 It is helpful to separate ourselves from the action or the decision that the other person is making so that we don't react in an overly sensitive way, which really takes away from the other person. It's making it about ourselves instead of about them. And that's not a good thing. That never bodes well in a relationship. Always be thinking about the other person and it's not about us. And so if we separate ourselves in that way, it might be easier to tolerate the decision