 yeah are we building up that relationship we're tearing it down we need to look at all of our activities and in light of that one of the things we do we find ourselves crashing on the couch once in a while and not turning on the tv as much as we used to but maybe looking at the phones and you know there'll be things you need to check once in a while but just mindlessly scrolling sometimes we'll share what we're seeing you know here's a funny meme check this one out or so and so would like this why don't you send it to them or whatever