Actually we are not the most feared. If we were, there would be little terrorism. Sad but true, that the middle east and dealing with radical religions is not fixed by being nice and understanding. They see being nice and understanding as a weakness to exploit and kill. You'd think they would learn their lesson that this is not the case but over 1000s of years this has been their life. This is why they never developed a democracy. I think Turkey is the only exception in that reason.