 there we go all right that's what we're talking about here i forgive you and i forgive me important do both right because we get it wrong we mess it up and we need to ask for forgiveness and we need to forgive ourselves too because we're flawed we're just we're just going to get it wrong sometimes all right let's get down to the nitty-gritty how to go about the process of forgiveness four steps in the forgiveness process first