 and he comes to you and says hey i'm going to pay off all my debts and maybe that tiktoker is george campbell by the way but i'm going to pay off all my debts i'm going to start putting some money in some roths let's exhale that's our ego and let's just be happy that dad's making some better choices with money if it's about hey i need him i this is going to be my avenue for him to be proud of me finally have that conversation with him ask him directly daddy are you proud of me