 We start there. Then I think a godly marriage counselor, a pastor, or an actual therapist to go, we have two very different futures in mind, and now we've got to figure out what life looks like when we want to be together, how we get there. Can we both get there at the same time? Probably not. But this is a piece-by-piece walkthrough. Okay, we decided to get married. We love each other.