 and the i deserve the entitlement thing is where always rubs that's where ingratefulness comes from it's like hey i love being here i'm just looking at this and what are y'all seeing tell me tell me what's happening here and you know how can i help and how can i add more value i'd love to be a blessing to this place and uh tell me how and very few people get mad at you when you're doing that this is the ramsey show