 question and that is i'm not going to live in the same house with you sleep in the same bed with you until we're married because it's against my values and that's an okay answer it's not it's not prudish it's just it's who you are and you're allowed to be you by the way here's the alternative that we have seen time and time again well dave we've been together for nine years and we live together and i just don't know if he's ever gonna that's what happens well and you know i'm still confused about who owns the mustard