 primary one working outside the home in the breadwinner and then um I decided we both just felt like it wasn't working um I was getting burned out and my husband was the primary one at home and it just wasn't fitting him and so we switched um and I still work some but just a lot less so now I'm the primary one home um my husband is able to work outside the house a lot more and we kind of share a lot of different roles in order to make that happen that's great how's the marriage