 So teach me some language where I can communicate because when I come at you and I'm like, you spent money and you did this, and then she feels like, oh, I'm getting parented, which makes her want to spend more money. Here's the magic word that you're going to hate. You've got to be vulnerable and tell her what you actually feel. Okay. And you have had that trained out of you, appropriately so, but you have to do that in this situation because she's not responding to your charts and graphs. She will respond to your heart.