 such an answer that it's a place where you can go when you need somebody to look after the kids is a place where you can go if you need somebody to help you go down the car dealership and buy the right car somebody who has a car that they're selling it someplace where you can go where your heart broken and people will put their arms around you and pray with you it's a place where you can go when the election is going crazy and you don't you are fearful of the future there's so many things that come up in normal everyday life that i mean we said all the time you don't want to go through life alone