 uh i used to have a cocktail waitress girlfriend i've told this on the radio before too but see outfits matter style matters big time psychologically if nothing else it's it's more involved i'll probably get into it after the break i'll get through the break first but uh you know a lot of people say well i'm not going to wear that that's sexist yeah okay do you remember the outfits they used to wear in the airport restaurants and bars remember yeah that was really cool but then that's sexist we're not doing that