 and do some right things in that relationship we're going to find a lot more it's worth the investment it is definitely even if the other person is a real turd ball you'd be surprised how that comes around very very few people are horrible people just because they're horrible yeah very something's driving it right if you're smiling at him and you're staying calm very few people will keep giving you the negative pretty soon they'll calm down and be oh i'm sorry yeah and then you can get on to the same footprint on the same time we're