 yeah and i think it's not intuitive you know for you know some as a caregiver you know professional caregiver and and therapist it's it's hard because i realize that it's not intuitive for everybody right if you know somebody like my mom is going through cancer my dad also beat cancer but he's her primary caregiver i'm always making sure i'm checking on the both of them how how are you feeling dad are you doing okay too you know so now he goes and plays poker every saturday it's a wonderful thing right you know so