 you know insert bad situation here right it's like you've got to clear that up and i think if you sit down with her and say listen things are all over the place right now i'm about to have two months where there's no salary you know you thank you for the money that you're bringing in but if there's a way to get it up but i really want us to work together and here's what that means for me i don't you know i know that you have worries and doubts and fears but i'm not going to be the person that tries to control this i want us to both look at it together 50 50 when somebody comes to you and says 50 50