 about what a really cool, prosperous future would look like. Does that make sense? Then talk about what. But husbands typically, we're the worst. Sometimes wives do it, but it's usually husbands. We talk about what to do, because we're going to jump in there and fix it. And so Dave Ramsey says you need to sell your car. Yeah. You know, and that crap, then you turn my name into a cuss word, and I didn't even do anything. You know? Right. And so that's, you've got to sit down and talk about, let's talk about big picture problems