 recommend the couples I work with do, uh, is, is get into the confessional and make a good confession for a couple of reasons. You got to make sure you're in a state of grace. There's nothing blocking the Holy spirit from helping you heal your marriage. Number one, but number two, it's easier to give forgiveness when we've received it. You know, it's like, well, you know, when we walk out of that confessional, how good it feels that we've unloaded, unloaded, you know, all that burden we've been carrying around and got all that dirt cleaned up in our soul. And