 and when he gets to heaven he's like god why didn't you save me and he's like bro i sent you an airplane i sent you a boat i sent you a guy to come get you and you said no to all of it so anyway and listen if you're let's say if you're buying toys and i'm sure that's four wheelers guns guitars grills whatever that yeah those are those are purchases that you need to sit down and talk through with your spouse and um