 to growth in others and also in ourselves. We have to be open to getting to know someone before we cross them out or getting to know someone before we become so infatuated we start planning the wedding and obsessively spending too much time with them. It also confuses and makes a little murky the waters of discerning whether or not this is someone you're interested in marrying or not. I'm not saying it's easy, but we have to have hope.