 but the the choices that have to be made are very difficult on both sides number one he's changing who he is when it comes to money and then two he's just changing who he is yeah and the money will be that's true and then three or two for her she's got to like there's a side of her that the forgiveness on this is tough and the ability to go okay we're starting a new thing i've gotta hold up my end of the bargain i can't keep holding old stuff over the head but at the same time i have to let that in like that is a very hard line to walk