 the more you end up suffering as though they are still happening. And this is where these conversations, you know, it takes 30, 40, 50 minutes. And there were times I really felt like at an intellectual level, she's following me. You know, my mother's a bright woman as well and would be able to say, I see this, I see this, you know, maybe I don't, I should stop, you know, focusing so much on, on, you know, what your father did. And then there'd be, you know, a pause, you know,