 is not being careful, they could actually harm life. But if they're doing everything they can, it's really about preserving life. So divorce is really about preserving the relationship and not taking it lightly. It's about not going into marriage lightly and thinking that it's disposable. It's about understanding that becoming one is a very powerful thing and that you don't get to keep doing it over and over because you give yourself away to somebody each time and bits of you go with them