 For instance, I know you're not trying to hurt my feelings, but when you tell me I'm crazy and I just don't get it, I feel demeaned and insulted. I don't think you're trying to make me feel that way. So we can affirm them, but you use the I statements and we kind of give them an out. Yeah, I don't think you're trying to hurt me. They might be, but start with I don't think you are.