 hand him back the rake, he said, no thanks dad, why don't you go ahead and finish. You're almost done. We had a good laugh over it, but man, I learned a couple of important lessons that day. First, there are two important parts to parenting. The first is to be clear about what you expect from your kids. But there also has to be a point where we have to step back and decide we're okay with the job our kids have done.