 um you know what i feel like this is more of like a learn about the arena question than an advice question but honestly for for love and dating it's really complicated because a lot of your friends want to be in love with you and it's really it's hard i've had a lot of friends who act like friends and then all of a sudden they're like hey if you if you don't date me we can't hang out anymore and so for me like if you're gonna be a friend be a friend you know what i mean yeah