 Take the lowest seat at the banquet. That was pretty clear in our Lord's teaching. Become the servant of your spouse with acts of kindness. Be the one who's there to serve your spouse, to be kind, to do good things for your spouse. Kill them with kindness. Third, read and pray about humility and develop a love for him. Humility comes to those who ask for it. Humility is about honesty and really knowing yourself first.