 People are addressed by their last name. Living on base, your name goes on the outside of your house. On ours, it always said Team Neeson. I saw it every day on my dad's uniform when he would get up and go to work. Your identity comes completely absorbed into your last name. I make sure that my name has value to me. And then as you and your sister were growing up, transfer that to you so that you can understand that, hey, look, take care of this name. This is what I got. This is something that I own as my identity.