 But my favorite is to create a list of all the qualities that you need in your partner. Now, this is easy. All I have to do is look to my parents' marriage and then decide what I don't want. My partner has to be loving. He has to be respectful. He has to be funny because it's sexy. He has to be mature and confident, you know, not insecure or jealous around my friends, especially the men. And he has to be understanding. That's it.