 is it because they do have wonderful, wonderful qualities. And from a distance, you can sit back and simmer in the light of those wonderful memories you have and the qualities that they have. But they may have some irritating behaviors, or they may have some bad qualities too. And when you get with them, they pick on you, or they have a bad view of you, or there's something that just rubs you the wrong way. So that's one of the many questions you can call me on, dealing with