 What should he be thinking about if he's going, oh, they're describing my marriage. Yeah. And you think about she might be feeling some shame and guilt and I'm not good enough. Imagine what he might be feeling. I mean, there could be a lot of shame if he knows there's a hidden secret or just I'm not hitting the mark and I want to be successful in my marriage. I want to be a good husband. And so for both, like Sherry is saying, educate yourselves. Talk to trusted,