 You know, I was blessed I would walk with the couple and did due diligence, but you always have to build up that relationship first, sort of like, I think, getting to know the other person that your child is probably going to marry, getting to know them, sometimes alone time. The more we have a relationship with someone, the more they will listen to our insights, and we have to remember the reason we call someone with a chastity is especially, I remember telling people they're sitting on the couch, you know, in the rectory, and