 the lies that they hear from the narcissist that they do believe the actual truth that they are wonderful human beings and they've got these virtues and tell them what they are and send them little notes and send them cards and drop them little love notes and send them emojis tell them how proud you are and and the virtues and the qualities that you notice in them that make you proud to be their mother or their grandmother that's the best thing you can do for those three girls yeah