 there's got to be an understanding and an acceptance on the front end that yes, something wrong happened here. All right. Something, something wrong happened here. And I was, uh, and, and, and, and I was hurt. And so then, then taking that next step and I'll call it a, quite an intellectual step, if you will, a step of the mind that says, I know I need to forgive. All right. I've been, I've been hurt. I know I need to, uh, I know I need to forgive. And, um,