 so as far as I'm concerned you keep working part-time as long as it takes to launch him that's really what I think it should be or you know you might have an age in your head it might be like okay until 26 but like you know that's for you that's a long time that's eight years right so maybe it's like you really want to give him five years you're gonna say babe yeah I got you for five years and after that we're gonna work to get you on your own and launch him also to become financially independent and that means