My homeschooled children are more involved in extracurricular/social/community activities than they ever were in public schools, and are engaging, well educated children. This is the norm. I have yet to meet a hs'ing family like what you describe. Educate yourself before you spread broad, stereotypical myths. You might find an alternative for your own kids, and if not, that's okay, as it's a tremendous responsibility that not everyone is cut out for. I'm at thinkaware dot blogspot dot com