 open-mindedness and forgiveness and all these traits that you want to but this is unique because this is also you know I want my daughter to know that I fought for her and I want her to know my story and I want her to know that I stood ten toes down and I dedicated my story to her so someday she can look back on this and you know maybe admire her mother for standing ten toes down and giving her story telling her story and for her sake solely for her