 it's literally what you know is going to be fruitful for you and what you know is going to be life-giving to you it does not have to look the same way as everybody in your circle you know it doesn't have to look the same we've even found that with raising kids you know we have different kids who have different devotions you know different ways of praying different things that they love now do we still do things as a family and all do it together of course