 if we should get married, I think that you're just setting yourself up for really complicated grief, maybe even like a post-traumatic stress situation in a situation where you're not actually letting yourself feel. So breakups, I am so passionate about talking about breakups. I think it's really important when you're discerning marriage to hold space for both. But I think that it really gives you a lot of freedom in your dating if you're able to hold space for a breakup as a potential partner.