 From Susie in Florida. She says, I'm at my wits end with my husband's spending. We got married young and back then I assumed the poor choices were due to his age. I thought over the years that he would learn from his mistakes, but he hasn't. He recently racked up $125,000 in non-housing debt. And it's not the first time we've refinanced or sold our houses two other times to clear his debt.