 Dear Dr. Kenner, I've been in an abusive relationship for 23 out of 25 years. At first I didn't recognize it. He kept telling me it was me. Over time I have come to realize that I don't love my husband. I have six kids with him, three at home, and I don't know what to do. He's now treating me somewhat better because I almost left. He wouldn't hold my hand or walk beside me.