 why have you written this book what is the importance of coming out of the shadows for you because this has got to be tough it is it's very tough and um it gives me lots of anxiety but something i'm dealing with it's because you know i have a daughter that i have to i have to be her voice have to stand up for her and when you have a child you realize all the things that you want to teach them and instill in them like resilience and every strength and um