 and just said, you know what, father, I just wanted to tell you, um, I was, I was forgiven by somebody in my family for something. He never, it wasn't specific and it changed. It changed my life. The power, it, it, it took me from a place of, of, of just not being able to, to, to, to, to live fully and, you know, just feeling terrible about what I had done. And then the,