 And then finally, and I'd like to ask you to please, dot, dot, dot. What it is you want to do different. So you got to do it in that order. I feel, when you, and I'd like to ask you to please. If you start with number two, when you, that starts feeling a lot like criticism or contempt, which then is going to trigger stonewalling or defensiveness on the part of your spouse. Okay. So do it in that right order. I feel, when you, and I'd like to ask you to please. Okay.