore themes and challenges that I have lived.