 you know i don't know where we're going to go from here nine years went by pretty quickly where 10 years goes um we'll see in 10 or beyond where do you see this ending or how do you see this resolving you think there'll be a day when marriage one day is is once again you know it seems like the toothpaste is out of the tube right now how do we get back to you know what has been a long-held understanding what marriage is all about do you think we'll ever get back to that