 You've got to accept the fact that your partner's broken. They've got defects. That doesn't make them a bad person. You've got defects. It doesn't make you a bad person. But we've got them. We've got to be, you know, tolerant of them. I believe, I don't know there's any theology behind this, but I believe that God gives you a spouse whose defects are the ones you most need to acquire the virtues you most need to get into heaven.