 now whatever is going through but he's learned to go back and say hey buddy you know i i want a little too far there i'm really sorry now that's something that he never was given as a child was you know hey confirmation your your feelings matter and if i went too far i'm really sorry about that but do you understand why daddy said what he did and same thing for me you know i i'm you know when i'm in the kitchen and i'm doing six hundred things i work at three o'clock in the morning steve you don't know much about me but let me tell you i'm up at two thirty every day and i work at six in there actually three in the morning