 for people to step out and say something that goes against our culture because then all of a sudden you're judgmental or you're rude or you're mean or you're you know you know it's the it's the hard conversations at thanksgiving with your extended family right where it's like well we're gonna go to mass for this holiday and everyone's like oh yeah you're churchy or whatever you know it's like you know to be able to say like yeah we're doing this for nine days like i'm doing this for 30 days i'm doing this consecration for 33 days