 she thinks that it's wrong for my husband to ask her, would you like a glass of water? Would you like to drink a soda perhaps or something else? And she, she makes comments like that. And I'm thinking, I think that's normal. That's just being polite. It's called hospitality, madam. You could say, yes, yes. And I don't know if we, if I, if my husband and I should speak to them together or speak to my son alone, um,