 Here's an excerpt from The Selfish Path to Romance by psychologists Drs. Kenner and Locke. It is very important to communicate constantly, even on difficult topics such as thoughts of flirting or worse. Some benefits of such open communication are it promotes honesty and integrity. You are not attempting to live a double life. You are not faking an attraction to your partner while secretly fantasizing about having an affair with Sherry or Jay.