 and it's you know it's the holidays and they're staring at each other and you know half of them are afraid to say something the other half can't wait to say something to take off the other side because they're hoping that you know how good i'll get rid of them for once and for all you know i've been in both scenarios whenever people invite me somewhere they think that like i'm a walking talk show host and uh honestly i do this here i don't do this everywhere else i could care less