 i'll jump in too anna this is a great question about you know disagreements and really you know hey i know what i'm doing there's a beauty to a woman's intuition and motherhood especially if you helped raise your siblings but i'm in a similar season of life i have a three-year-old and a one-year-old and i almost find even though i had younger siblings i was very involved with my younger siblings and they were very little we've had tons of cousins and kids all around my whole life