 trying to communicate something hopefully I'm gonna communicate with somebody else that maybe has a similar feeling out there so when you're writing about something that seems maybe as banal as how to pack for a trip or how to eat alone in a restaurant right even when I start to write it I'm thinking I'm gonna write an essay just about eating alone in a restaurant and how I learned to do that and my feelings about that so as I think about it as I'm writing it it actually brings up