 So I would totally put yourself first. Value yourself. You may want to stand off a bit while he gets his divorce. It will make it easier for him, too. I know people who've been in your situation. They put their relationship on hold, put a moratorium on it for a little while, while he goes through a divorce. Then he doesn't have to lie. Well, he will still be lying about the past, but he's not currently in a relationship.