 What were you achieving by doing that? What were you teaching them? I'm teaching them that I believe in them, that they have a good brain in their head, and they're going to use good judgment. This Focus on the Family broadcast will continue in just a moment. Where is Jesus in your marriage? God gave us marriage as a sweet gift. It's supposed to be a covenant relationship that a husband and wife enter into with Jesus. Too often, we get caught up in life, work, and raising kids, and we leave Jesus behind in our marriages.