She really has  this er  attitude which  I cannot understand because erm a a as I think it was Al Reeve said, you know, erm some people can't bear children, we can't, but we like them  but if you have actually borne children, you are in other words a mother, you've gotta have a  attitude, not only to children in general but to your children in particular, which is very very difficult for  er a male to understand and a non-father, it's gonna be very very difficult cos I personally don't have any children at all and therefore it is very very difficult for me to even comprehend but  given that I can erm I can sympathize with something I do not comprehend  it must be monumentally difficult for her