 We too often want to be angry at the person we perceive as causing the problem rather than at the problem. Umpire Bill Guthrie, after a rookie threw his bat into the air to protest a called strike, said, son, if that bat comes down, you're out of the game. Alexander Zhang said, to forgive someone involves three things. First, it means to forgo the right of striking back. One rejects the urge to repay gossip with gossip and a bad turn with a worse turn.