 and you laugh at me or you ignore me or you criticize me or you tell me i was wrong to feel that way or i'm stupid you know kind of like email we read earlier right what if you don't affirm me what if you say wow yeah you're not too bright are you you know what if you don't say hey wow you're a great person though and i you know did you learn a lesson from the bowling alley excupate i sure did i don't do that anymore