 getting some traction but it's you know at the end of the month we're like where'd it go um we feel like we're not doing anything extravagant but obviously we are it's just seems like fast food and gas stations and then mother's days birthdays etc you know um but whenever it seems like whenever the money conversation comes up there's just a lot of emotion tied to it and it kind of devolves into either emotions or a little bit of finger pointing and things like that so i just wanted y'all's advice on how to kind of get this thing going