 We want you to have holy intimacy sacred intimacy within the marriage the church you have to have it Or you can get an only you have to have intimacy in a marriage It's requirement of the church because of the understanding of procreative love and intimacy and fertility, you know people we gift each other I always say you're going to give to each other each other's bodies not just your love your heart and your soul But you're going to gift yourselves to one another completely and you haven't done that yet. So let's make sure the criteria are