 She says, I've never spoken to his wife and I don't know how she feels about me. So notice that having kept the lie at the beginning, not trying to find out who was the biological father, has ricocheted through your life, this is Kathleen, and has made it so that at the age of 29 you have to find all the puzzle pieces, find out which ones are accurate and put them together, make sense of it, and then move on and enjoy your life with your husband, hopefully.