 If we can be proactive in raising and teaching and talking to our children, then to be reactive. Reactive parenting is just not that good a thing. But so often we default to that, right? So we don't pay any attention to the child until they're in trouble. And then we react, right? And then generally we react with some anger or whatever. We devalue them or we get angry at them. And so, you know, so then kids learn to stay away, right?