 in our lives so you know i think uh... i think you're doing a lot of good things you're praying your reading up on things are people that are living through this ahead of you and who know the lord trying to give you a right vocabulary in coaching to speak to children around these things and then i think uh... she knows you love her and attention she did not at first finally said it because she she knew it was safe to tell you because you love her and uh... i think that's that's a beautiful thing and i think just