 the sort of the gravity of the moment uh... but you know i just said you know man that fist pump that uh... that fight uh... after getting shot uh... everyone thinks they're a tough guy especially these days with the internet uh... but watching that that was true resolve and i just told him i said that man i think you're the biggest badass i've ever met i couldn't be more proud to be your son uh... and you know that was sort of the icebreaker and finally everyone was like okay like we can be a family and have some fun and you know