 you know, without looking at each other face to face, they think they can say just about anything to one another where it wasn't like that. When I was growing up, we didn't have that opportunity to just start to writing to strangers and telling them, giving them a piece of our mind in without even having known who they were. So where is this coming from? This division in, in your mind and, and tell us really what the premise of your book in terms of what you think is, are some of the solutions.