 You did the best you could at the time. You're in a tough situation with an alcoholic husband, and you're doing the best you could. And that's just how things shake out. So do not blame yourself for this. You know, she's an adult now. So she now needs to, whatever the reason why I'm an angry adult, I now need to take some steps to fix it. And in a very real way, it doesn't matter why she's angry.