 the individual that that you helped but not in a way you expected it's always okay thank you Cheryl and thank you for for what you're doing to help other people but Aisha and I'm looking in your eyes I'm guessing you're gonna say something maybe about boundaries or that that comes at a cost well I was gonna say is sure you're the exact person that I'm talking to when I have these exercises because yes those things are true you do get this benefit from helping other people it feels amazing for some people