 nursing home or which facility is the best what kinds of care do you need what's provided there's just it's it's every person on their own we're all facing the same issues and yet we all have to start from from zero every time we have this problem and so i think that's sort of the i guess if there's a universal here it's that we're all facing the same things and yet we're all starting from zero every time and and that's really the problem here