 the negative will outweigh them. And so part of what that means is that we need to tell our kids often that we love them and we need to praise them, not grotesquely in a way in which it's disingenuine or they do something bad and we praise them anyways, but we are often recognizing their gifts and their qualities, their traits, their attributes, and we're praising them for that. Agreed. I could not agree more, which is why reactive parenting is