 Mike is not stupid, Deb said. Mom, Lucy said patiently, you know what I mean. Yes, Deb said, I know what you mean. But you've got to know what I mean, too. Imagine if you found yourself in the middle of China somewhere and everyone was trying to talk to you, but you couldn't understand them. And everyone thought that you were stupid. But you were still just like you are. How would you feel?