 synchronicity in relationships and I think we've covered it a couple times with callers like make sure you just don't get romance by somebody who's like you know you know love bombing you and because maybe some of that maybe that chemistry is a little bit of a danger warning too because I kind of went down that road when I said maybe maybe you're a little paranoid maybe you think it's it's fate but like back up enough to just feel what's real right feel like distinguishing what yeah