 Stonewalling. Why are you so cold? Stonewalling. So criticism and contempt are the first two of the four horsemen. The third one is stonewalling, which is shutting down. This happens when I get flooded. I get overwhelmed. I don't know what to do, so I just shut down. When I get flooded, I get overwhelmed. Then I drop into fight or flight. I don't want to get into a big fight with you now, so I'm just going to get out of here.