 this this will do it it is a financial epiphany if you want to start reading from the same sheet music instead of having just musical chaos in the house wondering what the flip's going on this is it it's that shared thing we both look at for accountability and go we both agreed to this and if we stick to it we're going to have this thing called money and i promise you if you're married your spouse is not like you if two people just alike get married one of you is unnecessary