 and so how old was your daughter when this was going on she was 16. okay she was 16. was she acting out or was she just sort of slipping no she wasn't promiscuous or anything like that she was just slipping from i don't want to go to mass oh my dad's not going i don't want to go right and so i started just really tapping into that and you know thanks be to god my husband converted as well and um because of that she