 yeah she's a she's a stay-at-home mom she takes care of the kids and holds down the castle okay so she's queen of the castle you're making 280 000 you said how can i budget my money better are you using a budget or is that something you know you need to start yeah it's something i know i need to start i was doing good for a while and then my buddy mentioned he said something about oh yeah you gotta you gotta get this dave ramsey book and i thought he was talking about the chef i said no i don't need to know how to cook he said no not boredom ramsey