 not knowing what's coming next and being intentional with like the stages, like knowing for sure, like, okay, we are heading toward marriage. And then once you get to a point, I have this stage in dating that I call pre-engagement, which I totally made up to define this stage that definitely exists where you think you want to marry the person, but you're not quite there yet, but you really want to know. This is when the culture at large will tell you to like move in with them because that's the way to figure out if you want to get married and if you'll be a good fit. That is not...