 the church he is married to the church and so there's a new adam there is a new eve and the fathers of the church talk about the fact that mary is the new eve and by the way this is why jesus calls mary woman in this passage he's not being rude to his mom when he says woman my hour has not yet come what does this have to do with me he's not being rude he's not trying to brush her off this is a theological point that he's making