 And you label the emotion, uh, when you talk about what your spouse does and finished by saying, and I'd like to ask you to please, that's the formula I feel when you, and I'd like to ask you to please that can heal a lot of, of your conflicts and at least get you to a point where you can have a, uh, a conversation, uh, without, you know, triggering, uh, the four horsemen. Right. So, um,