 boy that would have been difficult for Mary and Joseph for instance to you know lose their child that was difficult I wonder what Mary was thinking in other words you bring the distraction and you just gather it up and you bring it back to perhaps a core element or an aspect of the particular mystery you're praying that is to not disassociate the distraction given that it's a you know not just thinking about what I'm having for lunch so to speak but it's a distraction something that's on your heart but bring that as