 we are not given, we're not given a, a ticket from Jesus to say, you can hold on to your, you can hold on to this unforgiveness until that person is sorry. He doesn't do that. Um, and he, and he doesn't do that for a good reason because our hanging on to it creates, um, spiritual, emotional, and psychological burdens that the Lord doesn't want us to be walking around with. And so even if that person, uh, is, is, um,