 not going to protect my heart. You're not going to soothe me and comfort me when I'm vulnerable, right? So man, it's hard to be vulnerable. And it's really hard in marriage too, because we're married to someone who has defects and doesn't get it right sometimes and lets us down sometimes. And so we tend to start protecting ourselves because I'm not feeling as safe or secure as I should. All right. So we need to constantly be striving towards deepening and building more emotional intimacy.