 I got a letter from somebody. They're anonymous. A relative just graduated from high school and has declared that she is transgender. We're not totally surprised by this. She will be transitioning socially, hormonally, and surgically. How do we explain this to our children who really love their cousin? How do you explain to say your cousin is doing something very wrong? She's going to have doctors cut her body up so that she can pretend that she's a man.