 doing things for him but he would like uh for example he would throw the the food in the garbage and i had just made him food and he would throw it in the garbage and i would pretend like oh it didn't bother me i would just keep on going instead of taking care of the situation but i thought i was doing the right thing because you know oh i'm brave i'm strong i could handle this and uh the thing of it is that yes the thing of it is that when everything changed