 want to feel that way it's um it's it's sad and depressing but we are and and i'm you know we sit around and try to you know pin it on what we think it's all about is whether it's politics or whether it's the advent of you know the internet and everybody's on social media and you know without looking at each other face to face they think they can say just about anything to one another where it wasn't like that when i was growing up we didn't have that