 I think the first thing is to try to give them the benefit of the doubt and don't necessarily ascribe it to some inherent character flaw or that they're selfish or they don't care about you. You know, researchers have found that successful marriages, the people in that practice what are called positive illusions. You know, we quote the advice that Ruth Bader Ginsburg's mother-in-law gave her on her wedding day, in every marriage it sometimes helps to be a little deaf.