 to be the problem here. Women are so good at looking at themselves first. Men's egos, I think we tend to say, yeah, this is the woman you gave me, God. So in that context, dealing with the shame and the guilt, how does a woman kind of move beyond that and have maybe that discussion and start to talk about what's happening here? Can we figure out what's going on? Well, the problem is that, as Erin mentioned, we internalize it. So we look at ourselves as the problem,