 Here's clinical psychologist Dr. Ellen Kenner. You've heard it all your life. How dare you be so selfish? You should think of others. All you care about is yourself. What emotion do you feel when you hear this? Of course, guilt and some anger. Then you hear that Emma's such a nice girl, she never thinks of herself. She wanted to be a travel agent, and instead she moved in with her nasty grandmother and is taking care of her. What a saint.