 slogging through the learning process okay but here's what you have to do in that situation if you can get to the point where you realize that this is a hurting person and they're not happy with their life and they see your progress and all your progress does is remind them of their lack of progress by the way folks i'm getting real right now some of you all are dealing with this trying to get out of debt and your friends and family are being haters yeah and you're going what's the deal and it doesn't make sense because they're supposed to be for you and they still are