 knowing i think you know not to be cliche but it's really half the battle if you know what to expect you know what what's coming next you know the the phases of the disease and how it you know progresses and that's very helpful because outside of that it's kind of like guesswork and and it could be a scary time a challenging time but you know you still walk away with some beautiful memories anyway uh... monica i want to thank you for the call i have to hit a pause right here but we're coming right back