 that, you know, I feel like is probably even more so as women, when you're growing up, you think like, okay, I'm going to go to college. I'm going to get married. I'm going to have two kids by this age. And you know what I mean? You have a picture of what your life's going to look like. And every single aspect of my life did not go as planned. And I came to realize, okay, you're so miserable, Heather, because you are not,