 It's my husband's father, and my husband works. We can see him on the weekends, but my mother-in-law will almost 100% likely be present. Try this. Here's a way to do this. Invite a priest to go with you to visit your father. Don't tell your mother or your father ahead of time. Let the priest know, hey, here's what's going on. My mom and dad are very cavalier about this. They're naive.