 for me i had a roommate at the time i remember at one time uh on day three oh you didn't have a wife i did not at the time no i was i was i was uh still in graduate school and uh my roommate came to me on night three she ended up staying four nights and leaving on day five he came to me on night three that says said i am ready to take a shovel and a pick and i'll get your mom back to indiana