 cooked up and so yeah i agree but it sounds like he's at least trying to communicate in different ways and not just come at her harshly every time and go hey listen you yeah you borrowed money from the mom and i would i don't know how honest he's being with how it makes him feel and i don't know how much of a vote yeah she lets him have in this marriage it sounds like he doesn't have much say yeah and so he has a right to be angry and 100 percent