 you know whatever you know i stayed up late last night uh after you told me to go to bed i didn't do it i said i read a book and i'm going to get in trouble what i'm learning that is if i volunteered things i'm doing i get in trouble now my wife i'm not going to volunteer things i'm not going to tell her because uh-oh getting in trouble yeah i mean she's not my mother but i i what i've learned is not disclosing things that might upset you is the way to stay safe yeah