 and i think you're being emotional there's a whole lot of things you're accusing him of here so i think you need to go on the same page but the answer to your question is can you afford a nine thousand dollar car if you're paying cash for it yes you can in your situation and so no i don't need to talk him out of it uh but you may need to talk him out of which car he's buying because you don't like that car you should be aligned on that before you make a major decision together