 what i said and he's going through he wants that he's 64 years old and he wants to go through bankruptcy to get rid of his debt that's not taking responsibility and i'm like i don't know if he's bankrupt or not but what we've got here is a bigger problem the the debt and the out of control is a symptom of his arrogance and his behavior and the two of you not working together and that's those are marriage issues and really what you're calling us about