I believe he is saying you can't by love. It has to be real,it's an action that should be happening all the time. Anyways, I'm kind of all over the place here. I'm just a little fired up because Mraz is my absolute favorite artist. He is the most talented musician out there and the nicest guy. I have had the pleasure of meeting him. And I am completely shocked that anyone could listen to his music and think woman hater. That's what Eminem and Ludacris are for.