 much of it is rooted in that. Well, if I, if I forgive, then this is de facto giving permission to this person who, who has hurt me and, or, or that I will forget it. Well, you know, it's not, it's not necessarily, it's not necessarily forgetting and it's certainly not, it's certainly not denying the, the, the wound and the, and the hurt that was happened. So I think that there's,