 i think this is where clay and i were talking about this because i'll just say this we're gonna i'm gonna ask carrie if she has a single friend who ever dated a 30 year age gap yeah 30 is a lot but i told clay in new york city a 20 year age gap of course we're talking about people you know post college and and forward but so you know starting at about age 20 21 22 when people finish college um