 this is not the way god wanted you to be and that's why a lot of these people are struggling in life and they don't know why they're struggling and it's because they're living a degenerate life and they get tricked by these fake christians and saying you can do and be whatever you want to be and i think people with with the with the mentality of christ will say i love you enough to tell you the truth because i don't want you to suffer i want you to live the fullness of what god has called you to