 you know it's an elderly parent and that's always a hard yeah and that's a i mean that's a hard place to be when you're you know it's that sandwich generation right it's you know and you know adult kids you know if they have them you know come back and live with them because times are hard now and you can't buy a house and then the parents are failing health-wise and you're happy you know what i mean it's that sandwich generation so if you it's weird i just spent an hour and a half this morning recording for pat's place pat had summit