 run towards and you're happy about and you both want to do it and it's not like this thing that you do out of panic or fear it's a thing that you do out of this is the next right step for our family and you can take your time and you have think things through and there's choices and right now it just feels like uh somebody pulled the fire alarm and he's like where do we go the election and christian listen i've been there and here's the worst part you go with you