 It's also about treating the offender with compassion, mercy, kindness, generosity, and charity, even though the person may not deserve it. Now, they may deserve it if they're humble and they're contrite and they feel really terrible and they're going to make it up to you. Okay, then maybe they do deserve to be treated that way. Sometimes they don't care that they hurt you. They're moving on and they're just not about to apologize or try to change their ways.