 All kinds of terrible things. And I think, so just a couple of thoughts. One is do not place blame. You know, there's a tendency to look for someone to blame and don't blame your spouse. Don't say, boy, if you'd have been a better this or a better that, or if you'd have come home early, or if you would have, don't do that. There's no good that comes from blaming your spouse for not having been a better person.