 with self-effacing remarks like teenage girls have this habit of saying so they don't seem like they're bragging or that they're full of themselves that they're like oh i'm not good at that or always mess up at that or oh i don't like this or my hair doesn't look good or blah blah blah and i don't think with my older daughter i don't think she's fishing for compliments and i've even told her during lessons when she's working with a private coach on like her volleyball