 because i'm i'm reacting to something that's not even true we actually literally had an argument a week and a half ago where this was the case and we were please tell me what was this argument well okay so that was with when landon was three years old when he was a toddler now we have micah who's a three-year-old and we're just you know we have another one we have another one of those and he's in we were arguing about his discipline