 direction so it's more like well we're not saying that you can't or that's a sin or there's anything wrong but really you shouldn't because you want to rebuild america and make america culturally what it was in 1953 and the way to do that is have you know ward cleaver marrying whatever his wife's name was and and giving birth to beaver cleaver you know and leave it to beaver becomes the the american ideal so there's this like it's like this pressure like well you don't have