 Number three, I'd say do not engage during emotional outbursts. I mean, these people, it sounds like your husband is pretty good at using emotion, using anger to try to control you or shut down the situation. And it's just pointless. I mean, when he's wound up and all that kind of stuff, you're not going to accomplish anything. So I think just disengage. Just walk away. Don't take it personal. This isn't about you. This is about a brokenness in him where he has to try to control you. So don't get...