 now how's that for getting off talking about your solitude as a kid but no but let's talk about travel a little bit yeah venice yeah venice well i you know i say i think candace uh thanks candace and it was paraphrasing but yeah the idea was you know we build things up in our heads so much often when we travel you picture something to be so fabulous and then when you get there inevitably you know there are moments where there are things about it because you know that let you down a little