 so as far as I'm concerned you keep working part-time as long as it takes to launch him that's really what I think it should be or you know you might have an age in your head it might be like okay until 26 but like you know that's for you that's a long time that's eight years right so maybe it's like you really want to give him five years you're gonna say babe yeah I got you for five years and after that we're gonna work to get you on your own and launch him also to become financially independent and that means you know you got to do a little