 and they had a very successful relationship in terms of coaching but this was the foundation of it it was to really identify you know what what are the pillars of what's upsetting you right now and we can put words to it we can we can understand it and that process in and of itself uh it's called affect labeling by accurately labeling your emotional needs that in and of itself is therapeutic that actually makes you less anxious and it calms down your amygdala