 it doesn't count because someone else benefited from it we don't know how to give ourselves a benefit or a care that does not include someone else okay and so i i don't care what it is i don't care if you said that you went and got your nails done a crazy color that no one else likes but you i don't care if you said that you went and you got a bag of hot cheetos and you ate them in the car before you could see your kids