 pattern that he is living beyond his means. And I don't know where to stop that at. I don't know. And nobody's telling me, they're telling me to combine pastors are telling me that, you know, we're in there for sickness and health and richer and poor and stuff like that. That's what we took our vows for. I don't remember that part, but you know, I mean, I was a little nervous. So, but my point is, is that I don't know what I'm supposed to do, what I'm not supposed to do, how I'm going to get him to talk. Do you have any words of wisdom for that?