 recommend the couples i work with do uh is is get into the confessional and make a good confession for a couple reasons you got to make sure you're in a state of grace there's nothing blocking the holy spirit from helping to heal your marriage number one but number two it's easier to give forgiveness when we've received it you know it's like we know when we walk out of that confessional how good it feels that we've unloaded unloaded you know all that burden we've been carrying around and got all that dirt cleaned up in our soul and