 but you're doing something that prevents me from being there to celebrate. Yes, I love you. Yes, I want to celebrate, but it's going to be an invalid wedding if you don't follow the church's canonical form. You as the parents are not responsible for the problems that ensue. I hate to put it this bluntly, but it's true. It's your son or your daughter who refuses to do what the church asks. Nope, sorry, not going to do it. They are the ones who are causing the problem.