 and you're okay so that's all I'm gonna do I'm not gonna yeah and having a budget is smart regardless says what money you have because this is a black hole this can be a wedding can become a it does the next the next so you probably want a amounts that you're like okay this feels right and we're gonna budget around that you know that's a good thing to go back to because that the wedding is one of those things where the players that are involved if you're doing project management the stakeholders are crazy