 Right. In a way you're, you're trying to be receptive to something bigger than yourself. You're trying to see how, you know, if you're doing it from the eyes of faith too, it's, there's a sense in which you've been invited to participate in an act of grace. That's, that's bigger than you, that, that you're, you're trying to get out of the way through prayer, through, you know, when you get stressed about, is this going to be good or not to surrender that and say, God, I mean, you know,