 in listening to our side. I mean, he'll listen, but he's just not going to, he's not going to go the extra step. And I told him, you know, in other, in the past, whenever you've made big decisions, like buying a car, going out for apartment, you've always come to us for advice, you know, and this is just one of the biggest decisions you could ever make in your life. And you didn't come to us because you've been feeling like this. He said for,