 You think God doesn't know what's going on? This mandate in Ephesians 4.32, be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you, it's a mandate for you to use grace orientation. Living grace, dying grace, saving grace, surpassing grace. I don't have time to go through all of it, but it's there. God provides grace for you, and you can use impersonal love