 And we may not always be able to see that, but let's go back to the examples I quoted. The man can say, okay, things were actually great until that happened at work. For the woman, things were going fine until I spoke with my daughter and that didn't go well. You can make decisions about how it started, helpful decisions that can better those situations. And then finally, suitable parents, Ignatius calls it, instead of just fleeing from the desolation,