 well hey you know if that's what the boy could afford he's got to put a roof over her head he's got to take care of her you can work hard i'm just saying yeah no i'm but all i'm saying is shouldn't the focus be on the fact that he wants to spend his life with her not the size of the ring but they are all focused on the size of the ring because they're conditioned to the size of the ring not the commitment by the person