 to refocus ourself inside and then being able to just it kind of just goes out you know it moves out around you as wrinkles to the people around you and obviously your kids and your family are very close to you they see you all the time so they know if you're on track or not and they remind me that i'm i need to keep working on it and i remind them very i think nicely i don't know that they need to keep working too and we have our own we can help each other out in this journey