 But you also had to be something of a caregiver. When you were writing your previous memoir and you were in your 40s and he was in his 70s, while you were writing that book, he had had pneumonia twice, a cataract surgery that nearly blinded him. It did briefly blind him, but he got his sight back. He had a prostate infection that was only controlled but never cured and a debilitating case of shingles and a neuralgia that resulted from it.