 Focus on... The idea of being present is really important. You don't have to say anything. You don't have to fix anything. Just to be in the same room. To be available if your spouse wants to talk. To be available if your spouse just wants to sit there and cry. You don't have to dry their tears. You just be there. If they need a hug, give them a hug. If they need you to sit close, sit close. If they need to sit on the other side of the room, sit on the other side of the room. But just be available.