 you hear domestic violence and people think well this guy's a wife beater you know nobody wants to help out a guy that that's that's hurting a woman so that they try to use that to uh... i think sully or or or sway uh... the situation and ultimately they're appealing to people's good nature same thing they do when they say trump is a threat to democracy uh... it's common tactic and i get it it's a rhetorical thing