 And this is what I want. And so when we, especially as we talk about teenagers, it's just so important that we recognize that this is the goal of the teenage years. And as a parent, what we want is our child to be well adjusted. We want them to have confidence. We want them to go into their adult life feeling like a million bucks. But often we undermine that without realizing we're doing it by becoming too involved in their success and their failures and wanting to fix every failure and wanting to take credit for every success.