 And so and wives don't control husbands and husbands don't control wives as much as they'd like to. And as much as it would be awesome if we could pull it off, we just can't do it. And so what we've got here is, as you said, you know, selfish and immature guy who's putting his own impulses ahead of the good of his family. Have you guys reached out to a counselor? That's what you need.