 i think in that process to you also found you i think we hang on we hang on to our old baggage and no one said that we have to be the garbage collectors and bring it with us our entire life we can look at that garbage we can analyze it and we can let it go and say okay i'm ready to move forward in it and that comes down to choices but the most important thing is the hardest piece of the puzzle in life is doing the work because emotions let's be honest they suck