 both husbands and wives. So, I've talked in the past about the four horsemen of the apocalypse. This is a John Gottman insight that there are four behaviors that are at the core for almost all of the disharmony that exists in marriages. There's four of them. Criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness. And in this little vignette that you laid out for me, the two of you stepped on all four of those landmines. You batted a thousand, right? So,