 Um, that was a lot with my mom. Um, and, and, you know, I just, it was, it was just that way then. And I think it was harder on the women, but I think now men are just expected to sort of take on some of the role, you know, of, of, um, of a lot of it, of being the spiritual guide as well as the, you know, you're, you just don't take the time off to go fishing and,