 kind of controlling like everything and what needs to, what we're going to do and what happens. And it's like, what kind of stuff that the last few years. And it's like, now I want to be a part of it and being able to make decisions for that. And that's been hard, especially even being from two different cultures. Um, we got married, um, 2001. So there's been many years, but it's like, I don't know.