The problem in my experience was not me but everyone else. They noticed the change in me. I did the mistake of telling them stuff that I believed. Though not real to them everything that goes on with the mind and senses to you makes you believe it and is totally real to you. They kept telling she's gone, she won't come back it made me angry that they didn't believe and as it takes feelings to extremes, well you get the picture. I was in love all over again and they ruined it.