 relation obviously relationally obviously you're not the best place she doesn't feel that she is you don't have any respect for him to be making money during this time he's a schmuck because he slept around on you uh... and so relationally you got those things to overcome for this marriage to survive if it's going to survive but mathematically you're in the best place you've ever been because you know with his income if you if the marriage survived with his income and your income if you both decide to manage money together you could clean this mess up rather quickly