 Um, because the bottom line is you're going to feel that numbness. And I, my major concern when I deal with this whole thing is that the individual who's going through it doesn't begin to pick up negative habits or, or express their, their, their grief in negative ways. And by that, I mean, you know, going on a binge drinking, sleeping with people or yeah, right, right, right, right. So the best thing you can do is to talk about your grief.