 for you from your own perspective bringing you grace you know you're in a sense inviting grace into her heart so that she can hopefully turn back to the lord and allow that that suffering to become redemptive um we can't make choices for other people obviously uh we each have free will but at the same time there is as as patrick you were saying earlier in the show just like that a beautiful communion of saints where we're able to kind of connect with each other and there's a connection that you have that god has placed in your lives with your own sister willed from all eternity