 Other people foolishly don't go to the church and try to solve the problems themselves. They usually fail to do so, and they only make it worse. So let's go humbly to the church, to the church authorities, admitting I don't have a solution. It's this humility and sincerity which will make us persevere. That might also mean going to the priest in confession, when we don't have a solution to the problem of our own sins. But Mary stood weeping outside the tomb, and as she wept, she stooped to look into the tomb.