 to your question, the answer to your question, was this right? Well, if we're looking at, did this conform with the teaching or the law rather, not the teaching of the church, then yes, it was, it did conform to that. If we're saying, was it fair or was it the right thing to do pastorally given the fact that your mother, your stepmother, you know, was not at fault for the ending of her marriage and all of those things? No, I mean, I could understand why you would feel that way because she wasn't even Catholic