 buying stuff that i wanted in the moment that wasn't necessary and so my question is is um as we embark on applying for a home loan and just building our future my question is how do i forgive myself for falling behind on finances when i could have been ahead if i hadn't gone into debt and how do i stop obsessing over my past financial mistakes how did you do that jade had a lot bigger mess than you did and my mess was bigger than both of you put together