 sickness and health and richer and poorer and stuff like that that's what we took our vows for i don't remember that part but you know i mean i was a little nervous so but my point is is that i don't know what i'm supposed to do what i'm not supposed to do how i'm going to get him to talk do you have any words of wisdom for that because i don't want to share my accounts with him if he's going to continue to pull out money and use it on whatever he's using it for because it ain't coming here yeah i don't know