 in all honesty if you don't have the option of the part-time um there are a lot of women that i know that are full-time that either that have been full-time and but if her desire is to truly stay at home i would say stay at home with your kids as long as you can and maybe it's until they get into school and then if there is something even part-time or some jobs do have the flexibility where you can work full-time but remotely um