 people and so that message i think is more hopefully to donald than anybody else that you know as your as your wife and this is tough and i want you to know i think you're a great person and i'm here for you and i see your humanity even when other people don't and good lesson for all of us that when our spouse is going through a difficult time could be a problem at work problem with a boss uh an illness of some sort uh problems with extended family whatever