 marriage with you and um how how can we go about doing that and just get her into this conversation about what do i need to do different and how can we deepen our marriage etc um and i don't want this to be a commercial thing but i've got a you know my marriage tune-up course uh on the marriage and hinter website could be very helpful it's a way to get some therapy without going to a therapist and have some good conversations so you might find some value in something like that