 That's number three. Number four is defensiveness. One of my personal favorites. I'm pretty good at that. You know, it's not my fault. It's everybody else's fault, right? And here's the deal. You can't solve a problem if you don't own your piece of it. Maybe you're only 10% responsible for the problem. Maybe you're 50%. Maybe you've got 80% of the responsibility. This is one of the tough ones when I'm working with couples where there's been an affair.