 Well, so much of it could be, it can be a look. It can be, it doesn't even have to be words. It can be an eye, the way you look at her. Or even your, your own, your posture. Yeah. You know, we're imposing, you're larger, you know, I've never used your, your stature to. I remember Jean saying that to me regarding the kids, you know, she goes, you're a big guy. When you're upset with the kids, get down on a knee and look at them eye to eye because I think you're like intimidating them. Right. And that's not what you want to do. Same thing in marriage. Yeah. Especially, you know,