 uh or or by helping in the home in some significant way that isn't just cleaning their room once a week but actually you know depending on your situation in your home maybe there's maybe you have an adult child who was 18 or 19 who could be helping in the home in some way again in some significant way and if that's all happening then in that case making them leave automatically at 18 is crazy you know in that case if you kick your child out