 no we we were not we were not i was not i was not around um okay so he was just he was single and and she lived with him um so we have one child we are expecting our second one in october um and i'm self-employed my husband's still in the army um but we came mutually to the decision that in august because my job is pretty physical that i'm going to stop working and then i'm only probably going to go back maybe one or two days a week