 There's the old guard of parenting and there's the new wave of parenting, and there's bad in both. Some people's old guard of parenting is, my kid need to go through what I went through so they can be tough like I'm tough. No, no, no, you went through that already. You should start your kid off on a higher pedestal. I'm not saying you should bait him and have your kids eating out silver spoons and they are entitled brats, but you worked hard to get your kids to the next level.