 So much of it can be a look. It doesn't even have to be words. It can be an eye, the way you look at her. Or even your own posture. Imposing. You're larger. Never use your stature. I remember Jean saying that to me regarding the kids. She goes, you're a big guy. When you're upset with the kids, get down on a knee and look at them eye to eye because I think you're intimidating them and that's not what you want to do. Same thing in marriage.