 and you agree that it would be better to do something else, and then yet you persist. And up to this point where I really started to resent the interactions, and I just didn't want to have this role anymore of being her counselor. I'd put in my time, and it just wasn't working, despite trying to be inventive and approach it at different angles. And I remember if the phone would ring on the weekend at the time when she would normally call me,