 yeah that's right that's right and i think that there's there's a lot to be said for that and i'm thinking especially one of the ways that i find in my own life where i fail at this is uh exactly what i'm doing now when i'm talking to somebody and i am focused at least i think i am for the moment father but but uh especially if i'm talking if i'm at say a gathering of people and i'm talking one person is in front of me and they're