 So you're going to remember it, but it's the idea of remembering it in different ways. And when we talk about the how to forgive, we'll talk about how those different ways are to kind of look at what the person did. And forgiveness is not an exchange. It's not, I will forgive you if. And I see that a lot. When I work with couples, one partner will say, you know what, I'm really sorry. And the other partner will say, oh, you didn't mean it. Or you weren't genuine when you said it. Or you didn't use the right words. Or...