 it's a it's a different world and even thirty years ago ten years ago we don't know where it's going but we can be with christ wherever it goes and we can keep kids and other people we know if you will quote-unquote safe uh... in a lot of ways so i think that your modeling for callers that if your mom and dad don't get discouraged but we have to get smart we have to get holy we have to get preemptive and also very well informed with healthy and good but secure boundaries and a lot of that is around not only