 not not it's your fault i mean it would really help if you could make more money but if you say staying home you're indicating that you don't think she's doing much while she's at home and she's not making enough money either so that's problem number one you guys need to get on the same page number two is now he's over here saying it's impossible for him to spend spend less as bullcrap on a stick in a box that's just not true like like