 You're not the woman who will make the decision about the caregiver. This is beyond your power, so it's not a matter of sin. And if there's nothing, you know when you can't, when you can do nothing, you know what you're supposed to do? Nothing. I remember old Pentecostal preacher says, you find yourself in a tomb, you lay down and die. You just pray for him and you try to be the best example of the Catholic faith you can be. I would tell him jokes if I were you.