 we did we talked about my first discussion we actually talked about abortion without ever losing our minds yes i was so blown away that we went there but story core encourages you to go there in a way that you're not trying to change each other's opinions but you're trying to see where are you coming from why do you believe what you believe now at the end of it i realized okay you're not a monster and she realized i'm not a monster and i that was my deepest fears