 do as I say and not as I do, well, that's a really lazy approach to it. But if you know the right thing to do for your kids and you try to live by that example, then you try and be the man, the mom that you really want to be, then it makes you be a better person. If you didn't have anybody else to live for to be a better person, then who are you? I mean, I guess you're a dink then and just going around. And I think societally,