 create those problems absolutely drew especially in some of the younger couples nowadays because they haven't had the proper models as to how it should be lived and so they're trying to figure and and uh i would say phil felt found their way through these situations and there's so many difficulties and and we kind of express again the way we live our lives and many of those couples do go back and kind of take on some of those traditional roles you know you kind of spoke to earlier you know with the way the economy is nowadays almost