 Then the positives, and that's the crazy thing. And one of the things that John Gottman discovered was that in really successful marriages, the ratio of positives to negatives is five to one. There's five times more positive things going on in that marriage than negative. And for every one negative interaction, there's five positives. Those are the good marriages. Marriages that end in divorce, the people who don't make it, the ratio is one to one. It's not an abundance of negative. It's just there's as many negatives as positives, and that's too much for us to handle.