 emptying the dishwasher, vacuuming the floor, straightening up the magazines on the end table, whatever it is. We're just constantly trying to do some nice things. You know, washing out the bathtub, cleaning the shower stall, whatever it is. But the more small acts of kindness, the better your marriage is going to be. All right, let's move on to eros, which is emotional love, infatuation. This is the desire for physical union.