 somebody to care about you is like if I've got this and then somebody will pay attention somebody will care and what if I don't have this and for others it's it's become an identity it's like if I let go of this who am I this is this is all I've known of myself I think there's a lot of possible barriers there it's so true it's so true I also am a big believer and not only in faith and trust I think that that's what animates and amplifies and empowers a lot of our prayer and