 and uh so on and so you know that's the kind of you've got to have it's a support system you're not sustainable as standalone and uh dr deloney talks about this a lot that we are the loneliest culture at this moment in time and um i don't know exactly if i was gonna i don't know if we need to blame that on something or not um but if you were gonna blame it on something i think i'd blame it on the smartphone i i 100 would blame it on that and the the idea that