 we, he has not texted, emailed, called, answered calls, anything since then. Uh, and I'm just wondering what's healthy. Like, uh, the financial thing I don't feel like is what I, what I want advice on. It's the relationship piece. I have three young kids who love their grandpa and, um, can we go for it? How do we go forward? I ended my letter saying, you're still my dad. I still love you. You're still welcome to have a relationship with me and the kids. Um,