 Um, so I, I can kind of like, we can all giggle about it. My mom, my grandma, all of us, but there is kind of that element of, I think with our world and just how I, it can be hard to navigate all of the anxieties and the, also the pressures. And, you know, I do a lot of ministry with young adult women, with women of all ages, with men, you know, marriage ministry, we, we kind of,