 having a church family a community around you and here's the thing i get it like anybody listening to a general follow jesus i'm not into that i really don't care being in a place where people will love you and care for you such an answer that it's a place where you can go when you need somebody look after the kids is a place where you can go if you need somebody to help you go down the car dealership in by the right car somebody who has a car that they're selling it someplace where you can go where your heart broken and people will put their arms around you and pray with you