 shove it down your throat. I'm not going to, you know, I'm obviously not going to make you uncomfortable and you know, I'm going to love you, love you, love you, but you're always going to know where I stand and you're always going to, you're, you're always going to know that I love you and you always, always are going to know where I stand. But also at the same time, you are always going to know where to find me when you need me. And that has been so beautiful in my life because sometimes the family members or the kids that you think aren't listening are the ones that show up and say, Hey, can we talk?