 look at it as an adventure and go do it and say okay we're going to do this for three years we're going to commit to three years and at the end of three years we're going to reassess i mean the new baby will be three we can still move and be near the grandparents um we can figure out if the travel has been too strenuous on anyone back and forth to see family and that kind of stuff um and you know we're while we're having this adventure we're going to stack some cash