 And I can be present in the moment with my child, my kid, my partner, whomever, so that I don't bring history into the decisions that I'm making with the understanding that we're going to no matter what. So at least acknowledging it, even taking a second to hand on heart, have some self-compassion and say, this one's really hard for me to put aside. I might even say out loud to my kid, this one's really hard for me to put aside because fill in the blank.