 Would we be in the same place as we were, we'll say, in the 1970s or in the 1960s? 775-55-59. The texter writes in and says, I think the way our society is structured, mothers are almost darned if we do and darned if we don't. Moms who stay home are shamed and moms who work and dads are shamed if they stay home, if they stay home with the kids.