 but my sister's over here living with a man she is not married to or my brother's over here they're not having children i know they're not struggling with fertility i've been told by his wife that she's on contraception but my parents don't say anything about that it's as if i'm the only one who's struggling and this is why fundamentally you know having grown up in the pro-life movement i saw how a lot of people in the pro-life movement said talk about abortion don't engage contraception because then you'll lose the argument