 key now i always say like i don't take much credit for that like i was i don't know if i was very wise or just like love is blind but you know i just didn't see it any differently it's both of ours well i mean we did it in a little different setting but i mean it was our income yes and i've never i don't remember ever saying to sharon i'm brought this money home i'll decide what i want to i don't think i've ever said that dave i think because i don't believe that yeah equally important