 even though you told her he said that you've got to show her with your action she had a you know she had to experience it for a while because for a while she didn't have a vote and i still remember what i wanted to do and so you know we've been married 43 years she said you know some around 35 of them are awesome that's a pretty good track record the more the time goes on the better percentage you have and it's like you know