 this is not god's plan and uh... anymore than it would be if somebody struggling in marriage uh... a man and his wife are struggling in marriage we can say well obviously you're not supposed to be together you know find somebody else no that's not what we say is christians as christians we say no god has put you together you need to love each other you need to work on it and it may never be perfect but that's okay this is not about finding bliss and perfection and at any cost uh... it's about