 Adopt a plan. Now, here's what I would do if I were in your shoes. I'll add one last thing to this. Those of you that are facing something where you're trying to advise your parents and it's hard for them to listen to you, the powdered butt syndrome and all that, don't talk about their failures or what they need to do or what's wrong. Talk about what you did. Say, Dad, here's what I did.