 lay out some unbelievably great arguments for obedience. And I'm like, okay, I'm convinced. I need to become obedient, but to who? Right, okay, I've got to confess, that's good. So obedience seems to be the surest way to heaven, but how do I do that in married life? Well, for that we can turn to St. Paul and his letter to the Ephesians, where he talks about the importance of loving deference to one another in marriage.