 i start having to suggest and of course that's okay i don't mind that i'm not complaining but i'm saying that's a close friend if it's just this vague kind of yeah kind of out there and even then sometimes when it's kind of that vague i'll say me and sheila bringing dinner tomorrow we're going to be there at six o'clock if that doesn't work for you got to let me know yeah and then then sometimes they'll go all right thank god yeah and then sometimes they'll say well we got four other dinners tomorrow night's not a good day but i'm going to be specific that's exactly what sharon did yeah that's exactly how that works