 um ouch yeah it was a life lesson close the dream and then you get to pay payments on the dream yeah that's called a nightmare yeah ouch no fun at all wow how long you guys been married about three years just celebrated our three-year anniversary in june okay so after you're married about a year you look up and go dead is everywhere i've had it tell me about your i've had it moment what what was it brought you to the where you go okay we're doing this