 when he thought he was giving his blessing to Esau, his firstborn, that's a momentous thing, and it can be a formal sort of thing, it can be an informal sort of thing. But this is not to say that parents don't have a special standing, but it's superstitious if you ask me. I had to shake my head when I read that part of your email. For her to scurry away and tell the father, you need to unbless her, there is no such thing.