 The people you're going to attract to you or whatever, it's not going to make your life better. Well, right. And that's what I tried to teach my daughters. The whole, I have the right to dress like a slut. You know, you don't get to rape someone because they're a slut. All of that is unquestionably true, of course. But it's called provocative for a reason. Put aside your pretensions as a Wellesley grad in women's studies.