 um and being able to right if it is you need to get tested before you come back home or before we're together or whatever um then we really have to kind of hold firm to that because i think that kind of consequences are in boundaries is really what helps reinforce um that the addiction is bad right and we want people to be able to experience the consequences of their addiction yeah right i mean here's the thing i mean he is sick he's got a brokenness in him sure