 devastating in the sense that when a close friend criticizes you it can really hurt it can also hit home in a way that makes you listen and perhaps that's what seth moton is hoping for here in his opinion piece he explains that joe biden has long been a close friend and mentor that they would often meet and the president would break into a big wide grin and say how glad he was to see the congressman but last month that all seemed to change when they met he said the president didn't seem to recognize him