 taking time for a little play and that's not relaxation I think we're getting better at like this whole idea of self-care or however you want to call it where you take your long baths you drink your tea you get your massages the men are men listening to good things are like no we don't you guys go hunting and fishing and get along and just turn off the noise I get I get that that's not the same but no play is like where you have fun and you like not necessarily you