 what's going on and then with her birthday i go and i've probably started around here you know but then afterwards you don't leave them depressed because you tell her look this is how we're going to fix it it doesn't always mean a breakup sometimes it means the universe is pushing you in a direction to be your own person so your intuition you know you have to be responsible when you're dealing with people and you know you could really screw somebody up is there something that you will not tell somebody