 that the relationship has got to be much, much, much, much different. And listen, that's just human nature. Men and women use each other in the beginning until the use starts to fall away and then they hate each other and a lot of times they'll get divorced and go and do it again. And there's no goodness that comes out of that because then the children are broken and just a horrible chain of events on and on and on and that's the way it's been forever. But I get to the point now where I realize that