 um granting forgiveness i mean failing to failing to grant forgiveness failing to forgive somebody is like like swallowing poison and hoping that the other person is going to get ill from it you know not yourself and so um you know forgiveness is such a such a a huge um habit to develop and i always say that i'm a pro at asking you i'm sorry do you forgive me i'm sorry do you forgive me and and sometimes it seems insincere but