 if that's all you give to your kid then they just you know there's just there's no bond there there's nothing there's really no debt that they have to you i'm sorry um and they can just ship you off to the nursing home and put you out of sight and out of mind like you did to them maybe they'll choose to forgive that's always good but if they don't well that's on you but this scenario that i just described is one that probably doesn't apply to most or even a large preponderance of the cases where an adult child is kicked out of the house