 You know really I think we're doing a better job of communicating on an ongoing basis about what's going on in each other's heart And that really sets the stage for when those things do happen We can lead in grace a lot easier because now I'm fighting for what's going on within her heart You know James 1 19 and 20 says this it says to be quick to listen Slow to speak and slow to become angry but verse 20 says because human anger does not accomplish God's righteousness And I think we miss that a lot