 You're just jealous and insecure. There's nothing to worry about here, right? They deflect the criticism and paint you as the problem. I hear this a lot with couples if there's an affair going on. That's a pretty common phrase. Another one I hear a lot is, well, I'm sorry you feel that way. Well, that's not an apology. That's a deflection, right? I'm saying I'm sorry that you're so dumb to feel the way you feel.