 you leave your mother-in-law leaves now your father's alone and the priest is there and the priest can say listen you're not far from death you need to be prepared to see the lord face to face i'm here to help you get ready so that you go to heaven and i'm here to hear your confession i'll give you anointing of the sick i have holy communion whatever you know however he prepares to do this but i would be persistent and i would push past those obstacles