 is their reality. And you can't all of a sudden tell them, you know, or have them relive a death over again. How many times have I heard families, you know, mom keeps talking about where's dad and he died five years ago. And I, I just go, then dad's at the store. It's okay. You know, to accept their reality. And I think that's one of the things that families, I remember for me, I was always wanting to be accurate with everything. Correct. I learned, um,