 You have to eat it. Whitewash it or eat it. Yeah. You don't have to lose yourself in that. It's where you focus your solution. So in counseling, I have a couple that come in. I'll say, give me one or two things on the list. Cause they'll usually come in at their dirt bag list. Right. And I get it. Dirt bag list. They all have to unload their baggage. It's cool. I get it. And after the first session, we're done with that. We put it on the side. Okay. I got your download list. Now talk to me about what you like in each other. If they have one or two things that they adore. That's it. One or two. You can build a marriage again.