 We play checkers or whatever, but we do spend time together. And the other part of philia is emotional safety. That my heart is safe when I'm with you. You're my best friend. You're the place I go when things aren't going well, when things are dark, things are worrisome. I need comfort. I need someone to pick me up and tell me how great I am. I know where to go. I go to my spouse. That's the love of philia.