 Now, what if this guy, her husband, were to apologize to her? What constitutes a good apology? Think of the people in your life who have apologized and you felt, oh, that fits. That feels right. I accept their apology. And what constitutes a bad apology? Well, what if he said, you know, honey, I'm sorry I made the last three years miserable. There, I apologize. Now get over it.