 so that they are reconciled with you, it's you forgiving them, so that you're not burdened with the weight of all the ugliness, sadness, or anger. But it has to start intellectually. You have to understand what that means, and then you have to not dwell on it each day, and you need to find new things that are motivating and promote who you are each day, and not to be tied down or twisting in the wind because of something someone else did to you.