Repost? My original comment isn't here. After listening to your entire video, I'd vote for NOT going to see her. You are coming thousands of miles from the UK to CA, I would let her know exactly what time you are going to be at the airport and ask her if she wants to come see you. Let HER make the 20 minute drive. If she won't even do that, then as hard as it might be: try to forget about her and throw yourself totally into the rest of your trip.