 adult ADHD that's so powerful and having that open dialogue with your partner and saying look these are some of the signs and symptoms it's not me it's not a character flaw it doesn't mean that I don't care about you that I don't value that I don't respect you but I'm going to need some support and I'm going to need you to point out when this is happening so that I can self-regulate and the great thing is that when you have that information from others