 I am meticulous about covering my tracks. As pornography use soars, some men feel their behavior is moving from a compulsion to an addiction. They describe how this affects their health, happiness, and relationships. Just the first paragraph. Tony is in his 50s and recently did a rough calculation of how much of his life he has spent looking at pornography. The result was horrifying, he says. It was eight years. I can barely think about it. The sense of failure is intense.