 left in your house or the reverse if your parents are in their 70s or 80s and aging parents is the next year or two yeah i would totally consider that i think you have to live in this tension that we don't talk about very often there's not really a bad option here and both options you're going to gain something you're going to lose something and whatever you do decide you got to make peace with it and then go all in on it and don't go but what if we had stayed what if we had gone you just got to make peace you'll be all right thanks for the call rachel this is the ramsey show