 why i'm 41 years old i i've been married almost 20 years why is this still hard for me like why why are emotions still hard for me like uh we were just joking with some friends the other day that have also been married you know 20 years or plus and it's like you kind of feel like you've had every fight there's to have as a married couple and you're like but we still find ways like to come up with new things and so we were just laughing because it's like there's just so much that goes into it you know whether it's