 You're flexing various muscles to make air come out through your vocal cords. I'm saying things, they're coming across, they're vibrating through the air going into your eardrums. Your eardrums are reverberating. All these things are happening and you're processing it instantaneously and we're sharing meaning. I can know you because you're telling me something. You can know me because I'm communicating something. In marriage it's the same way. I think the challenge is