 uh it's based on common interests and it's important in marriage that we share a number of common interests in fact the more the better but it's okay to have some different interests as well in fact that's a good idea because if you know one thing we learned in covid is that even the best marriage if you're together 24 7 you're going to get on each other's nerves right so it's good to have some separate interests some separate things you can do apart from each other but