 in our relationships. And we try to do that with our spouses. We try to do that in our adult relationships. So I think sometimes the tricky thing is to say, well, maybe this isn't about this person that I'm married to now or dating now. Maybe this has to do with the past, something I have to look at. So I think there are probably a lot of books that might be helpful, but I'm not sure one that's popping up for me right now.