 that's a hard one and one that every single kid's going to encounter and so this is one of the questions in the book is at what age is it okay to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend and if you're talking to your kid about this you know at 12 years old before they enter junior high you can have a very open and honest conversation and then revisit it again when they're 13 14 15 16 and you can even go deeper in at what age is it appropriate to start having a physical relationship