 Do you think I'm doing a good job as a young adult?" Let them have that conversation, but don't use this as a proxy, otherwise you're going to make yourself bonkers doing that. Please, really, don't expect for you to be the solution. If it is, it's wonderful, but it's highly unusual. The only possible way with the people closest to you is to not tell them what they're doing wrong, but instead just tell them about your story.