 yeah I just I I wanted to see what the relationship was cuz it does feel presumptuous in in many ways to be like a just give me some give me my inheritance in advance like that I'd I could know you didn't bring it up though yeah he didn't bring it up now I'd say I'm granny I'm not comfortable doing alone if you and mom want to talk about a way that this isn't that this is an advance on some of the estate plan and either mom share or my share or however it works is reduced by the amount you want to give me to reduce the student loans