 you're going to have a lot of probably negative self talk. Not only are you probably hearing that from the spouse who wants to leave, you're no good, I don't love you anymore, whatever it is, but you may begin to say that to yourself, I'm no good, I'm unlovable or anything else. So I would first say, take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, make sure you're engaging in that appropriate self care.