 truth right now come on ken i think to the extent that you can see that person with empathy and grace and then go i'm not gonna let them bother me bless their heart it's that old school bless your heart your heart oh as you said you said it kill them with kindness yeah whenever you're moving forward like ken said it's a mirror and when you do it they can they can see all the things they're not doing in the mirror of things you are doing this is the ramsey show