 But saying them and saying them the way you said them makes him feel disrespected and that somehow he's screwing up and doing things that he shouldn't be doing. So please do not misunderstand me. I am not blaming you for your husband's behavior. He was very much wrong in this situation. But your question was, how could you move forward? And I think that's the right question. So often when I work with couples, the question is, what do I need to do to fix him?