 You start by practicing it at home to find common ground. That needs to be your goal. And one of the things you can do is take a breath before you blurt out something that you're afraid that you're going to regret, rather than just impulsively start an argument. With empathy, you need to find trust. And to just blurt something out is, you know, it's very rough for people to take. And you respond, you don't react.