 I mean, my husband and I both have access to each other's phones. Could not tell you the last time either one of us checked it ever, unless we asked each other to for something. Yeah, I don't have any need to check my wife's phone. Yeah, that whole granting access so I can look through his phone whenever I want, why do you feel the need to do that? You already have a trust issue. If he's doing something especially untoward, he's got another phone.