 The two of you being on the same page and him putting you and him as a family unit ahead of everything else starts the conversation. That's where it is. Leave and cleave. It's an interesting study. Look it up. The number of people who never leave their mother, never leave their father after they're married, and the damage that does to their marriage relationship, it's everywhere. Yeah, 100%. And it's hard to do it when you live in the basement.