 The person said, we had problems. So they're focusing me not on the good aspects of that relationship but on the negative ones. It'll bring me down in my current relationship. I don't want to spend, I choose not to spend my time rehashing that. It's not a benefit to me, even if it's a benefit to them. Assuming I didn't rape them. No, I'm a woman, so that wouldn't be the case. But if there was real damage done, then you would need to deal with the forgiveness aspect and you could build amends.