 uh, more difficult to, uh, to be able to act on the, the, that essential need to, to forgive, uh, if it's, if it's not rooted in Christ to, uh, to, to begin with. Mary, thanks for the call. And father, I want to say that she brings up a great point about this setting boundaries. And, you know, certainly, uh, I have this natural affinity for what she's saying, uh,