 of forgiveness. And, and I think that, um, uh, you know, if we, if we kind of go back to that, to that three steps of, of, of just recognizing, you know, the recognizing the hurt, knowing that we have to do it and then asking God to, um, asking God to help us. I think, um, you know, I, I, I think that part, part of it is, um, yes, you understandably and desperately want, um,