 and the teaching I do I'm I'm really into the teaching so but it won't work if you haven't invested no problem there into your child's work ethic their ability to be generous their ability to save their ability to live unless they make their ability to understand a budget to their ability to frame pictures all over you know hate death I don't know if they're doing all of those things and then you give them a house and their spouses their new spouse is willing to go in on that then