 am i doing the right thing yeah yeah well god bless you um and uh it sounds like your marriage was a beautiful one and a wonderful one to a great woman 41 years 40 wonderful years yeah well god bless you discernment i think i mean you know um i think you discern these things at the adoration chapel i think that's where you pray about it and you ask for god's guidance i think you don't rush it right you take your time