 kind of talked about a lot in parenting is what you're trying to do with each kid. And I know this blows my mind with, cause I'm like, I raised all of you in the same house, you know, like, and how are you all so different? It's wild to me. It's just kind of so cool. But I, we really say with parenting, you're trying to maximize their virtues and minimize their vices, right? Cause every kid is going to have their own like makeup and DNA and wounds and also like strengths and weaknesses. And, and it's like, how do I take this kid?