 and i don't know what it is and he said okay we'll get undressed and put on this hospital gown and then lie on the bed and we're going to do some examination what if you said to him nope i'm not going to do that um i want you to fix the pain but i don't want to go through the indignity of putting on a hospital gown and taking my clothes off that's embarrassing i don't want to do that you wouldn't do that would you you'd say okay