 The debt and the out of control is a symptom of his arrogance and his pride and the two of you not working together. And those are marriage issues. And really what you're calling us about is what to do with your marriage. And I think you need to get some coaching from a godly counselor. And you're a person of the book like we are. And so someone that's going by the book, the Bible, and saying, okay, godly wife does not include abuse.