 So there's a, it's interesting, scripture talks about loving your enemy as you love yourself. And people kind of, you know, look over that and don't understand that you have to love yourself and know yourself. Not be egotistical, not be narcissistic, but you have to love yourself before you can love others. There's a lot of things going on here, more than we can tackle, but I would tell you the basic steps are to reverse the ones that you've taken to get there.