 and and some girl time doing something you've never done before you've got a lot of cash to be able to do a really fun trip and celebrate you celebrate all that you have still and and and just do something fun for you i just i really think that's a good idea and like our friend dr john maloney says you gotta grieve what was the picture of what you thought it was gonna look like and now we've got to have a new picture of what's what's the next 30 years going to look like for connie